What if the romance that felt like destiny was actually data collection for control? We sit down with a counselor-in-training who specializes in narcissistic abuse to map the full arc—from the intoxicating highs of love bombing to the quiet, confusing grind of devaluation, gaslighting, and financial isolation. Together we unpack why narcissism is best understood as a spectrum of traits, how shame fuels rage and blame-shifting, and why change is rare without deep humility and accountability.

We dig into the types you’ll meet at home and work: the charismatic grandiose leader who dazzles in public, the brooding vulnerable type who lives in grievance, and the communal figure who performs virtue while exploiting in private. You’ll learn why boundaries often provoke more testing, how to gray rock without second-guessing yourself, and when “no contact” is safest. For those who can’t leave yet, we offer practical scripts and strategies to limit engagement, stop taking the bait, and protect your mental space.

If you grew up with an emotionally immature or narcissistic parent, this conversation speaks directly to the people-pleasing reflex that ties worth to productivity and usefulness. We guide you to shift from performance to self-worth: naming needs, building small boundary reps, and choosing safe people to celebrate your wins. You’ll hear how to grieve the fantasy of who someone should be and accept who they are, so you can stop relying on unsafe partners for joy, validation, or support.

Ready to reclaim your power and clarity? Press play, learn the signs, and take one concrete step toward healthier boundaries. If this resonated, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a review to help others find these tools. Your story can start a chain reaction of healing.

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