One of the foundational agreements we’ve made in our partnership is a commitment to “true mutuality” and “mutual responsibility.”

In this episode, we elaborate on what it looks like to bring mutual ownership to all of our outcomes, how we work with cultural programming regarding roles and responsibilities, and how we work through challenges that come up in this collaborative approach. 

For us, true mutuality means having equal power and equal say in our partnership. Mutual responsibility means no one person can be blamed for failures or given sole credit for our successes. Both of us are responsible. We get into examples of what we’re currently working on and what we’re doing to support each other’s success in meeting those expectations. 

Small ruptures like clashing over taking out the trash or tidying the house have given us opportunities for examining our own cultural programming and then having the opportunity to make different choices together per our agreement.

In our conversation, we address the benefits and challenges of taking on this agreement of mutuality, and how couples can integrate shared responsibility when someone in the partnership is neurodivergent or struggles with their mental health. 

Our invitation for you this week is to investigate where you feel like you and your partner have defaulted into a siloed mentality when it comes to responsibility. Is that working for you, or are you excited by the possibilities that we touch on in this episode? That reflection could be the first step towards more self-awareness and having a conversation about it with your partner.

Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. 

Topics Covered:

• The benefits of working with your partner to integrate true responsibility and mutuality
• Where couples typically get stuck when creating agreements and systems of shared responsibility
• Examples of how we aim to uphold this vow in our everyday lives 
• Catching where cultural programming takes over and challenges the ‘We’ approach 
• Prioritizing the inspired quality that you want for your partnership above all else 

Resources Mentioned

• The Art Of We Weekly Newsletter

Get in Touch: 

• Art Of We Website
• Art of We Instagram 
• Integrative Psychiatry Institute: Integrative Mental Wellness & Psychedelic Therapy Training

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