YMMV: The Unfiltered Sex & Dating Podcast

Keith and Mike review the goings-on from Episode 73, with some discussion of whether multiple orgasms means fewer pleasurable contractions per orgasm, leading to an equal total pleasure quotient, regardless of the number of orgasms experienced. Some conversation as well about external anal stimulation on both men and women, whether it's enjoyable, and how it's handled in general.

A woman is gifted a butt plug by her boyfriend and is unsure how to react (hint: be prepared for anal sex in the near future). Another is dumped because she revealed to her sweetie that she wanted to intrude in his anal cavity (pegging).

And a third wants to give herself over fully via a "free use" agreement, which sounds great in principle but probably winds up being problematic upon further inspection.

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/74/mff-gift

https://ymmv.me/74/oral-shower

https://ymmv.me/74/plug

https://ymmv.me/74/pegging

https://ymmv.me/74/analingus

https://ymmv.me/74/free-use

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“Le sexe de la femme,” as they say, is all around us, all the time. And so it was with Jane in the corner of the studio today, casually pleasuring herself as we recorded our latest episode. She smiled at the humor, but above all she resented the orgasms she waited to enjoy until much, much later in the evening.

With Keith out of town on another jaunt (Europe), Eric joins Mike to discuss the latest topics. Mike revealed his experiences with a masturbation sleeve mistakenly mailed to his P.O. Box. We discussed the latest trend toward anilingus on the first date, without significant warning or preparation.

And, is it now considered standard for men to wet their fingers and gently caress the anuses of their partners? We dig more deeply into the meaning of “sit on my face,” whether a man’s penis is likely to grow after several sexual encounters with a woman, and what men are likely to ask a partner after ejaculating.

A full slate for the episode. And all with Jane, our first committed listener to have the chance to listen to (and participate in) a live episode taping.

To follow along with the videos discussed at the beginning of the episode:

https://ymmv.me/73/mikes-favorite

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/73/anal-finger

https://ymmv.me/73/face-sit

https://ymmv.me/73/ask-after

https://ymmv.me/73/saliva

https://ymmv.me/73/in-mouth

https://ymmv.me/73/boners

https://ymmv.me/73/period-oral

https://ymmv.me/73/growing-dick

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We're concerned about men who need to finger and/or edge their female partners for such a long time that their hands might not be able to keep up. It's analogous to the problems women often have with forearm strength when offering handjobs to their partners.

We tease, but don't watch (yet) an excellent video. Next episode we'll discuss it. What should a 42-year-old virgin do to improve his plight?

Is it reasonable for one partner to have to initiate all the time? And, we discuss handjobs on airplanes.

For those of you who want to see it, here is the video discussed at the beginning of the episode:

https://ymmv.me/72/champion-shirt

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/72/suffocating-oral

https://ymmv.me/72/old-virgin

https://ymmv.me/72/pants

https://ymmv.me/72/initiating

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As I write this description, I'm watching two women have sex on Chaturbate. They're in a 69 position with the camera placed above the head of the woman on the bottom. Her makeup is immaculate, there's a Lovense in the vagina of her partner, and she also is using a black vibrator in the wrong location, more or less stimulating the taint of the other woman. They finished their scene, the woman on top moved and the Lovense slapped her partner in the face. The got up immediately and put back on their clothes. Then they started talking about one partner's boyfriend in Russian. The site says they're in "Pleasureland." They're not.

In this episode, we discuss an article about how women have to contend with never knowing whether a man is interested in their actual skills and talents or just in having sex with them. Where these two Russian ladies are concerned, I was actually interested in neither; I think they both smoke a lot.

What does a woman do if she doesn't want sex anymore after she orgasms (kind of like a man)? Is she just out of luck?

Do men appreciate it if a woman brings a sex toy with her to a very early (or even first) encounter? Also, can a woman be too wet? Does Devin The Dude's solution really work?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/71/weird-fetish

https://ymmv.me/71/female-post-nut

https://ymmv.me/71/toy-too-soon

https://ymmv.me/71/too-wet

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What to do if as a man you are able to pull off an MFF threesome with your partner, but you realize midway through the experience that she's more into the other woman than she is you. Honestly, that's probably a pretty common situation, and one which men should consider before jumping in. As with the similar MMF threesome problems, the situation isn't easy to rectify.

Keith reveals that he properly enjoys requesting that women "sit on his face." He uses those exact words, because it turns them on. But then there are the mechanics to sort out and the ever-present question of which direction she's supposed to face. Now, Keith thinks it's obvious, but a significant amount of research indicates there is some dispute.

And, we get an update on Keith's effort to find out whether women on dating apps want ENM relationships with him. How much sex will this man have in coming weeks and months?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/70/mff

https://ymmv.me/70/embarrassing

https://ymmv.me/70/sitting

https://ymmv.me/70/squirting

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Keith wants to see how easy it is to find an Ethically Non-Monogamous second partner. He wants to follow all the rules and be completely up front in what he's seeking, and he wants to see how many women will respond positively o such a message. So, he has a set of women who have "liked" him on dating apps, and he's going to send them an honest message. How many will respond positively?

Separately, we're here to help women discern how they pick the men they do. Honestly, the incels have a point here, in that women like to hide from the truth that not many men are that attractive, and most women purse a small set of guys.

A man has the unpleasant habit of anally penetrating himself in his leisure time, and he's (rightfully) reluctant to reveal that to his female partner. A woman is confused by a man's desire for her to be totally bare "down there," and another woman is concerned about air travel with her rather large vibrator.

And, can a relationship survive on oral sex alone? Answer: Yes, provided the partners are in their teens!

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/69/dislike-sex

https://ymmv.me/69/prostate-surprise

https://ymmv.me/69/anal-virginity

https://ymmv.me/69/outer-labia

https://ymmv.me/69/male-lingerie

https://ymmv.me/69/oral-only

https://ymmv.me/69/pubic-requests

https://ymmv.me/69/hitachi-travel

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It may well be that OnlyFans has gone totally mainstream and men have no reason to expect their partner won't be sending pictures and videos of themselves all over the place to make some extra spending money. If society views it as totally fine, then why not? But might this not drive down the value of the photos and render it unprofitable?

I mean, let's say we lived in a society in which there had never been a taboo about women exposing their breasts in public. In that situation, naked breasts would also have no value, since they'd be so easy to come by. Paradoxically, for nude photos to continue to be profitable, they need to remain something frowned upon.

I guess, like most things, you take the good, you take the bad, you take the rest, and that's what you get.

We've also got a rich sugar daddy who is pissed that an even richer one took away his sugar baby. Discussion about how to meet women if you don't like online dating apps, and how to approach women online for an explicitly non-monogamous situation.

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/68/sb-whale

https://ymmv.me/68/nudes

https://ymmv.me/68/compliments

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If a woman has a squirting orgasm, needs to pee before she has sex, needs to pee before her orgasm and then no longer needs to pee after the orgasm, then where did the pee go? Well, naturally it dematerialized, and the squirt she squirted wasn't pee at all but some other substance! Right?

Who's more attractive? Porn stars or non porn stars? Is there some upper bound on attractiveness after which a woman wouldn't even consider getting into porn?

How often is a man aroused by something he sees in porn, but then he doesn't want to do it in real life?

And, a couple topics that come up somewhat often: MMF situations and men who fetishize penises but "aren't gay." In what situation would a hetero man give another man a handjob? What are reasonable limits to curiosity?

To follow along with the lovely lady's images we discussed early in the episode:

https://ymmv.me/67/dainty-wilder

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/67/female-whiskey-dick

https://ymmv.me/67/meat-vibrator

https://ymmv.me/67/penis-fetish

https://ymmv.me/67/mmf-desire

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In a move right out of Ally's playbook, a woman really doesn't like it when she climaxes before her male partner. Looks like it's some sort of race to see who gets the better experience. As always, the winner is the person who comes second.

We discuss a bit of radical feminist theory, and how it relates to the current trend of sugar dating. Mike gets in his jibe that radical feminists are the "female equivalent of incels." There's no possible way that comment could cause any blowback.

What's going on when Leonardo DiCaprio dates a succession of very young women who all pretty much look the same? Is it narcissism, or does he just want to avoid actually viewing them as human beings? And, is there any difference there?

More topics include hair pulling, after-sex cleaning and willingness to explore MMF situations if invited.

To follow along with the videos discussed at the beginning of the episode, click the below. We started watching at the 2:00 mark:

https://ymmv.me/66/jedi-mind-chick

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/66/she-comes-second

https://ymmv.me/66/sugaring

https://ymmv.me/66/hair-pulling

https://ymmv.me/66/cleaning

https://ymmv.me/66/invitation

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A woman isn't tired of sex in general. She's just tired of having sex with her boyfriend. What's the right recommendation? Should they break up, or is this something that's fixable?

We watch a completely female-centric porn, meaning it's something that a woman would purportedly enjoy watching. The piercing blue eyes, mustache and beard were too much for me, honestly.

And, what's the ideal bodycount for a partner? How long do you want between the last time the partner had sex with someone else and the first time you two have sex together? Does it make a difference for men versus women in this regard?

To follow along with the videos discussed at the beginning of the episode (we started at 11:35 into the video):

https://ymmv.me/65/licking

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/65/pretty-vag

https://ymmv.me/65/blanket

https://ymmv.me/65/clean-shaven

https://ymmv.me/65/dont-enjoy-boyfriend

https://ymmv.me/65/initiating

https://ymmv.me/65/masturbation-rules

https://ymmv.me/65/body-count

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