X’s & O’s Not Exes & Woes

In this episode, Cheryl and Frank discuss:  

• The continued rise in depression rates especially in young people.  
• The 3rd daily practice that nourishes the soil that relationship woes grow so that fighting melts into curiosity and compassion.
• How the lack of understanding leads to a lack of connection and depressive states.

Key Takeaways:  

• Statistics show that depression is a growing problem looming ever bigger on the horizon.  
• Only 30% of depression is related to chemical imbalances in the brain. The remaining 70% is behavioral!
• Seeing behind the curtain of your partner’s triggers favors curiosity and compassion. Understanding this will avoid arguments in your relationship.

“We need a solution that allows us to take charge and build relationships, so we are no longer stuck with hoping and praying that our dreams come true.” —  Cheryl Herbst  

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In this episode, Cheryl and Frank Mancini discuss:  

• How social media and lifestyle contribute to the rate of depression. 
• The first and second daily practices that nourish the soil that relationship woes grow in and can end relationship failure once and for all. 
• How to create an environment that communicates love to your partner, so they feel fully loved. 

Key Takeaways:  

• The brain is unable to differentiate between an argument or physical altercation and releases the same stress hormones. 
• Communication is the root of all good relationships, but in a fight, it can lead to trouble because they don’t know how to express what they’re trying to say. 
• Instead of focusing on meeting the needs of your partner, focus on how to ask for your needs while aligning with their value system. 

“Depression is the most debilitating condition worldwide second only to diabetes and obesity.” —  Frank Mancini  

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In this episode, Cheryl will discuss:  

• A question received from a listener asking about the heartache she expressed in episode one.
• Why soulmate hunting is a weak strategy and how to stop wasting time hoping and praying.
• The paradigm shift she experienced through reading “A Course In Miracles.”

Key Takeaways:  

• Loneliness and broken relationships defined Cheryl from an early age.
• To make the world a better place, a more peaceful place, we all need to make our individual lives happier.
• Progress accelerates as we clean up and nourish the soil where relationships are growing.

“When I did come out on the other side of my despair, it was quite clear to me that hoping to stumble across a perfect match was not a workable strategy.” —  Cheryl Herbst  

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Website: www.afraidtoloveagain.com
Email: [email protected]
Book: How to Keep Your X’s & O’s from Becoming Exes & Woes
Show: www.afraidtoloveagain.com
LinkedIn: Cheryl Herbst

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In this episode, Cheryl will discuss:  

• Root cause #3 of relationship failure: fighting, and to replace it with curiosity and compassion. 
• Understanding the core reason behind triggers that lead to defensiveness. 
• How to manage defensive reactions instead of reacting to them. 

Key Takeaways:  

• Each partner trying to pull the other into their mindset in an argument leads to confusion. 
• The solution for avoiding confusion when your partner seems unreasonable in an argument, is to observe which defenses are being triggered. 
• Everyone has five defenses with one being the most dominant. 

“The end result of your effort is communication that is fulfilling and gets to your desired result.  Instead of fighting, the payoff is less drama and fewer hurt feelings.” —  Cheryl Herbst  

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Website:   www.afraidtoloveagain.com  
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Book: How to Keep Your X’s & O’s from Becoming Exes & Woes        
Show: www.afraidtoloveagain.com   
LinkedIn: Cheryl Herbst  

In this episode, Cheryl will discuss:  

• Root cause #2 of relationship failure: not getting your needs met.
• How giving out of obligation leads to relationship failure  
• A win-win strategy for asking your partner for your needs to be met.

Key Takeaways:  

• Asking your partner to sacrifice their selfish needs for your selfish needs is a win-lose strategy.
• Sacrifices done to avoid further argument lead to a buildup of resentments which leads to a loss of passion.
• When asking your partner to do something that is in alignment with their highest values, they are going to respond more willingly.
• Sacrifices done to avoid further argument lead to a buildup of resentments which leads to a loss of passion.
• When asking your partner to do something that is in alignment with their highest values, they are going to respond more willingly.  

“There is an art and a science to asking in such a way that it inspires an unreserved YES.” —  Dr. John Demartini

Dr. Demartini The Heart of Love  
https://www.drdemartini.com/values

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Website: www.afraidtoloveagain.com
Email: [email protected]
Book: How to Keep Your X’s & O’s from Becoming Exes & Woes
Show: www.afraidtoloveagain.com
LinkedIn: Cheryl Herbst

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In this episode, Cheryl will discuss:  

• Root cause #1 of relationship failure:  love dying after the honeymoon stage. 
• Why eliminating this loss is so important.
• How making your partner feel fully loved by speaking their love language can keep petty annoyances from eroding your love bond.

Key Takeaways:  

• Everyone needs to feel loved, not just be loved.
• Believing that everyone feels loved in the same way allows nagging, mocking, guilting, eye rolling and petty annoyances to erode your love bond.
• You can ultimately defeat the honeymoon-stage ending. 

“It is quite possible that you could be BEing loves and yet not be FEELing loved.” —  Cheryl Herbst 

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Twitter: Cheryl_Herbst
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Website: www.afraidtoloveagain.com
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Book: How to Keep Your X’s & O’s from Becoming Exes & Woes
Show: www.afraidtoloveagain.com
LinkedIn: Cheryl Herbst

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In this episode, Cheryl will discuss:  

• How just 3 daily practices that nourish the soil that relationship woes grow in can end relationship failure once and for all.
• How focusing on just 3 causes can simplify your path to success and give you the skill to take charge and build a relationship of your dreams.
• The 3 communication habits that impact success.

Key Takeaways:  

• When you can keep love from dying, get your needs met with a smile, and end fighting, you and your partner will be eager to come home to each other day after day, year after year.
• Creating successful relationships is no more complicated than learning how to speak more effectively. 
• Everyone is doing the best that they can, with what they know at any moment of time. 

“Can you afford to waste another year holding back in fear or hesitation when you now have an opportunity to create what you want?” —  Cheryl Herbst

Connect with Cheryl Herbst:  

Twitter: Cheryl_Herbst
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Website: www.afraidtoloveagain.com
Email: [email protected]
Book: How to Keep Your X’s & O’s from Becoming Exes & Woes
Show: www.afraidtoloveagain.com
LinkedIn: Cheryl Herbst

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Your host, Cheryl Herbst is an experienced Relationship Strategist who specializes in keeping your X’s & O’s from becoming Exes & Woes with only three daily practices. The podcast will help listeners solve relationship failures once and for all, and therefore keep that new relationship sizzle long after the honeymoon stage!  Cheryl holds certifications in Executive Counseling, Hypnotherapy, Energy Counseling, Energy Practitioner, NLP Mastery. Join Cheryl weekly so you too can keep your X’s & O’s from ever becoming Exes & Woes again.

“I believe it comes down to this: we need to communicate in such a way that we get the feedback we want. If we have the skills to get the feedback we want, we stop being a victim to ignorance. We can take control and completely diminish the risk of relationship failure.” —  Cheryl Herbst  

Connect with Cheryl Herbst:  

Twitter: Cheryl_Herbst
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Website: www.afraidtoloveagain.com
Email: [email protected]
Book: How to Keep Your X’s & O’s from Becoming Exes & Woes      
Show: www.afraidtoloveagain.com  
LinkedIn: Cheryl Herbst  

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