A trophy!  Hooray!

We are a culture that gathers to applaud--and that's wonderful. And...interesting.  It's worth asking, "What's the motive? for all the extra events? to celebrate everything? for every child?"

The month of May in America is almost more crowded than December.  Awards ceremonies, sports banquets (for children in elementary school, too,) graduation events--for every grade level...  

It hasn't always been this way.  Is this a change for the better?  

Is it love?  Or is it FOMO?  Is it our "fear of missing out" that's filling our calendars and our children's walls with trophies and awards--and their fingers with championship rings?

What are the long-term benefits?  What are the red flags?

Here's one key concern:  Success alone won't solve the problem of prolonged immaturity.  Maturity is what's required to navigate winning and losing.  What stories are we telling ourselves--and our children--when everyone gets a trophy?

Join Janet and Doug in this episode, and share these TAKE AWAYs with your friends--as a place to start a valuable discussion:

• A trophy for all disconnects us in relationship--because it's not true. We didn't all win.  It's not building trust between adults and children--instead, it's too often a way to avoid hard conversations...that are true...instead of comfortable.
• We can't extinguish our children's shame stories--if they have ignited our own.  This is the benefit of a healthy community.
• What is a Brave Love definition of success?  Staying connected in relationships of trust and navigating struggle and success in truth, not lies---and love, not shame.

 

Follow this link to listen now--and to subscribe.  Share this episode with your friends, or your small group.  Send Janet and Doug an email with your considerations and questions. 

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There is great hope!

 

These resources are mentioned in this post:

 

An invitation from Doug and Janet to visit Fredericksburg, TX--come see us! https://www.visitfredericksburgtx.com/plan/visitor-information-center/

https://www.absolutecharm.com/

https://www.fbglodging.com/

 

A guest blogpost--from Janet!  http://www.homegrownlearners.com/home/the-joy-of-raising-children-who-ponder

 

Janet's book-- https://smile.amazon.com/Education-Design-Not-Default-Fearless/dp/057840835X/