LOVE IS FEARLESS

#020: What if "be good" is not the goal? / Why can't my kids just behave? Part 2


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Have you ever seen a "Please Don't Feed The Wildlife" sign?  When we feed the wildlife, we change their natural behaviors--and it's not a helpful change.  We can do the same thing with children when we try to conform their behavior, instead of transform them in love.

Here's what BRAVE LOVE says about aiming at the target of maturity instead of good behavior:

  • Requiring our children to "be good," our relationship with them will focus on measuring, comparing, controlling, fixing, or manipulating--and their relationship with us will focus on striving, hiding, rebelling, complaining, or blaming.
  • Helping our children grow up means teaching them who they are, who we are, and who God is.  Our relationship with them gets to focus on building trust, loving them well, and staying connected in relationship.
  • If I get older without knowing my true identity, I will be tempted to:  work for love, go it alone, or I'll live a life less than I was created to enjoy because I'm not experiencing love.

 There is great hope.

 
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