You Both Suck

Dara and Kunal are back with another episode AND a new guest! Comedian Casey Balsham takes a seat on the green couch for this week's episode (:21) and brings some strong opinions, especially surrounding the topics of shoehorns and the fact that her husband may or may not be wearing a ladies jacket. Casey is originally from CA or "the left coast" as Kunal says, so we thought she was the perfect guest for today's squabble. She has shows coming up in MA and FL (44:53 for dates), and you can follow her on IG: @casefaceb 

Our FMK this week is still going strong on the 90's train, so we have FMK: 90's TV Theme Songs (2:50). The choices are Seinfeld, Friends, and Fresh Prince of Bel-Air (you know you're already singing the song in your head now). 

Then it's Squabble Time (11:32). You know those problems that happened a while ago but they keep you up at night?? WE CAN BE THE PODCAST FOR THOSE PROBLEMS! SEND EM IN! And that's exactly what this listener did, so THANK YOU for that! This woman, 29, from LA, wrote in about a problem from a year or so ago, when she was still living in NYC. She matched with a guy on Hinge a few months before her move to LA, and things were going swimmingly (or so she thought) for their first few dates. He seemed great, they had a lot in common, they even trauma bonded over their toxic exes! She also took him to see Aziz Ansari, and then he didn't even text or reach out on her birthday shortly thereafter.  Well wouldn't ya know it, he fell off the face of the earth. Ahhh tale as old as time. She texted him and asked what was going on, rightfully so, and turns out he went back to his toxic ex! Seems like we might know who sucks in this situation, but you never know with us. Gotta listen and find out! Let us know what you think on social @youbothsuckpodcast!   

Other things they touch on: 

- online dating and how much it sucks sometimes

- explaining the "roses" on Hinge

- trauma bonding on a first date

- does the man always have to plan the dates?

- should you disclose that you're moving across the country on a first date?

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Dara and Kunal are back with a VERY juicy episode AND INTRODUCE THEIR FIRST GUEST! Ali Jackson from the super popular Finding Mr Height podcast has joined the YBS clan for this week's episode (:17) and we couldn't be more thrilled! Ali is a dating & relationship coach who has helped thousands of women own their needs and express their feelings in a healthy way (PS check out her text scripts!), and you can catch more of her amazing content on social @findingmrheight. 

First, the FMK this week is taking a turn out of NYC and into a time machine...we're going back to the 90's baby! Our FMK is 90's Sitcom Dads (13:15). Uncle Phil from Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, Tim "The Toolman" Taylor from Home Improvement, and Danny Tanner from Full House. Brutal, we know.

Then it's Squabble Time (20:04)! A young woman (21, to be exact) from Philly writes in about a man she's interested in (and he is interested in her), but unfortunately he has a girlfriend. The man in question does not seem to think having a girlfriend is a big deal, in fact, he tells her he cheats "all the time" and continues to pursue her. The writer has many thoughts and questions on the topic, but mainly wants to know are all cheaters bad people? Why is she attracted to a cheater in the first place, and does that make HER a bad person? And if she knows she gets attached after having sex, is a one night stand really something she just needs to "get better at" or is she just not ready? Dara also shares a (cautionary) tale about the time she had an affair with a married man. Spoiler alert: she isn't proud of it. But listen, everyone makes mistakes! We told ya, it's a doozy! Let us know what you think on social @youbothsuckpodcast!   

Other things they touch on: 

- How someone can gaslight you into thinking that cheating is OK

- Is monogamy on the way out?

- Feeling pressure to have sex casually at a young age

- Being "the other woman" is a prison

- Is it selfish to admit when you've cheated on someone?

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Dara and Kunal are back with another JOLLY episode of solving debates and deciding who sucks!!

Starting things off nice and strong with FMK: NYC Adjacent Places (0:30). Westchester, Long Island, and NJ. They know it's gonna get ugly and they're ok with it. Then, Dara threw out a Gen Z Slang Quiz to Kunal (3:55) and you'll have to listen to see whether he passed or failed. This also might have gotten ugly, who knows. You can even check out the Gen Z Glossary for yourself on Dara's blog. WE MAKE IT EASY FOR EVERYONE TO GET INVOLVED!

Then it's time for the Squabble of the Day (12:03)! A female in her late 20's in NYC writes in with a tale of a rough holiday. Her boyfriend of almost one year (at that point) invited her to spend Christmas with his family in upstate New York, and they couldn't take a train there because she has a big dog, so they had to rent a car. The boyfriend goes to rent the car from JFK and discovers you need a credit card to rent a car. Plot twist: he does not have one! At the age of 34! Fighting ensues and there is an extra character added to the mix to make things even more interesting: a "double orphan" friend who drove them MANY HOURS to the BF's upstate home (let's just say Kunal has a lot of feelings about the double orphan). Ultimately, they need to decide if the BF sucks for not having a credit card or if the writer sucks for yelling at him/getting into a fight about it. What do you think?? Listen and find out!

Other things they touch on:

- Scratching ID's as a teenager

- Being financially responsible if you're in credit card debt

- Playing the blame game

- When do you need to discuss financial backgrounds in a relationship?

- Staying angry when you can no longer do anything about the problem 

- Why Kunal is going on a sleigh ride to hell 

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Dara and Kunal are back with another episode of helping people tackle confusing conflicts! This time, it's about that friend who pops back up only when they're single again, BUT FIRST, it's FMK: NYC Tourist Attractions (:48). Statue of Liberty, Empire State Building, World Trade Center. Then, they get into the ever-increasing problem of very long movies like Oppenheimer (3:45) and why Dara hates them. And Kunal thinks she's insane (what else is new). 

Then it's time for the Squabble of the Day! (9:36) A female in her mid-30's writes in about a friend of a similar age (who is "barely a friend" at this point) who always pops back up into her life when she's single again begging to hang out. The friend blames mental health for her absence, which is fair, but she has done this multiple times over about a decade. At what point does the writer say enough is enough? Is it even her job to say that?? And at what point do you question if therapy even works for some people? We debate it ALL and then decide who sucks in the scenario! Weigh in and let us know what you think. 

Other things they touch on:

- Communicating your needs to friends when you're depressed

- Why therapy shouldn't be a walk in the park

- Core friends vs acquaintances/old friends

- Trade "let's catch up for real" for "it was great to see you"

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Dara and Kunal are back with a tasty and nostalgic episode. They kick things off with FMK: NYC Transportation Hubs (:22) with Grand Central, Penn Station, and Atlantic Terminal on the chopping block. Then, they discuss their mutual love for Linkin Park's Hybrid Theory album (2:28) which takes a variety of turns and then winds up on Kunal's undying love for Matchbox Twenty and Rob Thomas (8:50).

Then, it's time for the Squabble of the Day (12:15)! A woman in her early 30's is angry because her boyfriend of one year (not living together) eats all of her snacks that she keeps in her apartment. He doesn't ask, he just takes. She says he pays for most of their meals when they go out, but she still thinks it's rude of him to just take without even asking first, and then to FINISH THEM. What do you think?? Listen for the verdict and follow on Instagram and TikTok: @youbothsuckpodcast  

Other things they touch on:

- Who should pay for the first date?

- If the snacks are cheap, is it really worth fighting over?

- Having conversations about money in a relationship

- Dara's "Luxury Pickles" story

Submit your own squabble on our IG via our Anonymous Google Form and remember, it's barely a form, it's a text box. DON'T FEAR THE FORM! Or email us [email protected]. 

Dara and Kunal tackle another tough FMK - NYC Sandwiches! The contenders are: Bacon Egg and Cheese, Chopped Cheese, and the Italian Combo (0:26). Then Dara shares a "date night restaurant recommendation" she gave to Kunal that he loved but cannot pronounce (3:28), followed by a discussion about Dara's irrational fear of shrimp heads (7:15).

Then, onto the Squabble of the Day! (10:00) This submission comes from a woman in her 30's who cut off a "good friend" after she had her as a bridesmaid in her wedding. The friend/bridesmaid in question is the type to not text first, doesn't double text, and doesn't show much enthusiasm when planning a hang, so the writer decided it was time to pull back and see if the friend would reach out. Spoiler alert: she did not! Was this friendship just on its way out or is there more to it than that? Who sucks in this scenario? Listen and find out!

Other things they touch on:

- People who don't double text (Dara is sometimes one of these people!) and their reasons why

- Overthinking when someone pulls back in the friendship

- Why you would keep someone in your wedding if you knew the friendship was ending

- Being self aware in your communication style with friends 

Follow @youbothsuckpodcast on IG and TikTok, and submit your own squabble on our IG via our Anonymous Google form (it's barely even a form, and they discuss that as well at the end of this episode - 35:09). DO NOT FEAR THE FORM.

Today's episode is a DOOZY! First, they discuss the importance of Bodega Cats (2:06), then kick things off with a F*, Marry, K!ll: NYC Street Foods - Pretzel, Dirty Water  Hot Dog, and Shish Kebab or as Dara's Dad calls it, "steak on a stick" (4:07). 

Then, the extra hilarious Squabble of the Day! (9:23). The fight comes from a male in NYC who got into a fight/name-calling situation with a coworker over a BIZARRE marinara sauce that the coworker brought into the office for a potluck. The Marinara in question contained your usual ingredients (tomatoes, garlic, etc) but ADDED IN a few ROGUE ELEMENTS like MAPLE SYRUP, BALSAMIC VINEGAR, CREAMY ITALIAN DRESSING, AND A PINCH OF GROUND MUSTARD. While the ingredients are indeed bizarre, was it his job as a coworker to call this guy out? Did the coworker have to resort to name-calling? Who sucks?! Listen and find out! Then tell us what you think at @youbothsuckpodcast on IG/TT.

They also touch on:

- Saving people from themselves - should you do it?

- Passive aggressive behavior in the workplace

- Name calling and why it's never a good idea

- Learning from your past behaviors

- Putting up boundaries with people you don't like, especially at work

- Letting people have their wins (even if it hurts to watch)

Dara and Kunal also decide to make this sauce and try it for themselves - you'll have to follow along on TikTok and IG for that content! Same handle in both places: @youbothsuckpodcast!

Dara and Kunal are back and they are kicking things off with a FMK Pizza: NY Style, Chicago Style, and Detroit Style (0:18) And they discuss the importance of A/S/L when submitting your squabbles - WE NEED THE DETAILS PEOPLE. And don’t forget to submit via our Anonymous Google Form on our Instagram: @youbothsuckpodcast

And then it’s time for the Squabble of the Day! (4:37) The fight comes from a man in his mid-30’s, Chicago (A/S/L!!) who got called out by a woman of similar age for changing his Hinge photo after they had been on TWO dates. Was she wrong for breaking things off after something like that? Was he wrong for invalidating how she felt about it? Who sucks?! Listen and find out, then tell us what you think online at @youbothsuckpodcast 

They also touch on:

- Being lazy crazy: copyright Dara Pollak, 2023 

- Text fighting and how it happens way more than it should

- Different fighting styles and how your actions can be interpreted by others

- Gaslighting doesn’t always come in the form of malice - nice guys can gaslight too

- People pleasing and why it’s not a good thing to do, especially with dating

Dara and Kunal are THRILLED to be here!! For this pilot episode, they kick things off with a rousing NYC Rendition of F*, Marry, Kill: NYC Neighborhoods (6:09). Astoria, Park Slope, and Times Square. SAUCY! And speaking of saucy, Dara professes her love for Olive Garden and Kunal gives a pro tip for food delivery.

Then, they discuss how the idea for this pod came about (11:11 - MAKE A WISH!) and why they think they're good candidates for this type of pod. There's also a fun fact about how the original name was going to be "You're Both Dicks." 

And then it's time for our Squabble of the Day! (17:24) The fight is about a best friend continuously ghosting you. And is it really that much easier to cut off a friend? The submission comes from a mid-30's woman in NYC who shares that her best friend of over 10 years has started ghosting her multiple times over the last few years for seemingly no reason. The friend then popped up recently to apologize (via text), only to ghost AGAIN after the writer responded. Kunal thinks something really bad happened to spark the fight between them, while Dara thinks that the friend just doesn't put the right effort into her friendships. Either way, they debate and determine who sucks! And what do YOU think?? Let us know by following @youbothsuckpodcast and dropping a comment!   

Other things they touch on: 

- Do women fight with each other more than men simply because they get closer? Aka they're more honest? 

- Disappearing from your friends when you get into a new relationship - normal or not cool? 

- Accountability in your arguments and being self aware

- Invalidating people's feelings and why you shouldn't do that!

- People who have problems saying "sorry" and the types of apologies that are BS (i.e. I'm sorry you feel that way)

- The different forms of gaslighting that Dara and Kunal have experienced in their relationships and friendships