Episode 74: Jess & Jen Langer (Sisters, former tennis players)
🎙 In this episode: I sit down with sisters Jess and Jen Langer, who grew up side by side in the intense world of competitive youth tennis. One sister rose through the national ranks while the other burned out before high school, and together they unpack how personality, pressure, and identity shaped two completely different athletic journeys.
Jess and Jen started tennis at a very young age, both showing early promise and climbing quickly through local, regional, and national tournaments.
🔹 When Talent Meets Pressure
Though their parents kept things balanced, coaches pushed hard, especially for Jen, who was encouraged to pursue sponsorships and a professional track at just 15.
🔹 The Cost of Early Specialization
Jen shares what it was like to leave behind a “normal” high school experience to train at a tennis academy, only to burn out within 18 months.
🔹 Playing for Joy vs. Playing for Results
While Jen chased rankings, Jess played because she loved being with friends and was just as excited to sing the national anthem as she was to compete.
🔹 Nature, Nurture, and Birth Order
The sisters reflect on how their contrasting personalities (and classic big sister/little sister dynamics) shaped their very different relationships with the sport.
🔹 “You Can’t Outplay Who You Are”
Jen talks about being a textbook type-A competitor, while Jess embraced a more balanced, social approach to tennis.
🔹 The Hidden Toll of Youth Sports
Despite her success, Jen reveals that she later needed therapy to process the pressure and emotional weight of her early athletic years.
🔹 Homeschooling for Sports: Proceed with Caution
The sisters offer honest advice for parents considering homeschooling to accommodate training: it’s a massive decision, and kids may not fully understand the long-term trade-offs.
🔹 Mutual Admiration (and a Little Envy)
Jess admires Jen’s drive and intensity; Jen admires Jess’s ability to stay balanced and see beyond competition.
🔹 From Tennis Courts to…Anything But Tennis
Ironically, neither sister plays tennis anymore—though Jen keeps getting nudged toward pro pickleball.
🔹 Absolutely Zero Hot Take Skills
Despite years of elite competition, both admit they are hilariously terrible at knowing what qualifies as a “hot take.”