September 05, 2024

145 | Fair Love: Navigating Birth Order Challenges as a Parent

16 minutes

Show Notes:

Today, we explore strategies to ensure each child feels individually loved. Join us as we talk about expert tips and heartfelt advice on how to appreciate our kids, no matter their place in the sibling lineup!

Enjoy!

-Kendra

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Quotes:

"Every child needs to feel seen, heard, and valued for who they are, not just where they fall in the birth order." - Dr. Laura Markham

"Balancing attention among children doesn't mean giving them equal time, but rather, giving them what they individually need." - Dr. Kevin Leman

"When parents make a conscious effort to connect with each child individually, it fosters a sense of security and belonging in the family." - Dr. Jane Nelsen

10 Tips from Parenting Experts:

Personalized One-on-One Time: Schedule regular one-on-one time with each child. This special time, even if short, helps them feel valued and heard. (morning bike ride, family secret service together, get-to-know-you questions, look them in the eye when talking, ask questions)

Recognize Unique Strengths: Acknowledge and celebrate each child’s unique talents and achievements. This boosts their self-esteem and sense of individuality. (help them nurture their gifts in simple ways, share why you love their gifts and ask them why they value their strengths, have them explore strengths and gifts with online quizzes, etc)

Listen Actively: Give each child your undivided attention when they are speaking to show that their thoughts and feelings matter.(eye contact, no phones, communicate the need for a better time if you can’t be present and then follow through)

Create Family Traditions: Establish rituals or traditions that involve every family member and highlight each child’s contributions. (each child picks a favorite fam tradition each year to help implement)

Avoid Comparisons: Focus on each child’s individual progress and avoid comparing siblings to one another.

Tailor Your Approach: Adjust your parenting style to meet the different needs and personalities of each child. (some may want more control, need more movement, more praise, etc)

Encourage Teamwork: Promote activities that require cooperation and teamwork among siblings, reinforcing the idea that each child is important to the family unit.

Be Fair, Not Equal: Fairness is about meeting each child's needs rather than treating them identically. Ensure each child gets what they need to thrive. (phones, tech, bed times, weaknesses/strengths)

Set Clear Expectations: Communicate your expectations clearly to each child to prevent feelings of favoritism or neglect.

Seek Their Input: Involve your children in family decisions to make them feel respected and valued.

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By Kendra Nielson | Therapist, Counselor, Self Development Educator, Fulfillment Therapy Founder, Consultant,

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