We overachievers tend to put a lot of effort into everything we do, holding tightly to the outcome without even knowing why. Meaning, if I work hard enough, I can turn that perfect picture in my head of the “right way” to live into reality. Living a life of ease and fulfillment is actually difficult for many of us because we’re so stuck on the outcome… whether it’s validation or a Band-Aid for loneliness or financial success.

We turn easy into hard. So how do you flip that around? Stop forcing everything; look at what you’re actually trying to achieve and WHY. A lot of us say we want a happy relationship or successful business or a promotion at work, but do we know WHY we want those things? We need to understand our motivation, otherwise we’re working hard toward a fulfillment that never comes. Look at where you feel you owe someone for something. That focus on the external is why you’re left feeling empty when you hit your goals, not understanding why having the “perfect” job doesn’t actually bring happiness. You’re working your ass off toward something you may not even truly want… something that is the opposite of your true desire. But you keep trudging along thinking hard work equals reward, never mind the fact that you’re working toward something that doesn’t fulfill you emotionally or spiritually. Tune in to find out why understanding what you want is so important, and how that leads to creating more ease in your life.