When you grow up having not learned how to put up boundaries you often end up becoming a people pleaser or you develop people-pleasing tendencies. Us people pleasers do things that feel uncomfortable and we often have a hard time saying no, all in our efforts to "please." This means that we are constantly unhappy and in a circle of longing and searching to be whole. Check out the 5 Signs You're A People Pleaser by Psych2Go via https://youtu.be/rhFDM4YtAjM

This week my new cohost Steven and I chat on one of my most exciting and challenging episodes I've done yet. We talk about being in relationships when you are battling mental illnesses and what exactly one can do to make sure that the relationship works.

Welcome to our podcast Your Mind Matters Too where we don't hold back on conversations about mental health. Our hope is that the insight we share resonates with you to take care of yourself better and to make intentional choices to redefine what peace and happiness looks like for you!

So often we get lost in the daily stressors of life that we forget when our bodies need a timeout. The only way for our bodies to signal we are in need of a break is through certain psychological cues that amount to burnouts. In this episode I talk about that and how imperative it is for us to take keen note of such cues to better our mental health.

A few years ago when I was younger and naively trusting, a man close to me sexually assaulted me. I didn't know it at the time just how crippled by shame i would be after the experience or how extremely detrimental it would be for my mental health. Shame keeps persons who have suffered trauma from seeking help, and I hope with this episode, I am able to take back the power for myself and take a step closer to fully healing.

As women, I genuinely believe we can do literally anything and not break a sweat. But realistically, I also believe we cannot constantly be as unstoppable as we wish to be and that at times, we fall and we break and we stumble and it's not pretty. For anyone. Most especially for our mental health. In this episode, I implore with every woman to reach out of their comfort zones by asking for help.

Intrusive thoughts are thoughts that you cannot control. They come at your subconscious and almost always becomes detrimental to your mental health. The key, in this episode, is to harness these thoughts into a properly regulated mindset. You cannot control what pops into your mind, but you have control over what you can do about it!

Toxic masculinity works to undermine all that is virtuous and stable about our interrelationships. Worse of all, it stigmatizes the safe spaces that men need to talk about their mental health. So on this episode, I am joined by Robin Daywell, podcaster and radio presenter and Jonson Alex and we explore the ways in which we can destigmatize mental health in men by denouncing toxic masculinity.

This is an interview episode with Onesmo Petro, Founder of Mental Health Tanzania about triggers and stressors and what they are and how they impact our mental health. Onesmo is a psychologist and has over 2 years experience in the field, and as he talks me through triggers, I learn so much about them and why it's so important to identify them so as to get better.

Anyone that is battling mental illnesses has at least once or twice had thoughts of suicide or some sort of suicide ideation. This week I talk about suicide thoughts and what to say to anyone that has them and comes to you with it. If you are having suicidal thoughts please talk to someone and reach out for help! Xx.