You Make It Happen

Finding a Good Therapist: Part 2 - Navigating the Therapeutic JourneyIn this episode, the discussion from the previous episode continues on how to find a therapist who is the right fit. Emphasis is placed on understanding your own readiness for therapy and being clear about your goals. The host highlights Dr. Brene Brown's concept of 'doing your best,' and stresses the importance of self-awareness in both therapy and dating. Insightful tips on choosing a qualified therapist, recognizing the signs of a good therapeutic relationship, and the necessity of a therapist also having a therapist, are discussed. Book recommendations such as 'The Body Keeps the Score' and 'No Bad Parts' are highlighted to complement the therapy journey. The episode concludes with a hiatus announcement, urging listeners to prioritize their mental health and take everything shared in the podcast with a grain of salt.00:00 Introduction and Recap00:33 The 'Doing Your Best' Story02:21 Dating and Therapy: Finding the Right Fit06:13 Interviewing a Therapist: Key Questions08:29 Knowing Yourself: Are You Ready for Therapy?10:51 Personal Anecdotes and Therapy Insights14:57 Final Tips for Finding a Good Therapist23:35 Podcast Announcements and Hiatus

How to Find a Good Therapist: Personal Experiences and Practical AdviceIn this episode, the host addresses their audience after a brief hiatus, expressing appreciation for the feedback received on the podcast.

They discuss a listener-requested follow-up to Episode 4, 'How to Find a Good Therapist.'

The host emphasizes that podcast advice is no substitute for professional mental health help and delves into their personal journey with therapy.

Topics covered include the importance of finding a therapist who is the right fit for an individual's emotional and spiritual readiness, differences in attachment styles, and levels of therapeutic work such as inner child healing and DBT/CBT. The episode concludes with an analogy comparing the slow, incremental progress in therapy to a child's development and stresses the importance of sticking with therapy while also knowing one's limits.

00:00 Introduction and Listener Feedback

00:20 Revisiting Episode Four: Finding a Good Therapist

01:26 The Importance of Professional Help

03:01 Personal Experience with Therapy

05:32 Understanding Attachment Styles

11:58 Therapy Progress and Expectations

16:02 Finding the Right Therapist

20:34 Dating and Emotional Availability

24:58 Conclusion and Upcoming Topics

The Importance of Emotional Support and Understanding BPDIn this episode, the speaker discusses the critical need for individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) to seek external perspectives and support from trusted friends to counteract extreme views. The discussion highlights how trauma responses can create self-doubt and the importance of reassurance and affirmations. The conversation also explores the broader issue of mental health education, arguing for its inclusion in school curricula to better equip individuals to handle emotional regulation and mental wellbeing. The speaker reflects on their personal journey with BPD, the gaps in mental health care, and the importance of patience, empathy, and fact-based advice in supporting loved ones with BPD. Suggestions include verifying the credibility of information sourced from social media and other platforms.00:00 Introduction: The Importance of Reaching Out02:10 The Role of Affirmations and Reassurance04:29 Mental Health Education: What We Should Have Learned08:25 Challenges in Seeking Help12:12 Understanding BPD: Diagnosis and Information14:54 Supporting Loved Ones with BPD18:17 The Importance of Credible Information

Understanding BPD: Part Two with Anna

In this episode of the 'You Make It Happen' podcast, Anna returns for part two of her discussion on Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Anna shares her personal journey of discovering her BPD diagnosis following an accident and elaborates on the symptoms and experiences associated with the disorder. Key topics include the comorbidity of BPD with other conditions like anxiety and depression, the emotional roller coaster of symptoms, and the importance of patience and understanding in managing relationships with someone who has BPD. Anna also distinguishes between dissociation and compartmentalization and emphasizes the importance of seeking professional help for an accurate diagnosis.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:46 Anna's Diagnosis Journey

03:36 Understanding BPD Symptoms

08:08 Living with BPD

16:43 Managing Relationships with BPD

17:48 Advice and Final Thoughts

Healing and Self-Reassurance: A Journey with Ashraf from Travel Through Trauma - Part 2In this podcast episode, Ashraf, the CEO of Travel Through Trauma, joins the host to discuss her personal and professional journey toward healing and self-reassurance. They explore the significance of self-validation, the impact of childhood trauma, and the importance of intrinsic value and peace over external achievements. The conversation delves into the challenges of fostering self-compassion, the process of forgiveness, and the role of community support in personal growth. The episode wraps up with a discussion on legacy, vulnerability, and finding motivation beyond societal expectations.00:00 Introduction and Gratitude00:39 Therapeutic Exercises and Self-Reassurance02:13 Intrinsic Value and Peace03:44 Unlearning Societal Expectations07:09 Healing and Forgiveness09:13 The Never-Ending Journey of Healing16:11 The Importance of Vulnerability16:46 Connecting Through Shared Experiences19:49 Social Media and Mental Health21:05 Conclusion and Future Plans

Healing Through Travel with Ashraf from Travel Through TraumaIn this episode of 'You Make It Happen', the host welcomes Ashraf, CEO and thought leader of Travel Through Trauma. The conversation delves into Ashraf's inspiring journey of overcoming generational trauma and childhood abuse, and how she found healing through solo travel. Ashraf shares her story of battling complex PTSD, the importance of prioritizing one's happiness, and how her nonprofit organization aims to help others heal through travel. The discussion touches on the power of stepping out of one's environment, discovering self-worth, and the profound impact of solo travel on personal growth and resilience.00:00 Introduction to the Episode00:31 Meet Ashraf: CEO and Thought Leader01:13 Ashraf's Background and Generational Trauma03:35 The Healing Journey Begins04:44 Discovering Solo Travel07:49 The Birth of Travel Through Trauma12:51 Reflections on Pain and Healing22:20 Concluding Thoughts and Encouragement

Navigating Life and Healing: Insights from a Layperson

In part two of this series, host and guest Danielle delve into topics surrounding life, grief, healing, travel, and personal growth. They discuss the value of lay perspectives on self-improvement, the intricacies of therapy, and how anyone can work on self-healing outside of professional help. They explore the impact of kindness, the challenges of asking for help, and the significance of gratitude and joy. They also touch on personal anecdotes, book recommendations like Dr. Brene Brown's work and 'Happy Fat' by Sofie Hagen, and thoughts on engaging in activities like roller derby and pickleball for decompression.

00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast

00:29 The Value of Non-Professional Perspectives

01:50 Therapy and Self-Improvement

02:42 The Stigma Around Therapy

04:15 Asking for Help and Vulnerability

06:49 Venting vs. Processing Emotions

08:45 Finding the Right Therapist

09:56 Personal Growth Through Therapy

14:45 Life's Duality: Horrible and Beautiful

15:47 The Power of Gratitude

17:32 The Power of Gratitude and Joy

18:38 The Importance of Kindness

21:28 Struggles with Compassion

22:33 Pet Peeves and Personal Irks

25:06 Quick Quiz Questions

30:15 Final Thoughts and Advice

Navigating Life's Journey with Danielle's Story of Resilience and Self-Discovery

In this episode of the 'You Make It Happen' podcast, the host introduces Danielle, a guest who shares her life journey, experiences with vulnerability, grief, and personal growth. Danielle, who hails from Washington State and has a secure upbringing, opens up about her early marriage, the sudden death of her husband, and her subsequent path toward self-discovery. Emphasizing the importance of emotional openness and personal boundaries, Danielle reflects on the impact of travel and the pursuit of happiness on her healing process. The episode delves into the idea that personal development can take many forms outside traditional therapy, highlighting the significance of introspection and the courage to be vulnerable. The conversation also touches on the role of resilience in overcoming challenges and the importance of kindness in dealing with difficult people.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview

00:58 Danielle's Background and Upbringing

01:36 Marriage and Personal Loss

02:36 Personal Growth and Healing

07:36 Travel and Self-Discovery

18:37 Boundaries and Shame Resilience

23:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode of 'You Make It Happen,' the host, Missy, delves into the concept of real self-care and distinguishes it from escapism. She emphasizes the importance of not just engaging in popular self-care activities like yoga, meditation, and therapy, but actually doing the hard work of feeling and processing emotions such as shame, anger, and grief. Missy shares her personal journey, including years of unproductive therapy and repressed emotions, and stresses the importance of finding the right therapist and being truly self-compassionate. The discussion covers the challenges of setting boundaries, the cultural pressures in the U.S. around work ethic, and the need for genuine rest. Missy invites listeners to rethink their approaches to self-care, focusing on what genuinely renews and heals rather than merely consuming information or engaging in surface-level activities.

Understanding ADHD, Numbing, and Shame: Navigating Mental WellnessIn this episode of 'You. Make It Happen.', the host addresses the challenges of maintaining a podcast while balancing mental health, particularly focusing on ADHD and its impact on energy and executive function. She discusses how ADHD results in executive function paralysis and shares personal experiences of managing the overwhelming feelings associated with the disorder. The episode also delves into the topic of numbing—using activities or substances to avoid feeling negative emotions. The host shares insights from Russell Brand's book, 'Recovery: Freedom from Our Addictions', and emphasizes the importance of allowing oneself to feel emotions fully. Vulnerable anecdotes are shared to illustrate how old emotional patterns can re-emerge unpredictably. The discussion highlights the struggle with shame, the need for emotional support, and strategies for managing difficult emotions.