Better Husband

039|Why the Need to "Be Right" Is Destroying Your Marriage. Here’s What to Do Instead


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You’re trying to stay calm. You’re doing your best to show up. But when she says something you disagree with—or finally admits something you’ve been saying for months—something inside you snaps. You want to be right. You want her to see it.

In this episode of Better Husband, we’re talking about the moment you finally hear her… and then ruin the moment by needing credit, clarity, or control. You’ll learn why the need to be right kills connection, how to resist the pull to defend or correct, and what it actually means to lead relationally in those high-stakes moments.

🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✅ Why being right feels good—but never creates connection
✅ The cost of needing credit, even when you’re technically right
✅ What to do when your ego wants to jump in and fix the story
✅ How to create safety instead of defensiveness
✅ What real relational leadership looks like in hard conversations
✅ A mindset shift that helps you stay grounded when everything in you wants to argue

💡 Key Takeaway:

You don’t build trust by proving your point.
You build it by staying present, by staying connected, and by letting go of the need to win.
"Rightness" can’t carry your marriage.
But being relational can.

🔨 Action Steps This Week:

1️⃣ Notice one moment where you feel the urge to correct, defend, or say “I told you so”
2️⃣ Pause. Breathe. Let it go. Stay with her instead of chasing the point
3️⃣ After the conversation, reflect: What felt hard about not being right?
4️⃣ Name what you did differently—and how it shifted the moment

🧠 Reflection Questions:

❓ What part of me needs to be right—and what is it protecting?
❓ When has my need for credit gotten in the way of connection?
❓ What would it look like to lead with presence instead of precision?

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Questions?
📩 Email Me[email protected]

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