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THE STORY:  I was 18 years old and about to graduate. A boy I had a crush on my entire year, asked me out in April of our senior year! We began to date and my inner dialogue was, “Oh wow! I can’t believe he likes me!”  “Oh my gosh, I can’t believe he’s my date for the prom!”  Not once did I think he might be lucky to be dating me.

Throughout the next four years, our relationship went through a lot of ups and downs so I kept working on how to be enough. How to be better. How to be worthy of his love. We got engaged and married after we graduated from college. Four years of marriage and two children later, I discovered that I had lost myself. I had forgotten who I was. I was so much less than who I had been when he first asked me out. I was so committed to my marriage I was willing to give up anything about myself that might not be met with approval by others. I let my co-dependency override my identity. I allowed myself to become so unhealthy within that relationship that it had no chance. And our marriage ended.

It took a lot of work to learn what parts of myself contributed to the end of that relationship. I had to pull myself out of shame cycles over and over. In the midst of bad things happening, it’s very hard to see the blessing or gift in the pain. But the growth and healing in the valleys of our life give us an opportunity to be more. To rise from being a victim of unforeseen circumstances and step into a stronger, more courageous person. Our pain can be so blinding, and it often prevents us from finding the wisdom and grace that is in that space at the very same time.

Give yourself a place to heal from a broken relationship.  Give yourself the love and grace you need to heal. But learn to love yourself as much as you love others. Don’t think you’re being selfish or self-centered when you take care of yourself. For me, I didn’t learn to take care of my own needs… but began to define my okay-ness as “I’m okay when those around me are okay.”

The key to being capable of feeling the depth of our pain is trusting yourself enough to be okay even in the midst of falling apart.

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THE STORY: When I was just 3 years old, I went to a father/daughter banquet. After dinner, they had little competitions which thrilled my dad because he was a coach and athlete and fierce competitor. The race involved a race for 3-year-olds. We had to roll a peanut ten feet across the floor to the finish line, with our nose! I objected. And as I stood up, spoke my truth, and chose not to do the race, I saw my dad’s disappointment.  From that point on, I decided not to ever disappoint my dad or anyone that I loved, ever again. That was the birthplace of what grew to be my codependency. I was not okay if I knew I might disappoint someone. I began being a people pleaser. I’ve had a huge fear of letting others down for my whole life.

What began as a shameful experience, turned out to be a beautiful gift that would carry me on through life in an empowering way. But the moment I felt that shame, I carried that forward as well, and needed to do the work to heal it.

1. When do you give up your own truth or choices in order not to disappoint someone else?
2. How does codependency impact your life and relationships?
3. What stories do you remember from early childhood that you still play out in your day-to-day relationships?
4. What affirming words have you been given that you hold onto?
5. Who can you write a letter to and affirm that person?

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This episode is mostly to introduce ourselves and give you some background about who we are and how we came to create a podcast! Later in the episode, we started with this quote:

“May you never forget that when it was hard, and when you were overwhelmed, and felt afraid, and walked alone, and felt invisible, and didn’t have the answers, and couldn’t see the way, and wanted to give up, you kept going.”

Have you ever had moments in your life where you felt so lost, so out of control, so ill-prepared to handle whatever it was that was right in front of you? It felt so vulnerable for me. All that there was to do, for me, was to surrender.

Remember the times in your life that you had to draw on courage, and strength, and faith to get to the other side of the hard parts of life. And then don’t forget that you can get through just about anything. And you don’t have to do it alone.  Learn to be a good witness to our own stories, but others’ stories as well. How do we transition from telling the story of a complex, horrible experience, into a story of gratitude for the gift of that same experience? How do we honor our journey with Love?

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With Love, Jenny is a space for healing stories that nurture human connection, inspire emotional wellness, and encourage personal transformation. Each episode shares real experiences of resilience to remind you that you are never alone on your journey.

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With Love, Jenny is a podcast designed to build a community through sharing our stories. We are connecting to each other by opening our hearts and finding common ground in our humanity. We’ll cover topics that are uplifting, inspiring, and thought-provoking, as well as stories that address some of the hardest challenges we face in life.

What we know is that our stories provide wisdom, growth, healing, and transformation, along with a big dose of courage and hope. Together, we will learn ways to transcend the sorrow that comes with difficult and challenging experiences. We will laugh, cry, and share insights as we find new perspectives that lead us to a place of healing. Our hope is that you will be liberated from some of the heaviness you carry in your heart and begin to embrace the wisdom and compassion that offers grace and peace.

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With Love, Jenny is a space for healing stories that nurture human connection, inspire emotional wellness, and encourage personal transformation. Each episode shares real experiences of resilience to remind you that you are never alone on your journey.

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Instagram: @wholehearted_coaching
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