Bottom line: we are all human beings and that makes us deserving of love and happiness. This week we deep dive into something we’ve both been privy to in our lives: feeling stuck. Jenn’s feeling the burn right now and shares a bit of reflection into her personal and professional life, as she navigates her own muddy waters. Taking a note from Kate, and her own story about feeling “worthy”, not getting what you need, and repeating behaviors, we open up dialogue to help recognize why feeling stuck is something to pay attention to. PREACH HAND EMOJI!!! And can we talk about Kate’s insight into the different value we can place on all sorts of different work? This is why she’s the XOXO part of this podcast, peeps. Hit us up and share your stories about how you define personal and professional success, what practices you put in place to ‘unstick’ yourself, and how you find ‘your people’. Thanks for listening!

Everything is a Remix series

Impostor syndrome (Wikipedia)

Brooke Shields – ‘Down Came the Rain: My Journey Through Postpartum Depression’

CoCo MSP

The Ten Beliefs That Keep You Stuck In Life

Zosia Mamet on Why She Won’t Lean In, Thanks (Glamour)

What You Learn In Your 40’s (New York Times)

‘Are You Happy?’ Flowchart

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This week, we tackle online bullying and take a firm stance against Ari Shaffir, who this week broke the cardinal rule of comedy and punched down. How far is too far when it’s not even a joke? The smart and lovely Monica Lewinsky is choosing to come out in to the limelight more and more recently, this time speaking out about our society’s culture of shame via a TED Talk. She talks about rap lyrics she’s the subject of, falling in love with her boss, and the mistakes of our twenties. Speaking of rap lyrics, Jen shares her experiences of being the new girl at the dog park. Wait, what? We wrap up with tweets of the week! It’s a good one. Happy Spring, y’all.

Damienne Merlina

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAl1vO8l9qw

Monica Lewinsky’s TED Talk

Louie and the Dog Park!

Fun City Dogs

Tweets of the Week!

Kate:

https://twitter.com/atbabel/status/581589248219996160

Jenn:

For my birthday, I'm granting myself the freedom to admit that I'll never send out an invitation with the instruction "No Gifts."

— Ana Gasteyer (@AnaGasteyer) March 23, 2015

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This week we talk about the Target layoffs that affected many friends in Minneapolis, and the unexpectedly great things that happened in our community as a result. We then chat about how gift giving can be daunting and some foolproof and thoughtful ways to approach it. Kate hosted the inagural How To Lady event recently and boyhowdy were we ladied! Tapping into the hivemind and creating a space around topics that can be intimidating was wonderful, and what we hope to create with this series. More to come. Tweets of the week, too. We’re talking the talk and walking the walk, yo!

Target Layoffs (and the kindness around them)

Gift Giving

How To Lady

Tweets of the Week!

Kate:

When you stop over-functioning for the under-functioning, it's liberating

— Jenn Schaal (@JennSchaal) March 19, 2015

Jenn:

The longer I'm in the game, the more I feel this way… pic.twitter.com/Yk97U0qmRT

— Johnny Taylor, Jr. (@hipsterocracy) March 16, 2015

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Jenn and Kate share a chat with (very) special guest Madde Gibba about the broad concept of “The Midwest”. More specifically, what it’s like to live here, leave here, and all the things that make a “flyover state” life worth it…even with the “Minnesota Nice” stereotype. And, don’t worry, there’s plenty of vocal fry and Tinder talk, because, obviously. And, we wrap with our new improvised segment “Top 5 – Minnesota” that we just made up on the spot. IMPROV!

Second City Theatricals

Just Things – NYC

Brave New Workshop

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For Epiosde 18, we are lucky to have Madde Gibba in studio with us. Madde is a comedian currently touring with Second City Theatricals and our inaugural guest. With the rising temps, we tackle spring cleaning and everything that comes with it. Like Feelings. Jenn gives us her Cable Update and we talk about the new Tina Fey-produced show Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt as well as Amy Poehler-produced Broad City. Are you an Ilana or an Abbi? To wrap up, all tweets of the week coincidentally all come from female comedians. International Women’s Day WHAT WHAT! Enjoy.

Kim Kardashian – ‘Selfish’ Book

Mary-Kate & Ashley Have The Easiest Hack For Taking Good Pictures

Martha Stewart’s Clothing for Pets

Martha Stewart’s ‘Coming Home’ Poncho

An update on Jenn’s Cable saga, and TV chat!

Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt (Netflix)

Happy Endings

Broad City

Chuck Close

Tweets of the Week!

Kate:

https://twitter.com/aparnapkin/status/573908650839924737

Jenn:

ISIS, I am willing to consider joining forces with you but don't want to get my hands dirty. Is there an opening in your social media dept?

— adrienne iapalucci (@AIapalucci) March 1, 2015

Madde:

https://twitter.com/arijmikati/status/574636175450849280

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In Episode 17, Kate and Jenn dissect food stuffs. What we eat, how we eat, and how it makes us feel (and poop!). The relationship we have we food is one of the most basic, and, yet one of the most complicated – and is often based on…marketing? Thankfully, food culture is changing and we’re becoming much more aware of where our food comes from and how it is prepared. What are your issues with food? Have you changed anything in your diet recently and noticed a positive change? Weigh in our Facebook page and let us know your thoughts. We’re listening!

Anchor Fish and Chips

What is Celiac Disease?

Butcher and the Boar

The Tyranny of the Chicken Finger (National Post)

The Real Reason Wheat Is Toxic isn’t Gluten

V-Day the right way. pic.twitter.com/TD7eZB2Izr

— tacojohns (@tacojohns) February 13, 2015

@cleverkate @solace you're our kind of girl.

— tacojohns (@tacojohns) February 13, 2015

Chicago Tribune article on Cholesterol

High Fructose Corn Syrup commercial:

Izzy’s Ice Cream

The Emily Program

WholeMe

Double Up Food Bucks

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V8SjkDq2ZwI

The Paleo Diet

Stephanie Meyer (@FreshTartSteph)

How To Make Bulletproof Coffee

Peace Coffee – Mastering Coffee At Home class

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Jenn got a dog! On this episode, we catch up, talk through the ins and outs of Valentine’s Day, and what it means for new couples, established couples, people with kids, and everything in between. It’s awkward, right? Right. Speaking of awkward, we also delve into the Grammy awards, and how social media, namely, Twitter has changed the way we consume televised awards shows. #thankskanye We then complain a little about how people complain online. Because we can. This is our show, damn it. Habla Espanol? Studies show that studying a second language is a great way to keep your brain sharp as you age.

Catch-Ups

Valentine’s Day

https://twitter.com/kristaprints/status/566764508106870784

https://vimeo.com/33241706

Grammy Awards

Boo, Twitter Complainers

Being Bilingual

Tweets of the Week!

Kate:

"The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon.” – David Carr pic.twitter.com/ZwAI79OY2r

— Tim O'Brien (@TimOBrien) February 13, 2015

Jenn:

https://twitter.com/jalbus/status/564822250428194816

@jalbus I AM ALL ABOUT THAT HASTE BOUT THAT HASTE IM A REBEL

— Jenn Schaal (@JennSchaal) February 9, 2015

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In this episode, Jenn and Kate hash out the minutiae of online and modern dating. We get down to the nitty gritty, discussing general (and specific!) rules and guidelines, expectations, being someone’s champion, waving your freak flag, what to wear (and what not to wear) on your dates, taking breaks, being supportive of your friends who are actively dating, and all the rest. We had a blast.

XOXOJK Facebook page WOOOO! Join the conversation there. We want all perspectives. (Here is the original Facebook post for this episode’s discussion.)

Grown-Up Club

Tinder Nightmares (Instagram)

The Shawshank Redemption (IMDB)

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Episode 14 kicks off with Kate and Jenn improvising their improv skills! Kate’s feeling better (finally!), Jenn’s off the sugar, and considering getting a dog. Hijinks and thoughtful conversation continue covering some of the week’s biggest topics like the all-female Ghostbuster’s cast, the Superbowl (sportball!!!!), the Disneyland measels outbreak, and T-Swift and her trademarkin’. As always, Tweets of the Week with shoutouts to @home_halfway and @sweatingcommas for bringing more laughs to XOXOJK.

You should totally take improv classes

Bulletproof Coffee

The Adventures of Milo and Otis

Ghostbusters all woman reboot

Superbowl ads sold out 4 days before kickoff on NBC vs 2 months in advance on FOX last year:

https://twitter.com/webster/status/562053554614317059

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R55e-uHQna0

Measles outbreak

Taylor Swift’s trademarks:

Barb Abney let go from The Current.

We love you, Barb! 

Tweets of the Week!

Jenn:

https://twitter.com/Home_Halfway/status/560461194776297472

Kate:

https://twitter.com/SweatingCommas/status/561680977270161409

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In Episode 13, Kate and Jenn explore their own friendship tale and share insight on all things “gal pal” including fluidity, rites of passage, breakups, and what it actually means to be a friend – to us. You know, like Oprah and Gayle. Grab your bestie and give it a listen and share your own friend story with us on our Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/xoxojkpodcast.

Let It Go

Lauren Anderson

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