My third story is about death.
When I was 17,
I read a quote that went something like,
"If you live each day as if it was your last,
someday you'll most certainly be right."
It made an impression on me,
and since then, for the past 33 years,
I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself,
"If today were the last day of my life,
would I want to do what I am about to do today?"
And whenever the answer has been "No"
for too many days in a row,
I know I need to change something.
Remembering that I'll be dead soon
is the most important tool I've ever encountered
to help me make the big choices in life.
Because almost everything:
all external expectations, all pride,
all fear of embarrassment or failure ,
these things just fall away in the face of death,
leaving only what is truly important.
Remembering that you are going to die
is the best way I know
to avoid the trap of thinking
you have something to lose.
You are already naked.
There is no reason not to follow your heart.
About a year ago, I was diagnosed with cancer.
I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning,
and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas.
I didn't even know what a pancreas was.
The doctors told me
this was almost certainly a type of cancer
that is incurable,
and that I should expect to live no longer
than three to six months.
My doctor advised me to go home
and get my affairs in order,
which is doctors' code for "prepare to die."
It means to try and tell your kids everything
you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them
in just a few months.
It means to make sure everything is buttoned up
so that it will be as easy as possible for your family.
It means to say your goodbyes.
I lived with that diagnosis all day.
Later that evening I had a biopsy,
where they stuck an endoscope down my throat,
through my stomach into my intestines,
put a needle into my pancreas
and got a few cells from the tumor.
I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me
that when they viewed the cells under a microscope
the doctors started crying
because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer
that is curable with surgery.
I had the surgery
and thankfully, I'm fine now.