The Best of You

185: For the Ones Who Are Overwhelmed and Tempted to People-Please — A Real-Time Practice to Help You Return to God’s Loving Presence


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If you’ve ever found yourself wide awake at night replaying a conversation

If you spiral through guilt after setting even the gentlest boundary

If you carry everyone else’s emotions while losing sight of your own

You’re in good company.

In today’s episode, Dr. Alison shares personally about these moments in her own life and guides you through a real-time practice you can do right where you are.

It’s the most effective tool we’ve found to help when overwhelm rises, when you’re tempted to slip back into people-pleasing, or when conflict sends your nervous system into overdrive.

Instead of overthinking, overanalyzing, or pushing your feelings aside, this practice helps you:

  • Notice what’s happening inside with kindness
  • Connect with the part of you that’s working overtime to keep you safe
  • Offer compassion to your own soul — the same compassion you extend so easily to others
  • Invite God’s loving, steady presence into the places that feel tangled, tense, or afraid
  • 📥 Grab your 3 free Boundaries For Your Soul resources here 

    📥 Download Alison’s free printable with the five boundary tools when you sign up for her weekly email.

    If you liked this episode, you’ll love: 

    Episode 75: Your Secret Weapon Against Stress and Anxiety

    Episode 171: Why People Pleasing Actually Makes You Feel More Alone, and 3 Steps to Create Real Connection


    📖 Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here

    💬 Got a question? Call 307-429-2525 and leave a message for a future episode.

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