When insecurity takes over, most of us double down on self-improvement. But what if freedom doesn’t come from focusing more on yourself - but less?

In this powerful conversation, Dr. Alison and author of Free of Me and Gazing at God, Sharon Hodde Miller, discuss the promises and pitfalls of self-esteem culture - and why a bigger story of belovedness, stewardship, and connection sets us free.  We talk about how self-preoccupation doesn’t improve self-esteem, why “just love yourself more” can reinforce the problem, and how beholding God (not abandoning yourself) recenters your life with humility and purpose.

In this episode, we cover:

Get your hands on a copy of Sharon's books! You can find them here:

📚Free of Me: Why Life Is Better When It's Not about You

📚Gazing at God: A 40-Day Journey to Greater Freedom from Self

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Episode 99: I Shouldn’t Feel Like My Spirit is Broken

Episode 67: The Inextricable Link Between Faith & Emotional Healing with Cindy Gao

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