Have you ever said “I can’t stand it anymore” about your relationship? Maybe it’s because your partner does X or doesn’t do X. You don’t feel in control and your needs aren’t being met. You have one foot out the door… but you don’t leave and you don’t commit to making it work. You think your partner is the problem, yet hope one day he/she will wake up and everything will be better. You’re stuck and miserable.

You might think leaving is the answer, but I actually suggest something different. Instead of blaming your mate for all the problems and then storming out the door, stay. Dig both feet in and get to the root of your problems. Not your partner’s problems, YOUR problems. It’s easier to point the finger at someone else than take personal responsibility, but this is a chance to learn and grow. Look at what’s really going on with you. What beliefs are operating? Do you feel unworthy? Unlovable?

Get past all the complaining about your situation and connect with yourself emotionally. Really see your partner for who he/she is and decide if this relationship is something you truly want. You have to fully commit to riding the wave of emotions in order to learn about yourself and what you want. Even if you do leave in the end, you’ll have a better understanding of your role and how you showed up. That’s growth you can take into your next relationship, where you’ll have a greater chance at happiness.

I received a question about this podcast and the desire to say "My partner is the issue".....so I have answered this statement on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7esqULpNXDo Check it out! And if you have questions, please email [email protected]