You Make It Happen

In this episode I get pretty vulnerable and personal. I tell the story of how I was fired from SPD for using and asserting my domestic violence leave, which is related to the story briefly told in episode one. This is the continuation of how I ended up being harassed, and eventually fired by an over zealous and likely narcissistic bad manager, who took it upon herself to routinely threaten, and eventually fire me for using domestic violence leave. Yes, really.

In this episode I go over some of my fav DBT skills for distress tolerance. Big T trauma versus little T trauma, and of course, some awesome travel tips! Follow me on social at: You Make It Happen Podcast on Facebook, Missythetraveler on Instagram, and Missy.traveler on TikTok. 

Recs: https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com

https://share.libbyapp.com/title/4127518

I'm so excited for today's Episode. Laurel and I get into her background, her experience with ENM (ethical non-monogamy), kink, healing pockets of trauma through orgasm, and so much more! Who would have thought you can heal trauma stored in the body through sex and sexual exploration? Apparently plenty of people already know about this largely untapped resource of trauma healing that the rest of us are slowly discovering. Laurel and I get fully into the conversation about how she discovered this was something that worked for her, to help heal trauma pockets stored in her body. Listen for allll the fun details.

Laurel's bio:

Laurel is an accomplished professional who has spent years doing the work on herself in therapy as well as various other mediums of healing including solo travel time. She went through the process of trying out various therapists until she found one who was a good fit. She has also found success in trauma healing through sex and exploration of kink, specifically by accessing pockets of trauma from sexual expression.

Laurel also builds her shame resilience through travel. She loves to thoroughly prepare for her trips and then decide what specifically to explore when she arrives at her destination. She continues to follow her path of self improvement, growth, self-love, craft creation, healing, and lifelong learning as some of her many passions.

Laurel's rec's :

No Bad Parts" Richard Schwartz - https://ifs-institute.com/nobadparts

Sarah Jane Maas - series - https://sarahjmaas.com

Laurel's TikTok:

https://www.tiktok.com/@manicpolydreamgirl?_t=8pj4a96nEkN&_r=1

Laurel's Esty Shop:

https://imcatchingfeelings.etsy.com

I am so grateful and thankful to have Maddy Muntz on the show with us today! Maddy is an exceptionally talented relationship coach who has done her trauma healing work on herself and continues to do her work maintaining a growth mindset. She knows what healing looks like for her and what self-love truly means. 

Maddy is exceptionally intelligent, inescapably articulate and unparalleled in her abilities to see things a lot of people miss. This makes her a next level phenomenal relationship coach, speaking from firsthand experience. 

Sometimes she is able to take new clients, but if you are unable to schedule a coaching session with her she can refer you to a colleague who may be able to get you an introductory session for free. Contact Maddy for more details. 

Maddy’s bio: 

Maddy is a local Seattleite, who has spent years of her life abroad both for school and for pleasure. She did her undergraduate degree in Edinburgh, and loves to travel. Maddy has traveled and done extensive trauma work on herself as well as lots of different paths of healing. She is currently pursuing her masters in applied psychology while working, also while maintaining her relationship coaching business.  

Maddy’s contact info: [email protected]; https://calendly.com/madelinemuntz/60-minute-coaching-session?month=2024-09

Maddy’s rec’s: 

Jigsaw - Daniel Sloss - https://www.netflix.com/title/80223685

Radical Candor - https://www.radicalcandor.com/the-book/

Fair Play - https://www.fairplaylife.com/the-book

Raimee's bio:

Raimee has been featured on Good Morning America and is a well known TikTok and Instagram travel influencer. In 2008, she took her first trip to Honduras and Belize at just age 14!! She then fell in love with experiencing different cultures. Just a few years later she did her high school senior trip to Europe and realized she wanted to spend more time there as well, in 2012 she took a study abroad program in Ireland and then stayed to become an au pair. In 2014, she studied abroad again in Germany, France, and the Netherlands! From 2017-2021 she worked for the incredible @nomadicmatt remotely managing media and content while getting to explore 5 different continents. In 2021 she had a TikTok she made about one of her travel experiences in Greece go viral and she has been sharing her travel tips, tricks, advice and recommendations ever since. She has also done a lot of work on herself both in and out of therapy, learning to be vulnerable, show up as her authentic self, and do the work to cultivate more joy, love, gratitude, and authenticity in her life. She lives in LA with her adorable cat, and travels frequently for both business and pleasure!

Raimee's recommendations/mentions:

The Alchemist - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18144590-the-alchemist 

How To Do The Work - Nicole LaPera - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/50997029-how-to-do-the-work

Fleabag - https://www.amazon.com/Fleabag-Season-1/dp/B0875K9Q4P

Past lives - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Past_Lives_(film)

Everything Everywhere All At Once - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Everything_Everywhere_All_at_Once

The Worst Person in The World - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Everything_Everywhere_All_at_Once 

monos backpack: 

https://monos.com/products/metro-backpack?variant=43422858772679¤cy=USD&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=US&utm_content=Metro%20Backpack&nbt=nb%3Aadwords%3Ag%3A18035889529%3A141243123098%3A616267632381&nb_adtype=pla&nb_kwd=&nb_ti=pla-2266714962220&nb_mi=127978179&nb_pc=online&nb_pi=shopify_US_4817825431626_

Away alumnium carry on: 

https://www.awaytravel.com/suitcases/aluminum-carry-on?color=silver

Finding a "good enough," therapist. I have been so excited to release this episode. The content is just so valuable and I'm glad to be able to respond to listeners requests!

Rec: 1 - https://www.overdrive.com/media/6904158/no-bad-parts,

Rec 2 - https://www.overdrive.com/media/4500736/complex-ptsd, 

Rec 3 -  https://share.libbyapp.com/title/1438715  

Rec 4 - https://www.netflix.com/title/81010166 (Brene Brown the Call to Courage)

In this episode, Lauren and I discuss some of her initial anxiety about leaving the country, setting healthy boundaries with family, even while traveling, and how travel has helped her come out of her shell and assisted in her trauma healing process.

Lauren's bio:

Lauren is an accomplished professional living in sunny southern California with her partner and two doggos. She has spent decades in trauma therapy, and is familiar with attachment theory. Lauren recently conquered her anxieties surrounding travel and took a European cruise to seven different countries! She graciously agreed to be on the show and share her experience with anxiety and travel. In this episode she shares about how travel has helped her self discovery process and assisted in her setting healthy boundaries, even with immediate family members. Any questions for Lauren can be directed to the show. Missy.traveler on Instagram and TikTok, and You Make It Happen Podcast on Facebook.

Today we have our first guest, Leslie and an exciting conversation about life, earned secure attachment, love, travel, and great recommendations!

Leslie is an accomplished, and highly educated woman in her early 50’s, living in sunny southern California. She identifies as formerly anxiously attached, now having earned her secure attachment. She is a mother of two adult children, she is also a wife, an elementary school teacher for over two decades, and she has spent over a decade doing the work on herself, both in and out of therapy. 

Leslie has truly earned her secure attachment and found a loving, secure relationship with another earned secure attachment partner. They live together with their two doggos, Ziggy and Jax, and several other family members in their beautiful home in San Diego, California. Any questions for Leslie can be sent to the show, and will be relayed to answer at her discretion. 

Leslie's recommendations: 

https://tv.apple.com/us/show/ted-lasso/umc.cmc.vtoh0mn0xn7t3c643xqonfzy

https://www.overdrive.com/media/5115465/hold-me-tight (hold me tight) 

https://share.libbyapp.com/title/5019847#library-hpl (attached)

https://share.libbyapp.com/title/4965697 (untamed) 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtC6J3ybDw_I_1oahIYIAoQ (Brianna MacWilliams) 

In this episode I discuss how self-love relates to solo travel, what to pack when traveling on a budget (this episode is travel tip heavy!), and more!

rec 1 - https://www.overdrive.com/media/5305256/the-gifts-of-imperfection

rec 2 - https://share.libbyapp.com/title/5651132

By request, breakups and the attachment spectrum. You Make It Happen's first bonus episode! Enjoy!

Travel tips included, as always!