The Best of You

183: The Real Reason You Compare Yourself (and How to Heal It)


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It can happen so fast - you feel grateful one moment, and five minutes on Instagram later you’re suddenly feeling small or behind. But what if comparison isn’t the problem itself, but a messenger?

Dr. Alison explores how comparison, when we pause to listen, can actually reveal our deepest longings and lead us back to connection with God, with others, and with ourselves. She explains why comparison is wired into us, what it’s trying to show us, and how to shift from competition to curiosity and compassion.

This conversation invites you to slow down, notice what stirs inside you when comparison shows up, and remember: your story is unfolding at its own sacred pace.

In this episode, we cover:

  • Why comparison isn’t always toxic, and what it’s really telling you
  • How to move from calibration to condemnation (and back again)
  • The two types of comparison
  • A simple three-step practice to use when you find yourself comparing
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    Other episodes you might like :

    Episode 37: The Problem with Toxic Thinking

    Episode 140: If You Struggle with Guilt and Second-Guessing Yourself, This Will Set You Free

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