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In this episode, I discuss the challenges and opportunities brought by changes in life, Because life is always a balance of positives and negatives (50/50),  how we think about our circumstances greatly influences our experience.

I encourage you to recognize that you do have choices, even if they might not always seem ideal. Feeling stuck or overwhelmed often results from a "thought error" where we trick ourselves into believing we have no options, leading to feelings of frustration and resentment.

I ask you to answer this honestly: "How much time do you spend in "BS mode" (Blame and Shame)?" where you either blame yourself or others and feel powerless. 
Instead, I invite you to bring in some curiosity by asking, "What are my options?" This question opens up creativity and helps us see possibilities rather than limitations.

I provide practical strategies for managing responsibilities, such as creating flexible schedules, outsourcing tasks , and establishing a routine that works for everyone. 

I also stress the importance of self-compassion during times of stress and change. It's ok for our brains to feel scared about new situations, but we can use our prefrontal cortex to plan and reassure ourselves.

And I remind you of  the comparison trap, particularly with the curated perfection seen on social media. Instead, I challenge you to define your own version of success and what feels good and manageable for you.

Another key principle I share is to aim for "B-minus work" rather than perfection. This concept, inspired by Brooke Castillo, is about recognizing that doing a good job (80%) is often sufficient and trying to achieve the last 20% of perfection can be disproportionately draining. Simplifying and balancing efforts across different areas of life can prevent feelings of being stuck and overwhelmed.

In conclusion, I encourage you to make life easier by defining your own standards of success and balance. Embrace what feels natural and easy without guilt or comparison. Understand that while pushing through discomfort can be beneficial, it's equally important to simplify and streamline where possible to maintain overall well-being.

Thank you for tuning in. If you're interested in exploring how to reframe your thoughts to better serve you, visit withoutjudgmentcoaching.com to book a free 30-minute discovery call with me, or find the link in my Instagram bio. Let's work together to help you become your best advocate and live the life you want.

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I’m Virginie Fite-Georgel, and I specialize in helping neurodivergent women in leadership reduce stress and quiet their inner critic. Through my personalized 1:1 coaching, we’ll work together to build your unique toolbox, empowering you to find clarity, boost confidence, and unlock your full potential. Together, we’ll move you out of chronic stress and into a space where you can make bold, confident decisions.

Curious to learn more? Let’s connect! Schedule a free discovery call with me.
I’d love to hear your thoughts—feel free to share your takeaways or insights on social! (I'm mostly on LinkedIn or Instagram!

AND finally  if you want to help me or show your appreciation through something else than a review or a share, I have just created this page for you to get me a coffee: https://lnkd.in/g4p3s6Xj TIA 🙏🏼

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Thanks for listening today!
 
I’m Virginie Fite-Georgel, and I specialize in helping neurodivergent women in leadership reduce stress and quiet their inner critic. Through my personalized 1:1 coaching, we’ll work together to build your unique toolbox, empowering you to find clarity, boost confidence, and unlock your full potential. Together, we’ll move you out of chronic stress and into a space where you can make bold, confident decisions.

Curious to learn more? Let’s connect! Schedule a free discovery call with me.
I’d love to hear your thoughts—feel free to share your takeaways or insights on social! (I'm mostly on LinkedIn or Instagram!

AND finally  if you want to help me or show your appreciation through something else than a review or a share, I have just created this page for you to get me a coffee: https://lnkd.in/g4p3s6Xj TIA 🙏🏼

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On this last day of the month of May, there’s a saying I love and wanted to share with you, even if just for a couple of hours.  You can take it into June as I’m going to talk more about our image, including how we feel in our bodies and how it affects us and our success, however we might define it.

Here’s the saying for the beautiful month of May:

“En may, fait ce qu’il te plait “- which translates as “in May, do as you please”

Originally talking about the weather and one shall dress for it, it is interesting to me how the idea of pleasure can change our perspective on things.

So lets’ dive into this topic that’s crucial for sustaining our motivation and interest in our professional lives:  how do we define and find pleasure in our work?

• What is Pleasure in Work?

Pleasure: "a feeling of happy satisfaction and enjoyment."

But pleasure isn't just about fleeting moments of happiness or satisfaction. It’s deeper. It’s that feeling of being truly engaged, where time flies by and you’re deeply immersed in what you’re doing, also described as a state of flow by some. It’s about finding joy and fulfillment in the tasks and challenges that make up your workday.

For some of my clients, especially nonprofit leaders, pleasure might come from seeing the tangible impact of their efforts on the community. For others, who are considering a career transition, it might be about discovering new passions and aligning work with personal values to see the impact of what they're doing everyday.

• Why Pleasure Matters?

- it sustains motivation: When you find pleasure in your work, it’s easier to stay motivated, even during tough times. This intrinsic motivation is powerful and can keep you going when external rewards aren’t enough.
- it reduces burnout: Pleasure acts as a buffer against it. When you’re engaged in tasks that are enjoyable to you, you’re less likely to feel exhausted and disillusioned by your work.
- it increases creativity and productivity: You’re more likely to think outside the box and come up with innovative solutions when you are having fun.
- it contributes to your overall  Well-Being: finding pleasure in your work contributes to overall well-being. It enhances your mental health and makes work feel less like a chore and more like an integral part of your life’s journey.

• How to Find Pleasure in Work?

- I like to always start by an assessment and in this case, I ‘d recommend you Identify Your Core Values. Understanding what truly matters to you is the first step. This might be social impact and community support or it could be creativity and personal growth. Aligning your work with these values is crucial.
- Seek Meaningful Work: Look for tasks and projects that resonate with you. This might mean taking on new challenges, volunteering for projects that excite you, or even considering a career shift if your current role doesn’t align with your passions.
- Cultivate a Positive Work Environment: Surround yourself with supportive colleagues and mentors who uplift and inspire you. A positive work culture can significantly enhance your daily pleasure in work.
- Incorporate Joyful Activities: Identify and Make time for activities that bring you joy, even if they’re not directly related to your core job responsibilities. This could be a creative hobby, professional development courses, or team-building activities.
- Reflect and Readjust: Regularly reflect on what aspects of your work bring you the most pleasure and which don’t. Don’t be afraid to make adjustments to focus more on what you love and delegate or minimize tasks that drain you.

PS: Finding pleasure in your work isn’t just a nice-to-have; it’s a must for a fulfilling career and a balanced life. 

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I’m Virginie Fite-Georgel, and I specialize in helping neurodivergent women in leadership reduce stress and quiet their inner critic. Through my personalized 1:1 coaching, we’ll work together to build your unique toolbox, empowering you to find clarity, boost confidence, and unlock your full potential. Together, we’ll move you out of chronic stress and into a space where you can make bold, confident decisions.

Curious to learn more? Let’s connect! Schedule a free discovery call with me.
I’d love to hear your thoughts—feel free to share your takeaways or insights on social! (I'm mostly on LinkedIn or Instagram!

AND finally  if you want to help me or show your appreciation through something else than a review or a share, I have just created this page for you to get me a coffee: https://lnkd.in/g4p3s6Xj TIA 🙏🏼

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Thanks for listening today!
 
I’m Virginie Fite-Georgel, and I specialize in helping neurodivergent women in leadership reduce stress and quiet their inner critic. Through my personalized 1:1 coaching, we’ll work together to build your unique toolbox, empowering you to find clarity, boost confidence, and unlock your full potential. Together, we’ll move you out of chronic stress and into a space where you can make bold, confident decisions.

Curious to learn more? Let’s connect! Schedule a free discovery call with me.
I’d love to hear your thoughts—feel free to share your takeaways or insights on social! (I'm mostly on LinkedIn or Instagram!

AND finally  if you want to help me or show your appreciation through something else than a review or a share, I have just created this page for you to get me a coffee: https://lnkd.in/g4p3s6Xj TIA 🙏🏼

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In this  week's episode, following mother's day in the US, I bring you some tips and insights, drawing from a timeless quote, "a l’impossible nul n’est tenu" ("no one is/should be expected to do the impossible"), sharing why I believe imperfection is so important. 

Whether grappling with neurodivergence or striving for achievement, my message for you today is: you owe yourself compassion, not the burden of the impossible.

Then, I invite you to braindump all the things you wish you could delegate and pick 1  where you could ask for some help right now. Brainstorm some ideas to put it into action and let me know what a difference it makes.

Have a great WE!

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Thanks for listening today!
 
I’m Virginie Fite-Georgel, and I specialize in helping neurodivergent women in leadership reduce stress and quiet their inner critic. Through my personalized 1:1 coaching, we’ll work together to build your unique toolbox, empowering you to find clarity, boost confidence, and unlock your full potential. Together, we’ll move you out of chronic stress and into a space where you can make bold, confident decisions.

Curious to learn more? Let’s connect! Schedule a free discovery call with me.
I’d love to hear your thoughts—feel free to share your takeaways or insights on social! (I'm mostly on LinkedIn or Instagram!

AND finally  if you want to help me or show your appreciation through something else than a review or a share, I have just created this page for you to get me a coffee: https://lnkd.in/g4p3s6Xj TIA 🙏🏼

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 In today’s episode, I want to talk about my first favorite mom tip.

When I was about 10 years old, my mom bought me a printed poem in the south of France. 

The poem was called “the gift of a smile”.

As it was hanging in my bathroom, I remember seeing it several times a day, getting ready for school in the morning, brushing my teeth at night. And I can still remember most of it to this day because of that repetition.

The first 2 lines read as follows:

“Il ne coûte rien et produit beaucoup.”

“It doesn't cost a thing and produces a lot.”


Then it goes on to show all the benefits for the one smiling and for the one(s) receiving it demonstrating it’s clearly a win-win! (Link to the full poem (in French) if you're curious)

So today I'm grateful, even though I didn't always say or felt so, to my mom to have anchored this message in my head. 

Why Smiling Matters and How to Smile More

 It goes deeper than a smile. I think it matters how you show up in the world. Even with our personal likes and dislikes when it comes to style , we can all agree that our choices are a chance to be on our side.

I try and remember the power of a smile and challenge myself to smile more, especially when I feel too stressed, driving the kids to and from school, running not to be late to a meeting, or just because some days I don’t want to do what I have planned so carefully.

You can think of a Mona Lisa smile, or the Budha's if it helps. 
(I like those because they feel calm and full of serenity)

Just like coaching, smiling intentionally, even when you don’t feel like it, will help you shift your perspective and reconsider what’s happening, what’s in your control and what you would like the outcome to be.

By the way, Sunday's international laughter day and that should be celebrated too!

 https://www.daysoftheyear.com/days/world-laughter-day/

Because May is mental health awareness month, I thought you may like to hear all the benefits of laughter:

It can help with:

• Your overall stress and cortisol levels because it helps relieve the pressure 
• Your abs because of your belly muscles contracting when you’re laughing
• It can make you feel more connected to the people around you that you’re sharing this hilarious moment with
• It can help you feel more relaxed because of the endorphins that it is producing
• It can also boost your immunity by producing some t-cells
• It also helps your heart because, believe it or not, laughing is some kind of cardio exercise.

Some ideas to celebrate this WE:

• Ask google or Alexa or Siri to tell you a joke
• Create a notebook / jar filled with jokes on little papers notes inside to read at dinner table
• Watch your favorite comedy
• Go to a comedy club
• Did you know there are even laughter clubs?

Link for more details on World Laughter Day

AND please let me know how you celebrated !

PS: if you want to share you favorite mom tip, record your message right here!

Thank you for listening and have a beautiful WE!

As always, feel free to reach out if you have any questions about the episode.

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Thanks for listening today!
 
I’m Virginie Fite-Georgel, and I specialize in helping neurodivergent women in leadership reduce stress and quiet their inner critic. Through my personalized 1:1 coaching, we’ll work together to build your unique toolbox, empowering you to find clarity, boost confidence, and unlock your full potential. Together, we’ll move you out of chronic stress and into a space where you can make bold, confident decisions.

Curious to learn more? Let’s connect! Schedule a free discovery call with me.
I’d love to hear your thoughts—feel free to share your takeaways or insights on social! (I'm mostly on LinkedIn or Instagram!

AND finally  if you want to help me or show your appreciation through something else than a review or a share, I have just created this page for you to get me a coffee: https://lnkd.in/g4p3s6Xj TIA 🙏🏼

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In this episode of the podcast, I focus on the often loaded topic of debt and borrowing money. 


Here are some interesting questions to ask yourself when it comes to debt and the money you owe:

• Are you seeing it as an opportunity for growth and investment 
• Or are you feeling trapped or constantly trying to catch up?

When you think of your own experiences with debt, considering who you borrowed from, the amount borrowed, and the process of repayment, what comes to mind?

What about lending money? 
Consider your expectations and boundaries when loaning money to others. 

How comfortable are you when having conversations around money, such as splitting bills at restaurants? It can reveal underlying beliefs and attitudes towards your financial confidence and freedom. 
It matters that you are intentional and aware of your borrowing habits and financial goals. It is also important to evaluate the cost and return of borrowing money.

In conclusion, I invite you to assess your current debt situation,  comfort level with it, and plans for managing or reducing it. 

The more intentional and conscious about financial decisions,  the faster you can achieve financial freedom.

Next month, I'll share some life and career's advice from all the mothers in my life, not just mine, but maybe yours too?

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Thanks for listening today!
 
I’m Virginie Fite-Georgel, and I specialize in helping neurodivergent women in leadership reduce stress and quiet their inner critic. Through my personalized 1:1 coaching, we’ll work together to build your unique toolbox, empowering you to find clarity, boost confidence, and unlock your full potential. Together, we’ll move you out of chronic stress and into a space where you can make bold, confident decisions.

Curious to learn more? Let’s connect! Schedule a free discovery call with me.
I’d love to hear your thoughts—feel free to share your takeaways or insights on social! (I'm mostly on LinkedIn or Instagram!

AND finally  if you want to help me or show your appreciation through something else than a review or a share, I have just created this page for you to get me a coffee: https://lnkd.in/g4p3s6Xj TIA 🙏🏼

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In this  episode, I dive into the intricacies of the spending money mindset, emphasizing the importance of aligning our thoughts with our actions in both professional and personal realms. As high achieving women in leadership positions, understanding the connection between our beliefs and spending habits is pivotal in achieving financial empowerment.

I invite you to examine:

• your 3 best purchases 
• your 3 worst purchases 

 and reflect on why you think it is you feel this way. Because each carry profound lessons. By delving into the emotional responses evoked by these purchases and tracing our evolution in the months following, we unravel the significance of financial decisions beyond mere transactions.

How did these help you grow?

In the coming weeks and month, I'd like to encourage you to ponder your spending choices.
Prioritize alignment with you values (listen to episode 15 to learn more about that). 

Whether it's investing in professional development, supporting causes you believe in, or indulging in self-care, each expenditure becomes an opportunity to reinforce your identity and aspirations.

You can use this episode as a guide to cultivate a harmonious relationship with money, ensuring that every expenditure reflects your values, aspirations, and journey towards personal and professional fulfillment.

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Thanks for listening today!
 
I’m Virginie Fite-Georgel, and I specialize in helping neurodivergent women in leadership reduce stress and quiet their inner critic. Through my personalized 1:1 coaching, we’ll work together to build your unique toolbox, empowering you to find clarity, boost confidence, and unlock your full potential. Together, we’ll move you out of chronic stress and into a space where you can make bold, confident decisions.

Curious to learn more? Let’s connect! Schedule a free discovery call with me.
I’d love to hear your thoughts—feel free to share your takeaways or insights on social! (I'm mostly on LinkedIn or Instagram!

AND finally  if you want to help me or show your appreciation through something else than a review or a share, I have just created this page for you to get me a coffee: https://lnkd.in/g4p3s6Xj TIA 🙏🏼

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Welcome to another episode of "Without Judgment"! 
In honor of Financial Literacy Month, here is another episode on our money mindset. 

Have you ever stopped to consider what beliefs shape your relationship with money—both in acquiring it and having it? Today, we're lifting the veil on those (possibly limiting) beliefs and exploring how they impact your financial well-being.

When it comes to making money, our thoughts can range from contentment to perpetual dissatisfaction, regardless of our income level. But here's the kicker: it's not about the numbers; it's about our perception. Do you believe you're fully accountable for your earnings? How has your income evolved over the years, and what sacrifices have you made to achieve it?

Next up, let's talk about having money. Do you associate wealth with negativity? Your upbringing and personal experiences heavily influence your answer. Whether you're content with a modest lifestyle or yearn for more, your mindset dictates your financial trajectory. Are you open to abundance, or are you gripped by scarcity?

To help navigate these reflections, I am inviting you to use this coaching tip: journal about the questions that resonate most with you. Start small, focusing on one to three inquiries to avoid overwhelm. And before we part ways, ponder this: how much money do you truly believe you're capable of making in a year? The answer might surprise you.

Thank you for tuning in to "Without Judgment." Your support means the world to us. Remember, your career should be more than just a paycheck—it should align with your dreams. Until next time, keep exploring, keep growing, and never stop believing in your potential.

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Thanks for listening today!
 
I’m Virginie Fite-Georgel, and I specialize in helping neurodivergent women in leadership reduce stress and quiet their inner critic. Through my personalized 1:1 coaching, we’ll work together to build your unique toolbox, empowering you to find clarity, boost confidence, and unlock your full potential. Together, we’ll move you out of chronic stress and into a space where you can make bold, confident decisions.

Curious to learn more? Let’s connect! Schedule a free discovery call with me.
I’d love to hear your thoughts—feel free to share your takeaways or insights on social! (I'm mostly on LinkedIn or Instagram!

AND finally  if you want to help me or show your appreciation through something else than a review or a share, I have just created this page for you to get me a coffee: https://lnkd.in/g4p3s6Xj TIA 🙏🏼

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In this episode, I discuss the concept of money mindset, exploring its definition, significance, and practical implications.

• What is a money mindset?

 Money mindset encapsulates the set of beliefs you hold about money. It is shaped by your upbringing, experiences, and societal influences. I encouraged you to identify your personal money narratives, acknowledging both empowering and limiting beliefs without judgment.

• Why it matters?

Your money mindset is important because  it directly impacts your financial success and overall well-being. Whether fostering feelings of scarcity or abundance, mindset influences your decision-making and behavior related to finances. This is especially true when I think of  my clients who are high-achieving women in leadership roles. Trusting yourself when it comes to money helps boost your confidence, clarity, and wealth creation abilities.

• Actions you can take to  relieve chronic stress and choose your money story:

I walk you through 2 exercises I bring my clients to identify where you are at and where you'd like to be on your financial freedom journey.

To bring you to a point where you can make strong decisions in an easy way, I want to invite you to ask yourself: "what do you believe is possible?"

Without judgment,

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I’m Virginie Fite-Georgel, and I specialize in helping neurodivergent women in leadership reduce stress and quiet their inner critic. Through my personalized 1:1 coaching, we’ll work together to build your unique toolbox, empowering you to find clarity, boost confidence, and unlock your full potential. Together, we’ll move you out of chronic stress and into a space where you can make bold, confident decisions.

Curious to learn more? Let’s connect! Schedule a free discovery call with me.
I’d love to hear your thoughts—feel free to share your takeaways or insights on social! (I'm mostly on LinkedIn or Instagram!

AND finally  if you want to help me or show your appreciation through something else than a review or a share, I have just created this page for you to get me a coffee: https://lnkd.in/g4p3s6Xj TIA 🙏🏼