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In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the most common and misunderstood dynamics in marriage—complaints. When your wife says things like “You never listen” or “You’re always working,” it’s easy to take it as criticism. But what she’s really expressing is a deeper, unspoken need. And the same goes for you.

Angelo breaks down how to hear what’s beneath the surface, translate complaints into connection, and use the Feedback Wheel to make clean, clear requests without blame or control. You’ll learn how to stay grounded when frustration rises, how to communicate with maturity and ownership, and how to shift from protection to real connection in your marriage.

🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ Why most complaints are actually unspoken needs in disguise
✅ How to hear the meaning beneath your wife’s frustration and stay grounded
✅ The difference between a complaint and a clear request
✅ How to use the Feedback Wheel to ask for what you need without defensiveness
✅ Why taking ownership is one of the most powerful ways to rebuild safety and trust
✅ Simple practices that turn conflict into connection

💡 Key Takeaway:
Complaining protects, but asking connects. Every complaint—yours or hers—is really a request for closeness. When you slow down, listen for the need underneath, and respond with care instead of defense, you create the safety your marriage has been missing.

🔨 Action Steps This Week:
1⃣ Catch the Complaint. Notice when you start with “You always” or “You never.” Pause, breathe, and ask, “What am I really needing right now?” Then reframe it into a request.
2⃣ Listen Beneath Her Words. When your wife complains, resist the urge to defend. Ask yourself, “What might she be needing that she doesn’t know how to say?”
3⃣ Use the Feedback Wheel. Practice the four steps: what you saw, what you made up, what you felt, and what you’d like instead. Then let go of the outcome.
4⃣ Own Your Part. If things get tense, lead with ownership. Say, “I see how I made that harder,” or “I get how my tone came across.” It’s not weakness—it’s leadership.

🧠 Reflection Questions:
❓ How often do I complain about what I’m not getting instead of clearly asking for what I need?
❓ What’s one area of my marriage where I’ve avoided being direct out of fear of disappointment?
❓ When my wife complains, do I react to her tone—or listen for the need underneath?
❓ How have my own defensiveness or withdrawal made it harder for her to feel safe sharing with me?
❓ What would change this week if I chose courage over control and simply asked for what I truly need?

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