Are sex fantasies good? bad? Normal? Do they cause you problems? Can you not have an orgasm without them? Do you enjoy them but you don’t know how to talk with your partner about them?

People carry a lot of shame and guilt around certain fantasies or around having enjoyed certain negative non-consensual sexual experiences even.

I think it’s this very shame and guilt that gets people locked into certain addictive and dysfunctional fantasies and patterns that keep them from feeling what they really