You Make It Happen

Understanding ADHD, Numbing, and Shame: Navigating Mental WellnessIn this episode of 'You. Make It Happen.', the host addresses the challenges of maintaining a podcast while balancing mental health, particularly focusing on ADHD and its impact on energy and executive function. She discusses how ADHD results in executive function paralysis and shares personal experiences of managing the overwhelming feelings associated with the disorder. The episode also delves into the topic of numbing—using activities or substances to avoid feeling negative emotions. The host shares insights from Russell Brand's book, 'Recovery: Freedom from Our Addictions', and emphasizes the importance of allowing oneself to feel emotions fully. Vulnerable anecdotes are shared to illustrate how old emotional patterns can re-emerge unpredictably. The discussion highlights the struggle with shame, the need for emotional support, and strategies for managing difficult emotions.

In this episode of 'You Make It Happen,' host Missy addresses listener requests on how to identify unhealthy or toxic relationships. Missy explores key indicators such as feeling unsafe, unsupported, disrespected, or controlled. She elaborates on the 'Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse' for relationships—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling, as defined by John and Julie Gottman. The episode also includes listener questions about dealing with unsatisfactory sex lives and relationship boundaries, offering practical advice on maintaining overall relationship health. Additionally, Missy shares travel tips, such as the value of a Priority Pass and travel credit cards.In this episode of 'You Make It Happen,' host Missy addresses listener requests on how to identify unhealthy or toxic relationships. Missy explores key indicators such as feeling unsafe, unsupported, disrespected, or controlled. She elaborates on the 'Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse' for relationships—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling, as defined by John and Julie Gottman. The episode also includes listener questions about dealing with unsatisfactory sex lives and relationship boundaries, offering practical advice on maintaining overall relationship health. Additionally, Missy shares travel tips, such as the value of a Priority Pass and travel credit cards.

Men, Vulnerability, and Grief: A Deep Dive with JasonIn this episode of 'You Make It Happen,' host Missy welcomes guest Jason to discuss the crucial topics of men and vulnerability, exploring how men handle grief and shame. Jason shares his personal journey of raising two kids with special needs and the intense grief following the loss of his son, which led him to help others through writing and community building. They emphasize the importance of men being emotionally open and how societal norms impact male vulnerability. Jason offers practical advice for those struggling to find therapists and discusses generational differences in coping with emotions. The episode wraps with engaging questions about influential books, movies, and travel experiences.00:00 Introduction and Podcast Promotion01:03 Meet Jason: A Journey of Resilience02:53 Facing Unimaginable Challenges07:06 Grief and Healing: A Personal Journey24:59 The Power of Vulnerability29:14 The Importance of Family Lessons29:37 Societal Messages and Male Vulnerability29:45 The Male Grief Constitution30:34 Safe Spaces for Men31:02 The Double Standard in Vulnerability34:46 Listening to Understand, Not to Respond40:15 The Need for Peace at Home43:05 Influential Art and Decompression48:05 Travel Stories and Recommendations53:23 Final Thoughts and Gratitude

Understanding Values and Boundaries with Missy the Traveler. In this episode of You Make It Happen, host Missy the Traveler delves into the topics of values and boundaries. She starts by exploring what core values are, referencing Brene Brown's work, and providing a process to narrow down your values to two core principles. Missy shares her own values—integrity and vulnerability—and discusses their significance in her life. She emphasizes the importance of practicing values rather than just professing them.

The episode also touches upon the concept of boundaries, how to set them, and their importance in maintaining mental health. With personal anecdotes and advice, Missy encourages listeners to introspect and define their values and boundaries, offering a way to contribute positively to their mental well-being.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:55 Understanding Core Values

04:34 Identifying Your Core Values

06:58 Living Your Values

08:56 Exploring Vulnerability

11:31 Childhood Experiences and Core Wounds

23:35 The Importance of Boundaries

30:08 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

Guest episode with Conny Wladkowsk

Conny's bio: Conny Wladkowski is a hypnotherapist, HypnoCoach, author and international speaker. 

Conny specialises in Anxiety and Trauma Relief.

She is the Creator of the SHINE Trauma Release Process, Healing from Trauma without regression.

She was on the path of wanting to help others from a very young age. Having learned multiple modalities for over 20 years, combined with her own life experiences and healing journey she has created some profound processes. Having suffered from trauma and anxiety herself she knows how debilitating this is. This why she is so passionate about this work and helping people to shift from surviving to thriving. 

Conny's contact info: [email protected] https://www.besthypnotherapymelbourne.com.au

In this episode of 'You Make It Happen,' the host, Missy the Traveler, discusses the critical importance of mental health, emphasizing its profound impact on physical health and overall well-being. She shares alarming statistics, such as how a lack of strong connections can increase mortality by 50%. The host also explores survival tactics from childhood that adversely affect adulthood, touches on the power of healing through therapy, and debunks common misconceptions about mental health. The script includes relatable examples and practical advice for recognizing and dealing with cognitive biases and emotional distress. Additionally, Missy offers travel tips on transportation, useful apps, and budget-friendly meal options, blending heavy mental health topics with lighter, practical travel advice. The episode concludes with a reminder to work through personal issues thoughtfully and not project them onto others.

In this episode of 'You Make It Happen,' the host welcomes Lisa Cooper Ellison, a trauma-informed writing coach and podcast host of 'Writing Your Resilience.' Lisa shares her personal journey of overcoming significant trauma, including intergenerational issues and her brother's suicide. She details her background in counseling and how it led her to combine mental health work with writing. The episode explores what it means to be trauma-informed, the importance of understanding and making meaning from trauma, and Lisa's approach to helping clients heal through writing. The conversation also touches on modalities for healing trauma, the role of travel in healing, and the significance of recognizing and addressing shame. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and persistence in the ongoing journey of healing.

Lisa Ellison Writer, Editor, and Coach

Website: www.lisacooperellison.com

Writing Your Resilience  Podcast

Writing Your Resilience  Substack

Instagram: @lisacooperellison

YouTube: @lisacooperellison  

Navigating Relationship Challenges with Intention and HealingIn this episode of 'You Make It Happen' podcast, Missy interviews relationship coach Matt about his journey into relationship coaching and his personal healing path. Matt shares his background of growing up in a loving household, the struggles he faced in his marriage, and how he discovered the importance of intentional effort and nonviolent communication in relationships. The conversation delves into the significance of healing, self-awareness, and maintaining healthy relationships. Matt also discusses his coaching practices, personal development, and the importance of validating and understanding emotional needs in both children and adults.

Book recommendations include 'Good Inside' by Dr. Becky Kennedy and 'Conscious Parenting' by Dr.Shefali.

Bio: Matt Marquez is the founder of Grow More Joy Relationship Coaching, and he helps married couples learn how to rely on eachother.

IG: @growingmorejoy

FB: @growingmorejoy

Website: growmorejoy.com

Freebie: 3 reasons why loving marriages still feel hard (and what to do about it TODAY)

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

00:21 Matt's Background and Early Relationship

00:55 Marriage Realities and Struggles

02:05 Discovering Nonviolent Communication

02:42 Journey to Relationship Coaching

03:35 Healing Path and Personal Growth

05:28 Parenting and Personal Development

08:06 Understanding and Validating Emotions

15:35 Challenges in Adult Relationships

18:42 Emotional Regulation and Coping Mechanisms

26:25 Processing Emotions Physically

27:01 Social Constraints on Emotional Expression

28:23 Gender Differences in Emotional Expression

30:30 Travel and Healing

31:34 Coaching Experience Overview

35:31 Quick Quiz Question Round

43:01 Final Thoughts and Farewell

Bonus part 2!

Central nervous system regulation techniques part one! Bonus for the holidays.