19 Year Old Shrink

In this episode I discuss ways to start off the new school year on the right foot. Much of the advice came from Ed Mylett and his new book, “The Power of One More.” In this one, he talks about the idea of how many people approach life: as a marathon. They only check in with themselves once or twice a year around New Years to see how they’ve done with their goals and what they want to accomplish the next year.

But he mentions how more success comes from constantly having checkpoints to monitor your success and treating them as little sprints instead of a marathon. When we have little sprints of action, we speed up the urgency of getting things done.

He describes his way of doing this as 3 days in one. Instead of saying, “I want to get this accomplished today,” he says, “Day 1 I will do this, Day 2 this, and Day 3 I will do this.” He organizes his days like this: 6 am to 12 pm is day one, 12 pm to 6 pm is day 2, and 6 pm to 12 am is day 3.

By doing this, he sees himself accomplishing 3 days of work in one days time, and compounded over time makes an astronomical difference. So, in your life, understanding what your values are and what you want to see more of, start designing your days into different categories to make that come to fruition!

@edmylett, The Power of One More Book

@19yearoldshrink
@wjg23

In this episode I talk about the importance of sleep and the different stages. We learn about how sleep slows down heart rate, breathing rate, lowers body temperature, etc. As we enter the fourth stage of REM sleep, our eye movement speeds up and heart rate increases. As the episode continues, I discuss why sleep is so important and different steps that we can take to make our sleeping our environment better for us. Tune in to learn more! 


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sleepfoundation.org

In this episode, I discuss the idea of connecting all of our experiences in our life back to our past circumstances. By doing this, we are able to have a better appreciation for the good and bad moments because a silver lining reveals itself later on. I use the example of this summer as well as a struggle from years back with a close person to me to help illustrate the purpose of this episode.

Not only can we use this understanding of everything being connected as a hindsight 20/20 idea, but to appreciate the bad moments when we are going through them. If you sometimes struggle with appreciating difficult moments (I do all the time), or want to have a better appreciation for your life experiences, tune in!

In this episode, I recap the interviews I had with the guests this season and what to take away from their talks. In addition, we look at season 3 and what to look forward to for this next year!

In this episode, I discuss what causes frustration that leads to aggression in our lives. The episode starts with understanding Tony Robbins 6 human needs and how having those differing needs can be a root of frustration if we can't learn to accept each others differences. As the talk continues, I discuss topics from the book by Elliot Aronson called "Social Psychology."  I explain the social impact of aggression on others through Bandura's Bobo doll experiment, and the presence of alcohol as a cause for more aggression. As this episode concludes, we explore ways to combat the frustration and urge to hurt others in 3 ways;  Counting to 10, taking deep breaths, and going for a walk. If you struggle with dealing with frustration and finding that you are hurting others, definitely give this one a listen!

Social Psychology by Elliot Aronson

In this episode, I discuss the generational gap present between parents and kids. Throughout this, you will hear real life examples of how parents sometimes use their experiences from when they were younger to help give advice to their kids now. In these scenarios, we can see how it can cause disconnect but also can provide useful advice towards helping future generations. Some of the examples include drinking culture, technology, dating, and more. If you are interested in learning more about the dynamic between parents and kids, tune in!

In this episode I interview executive life and leadership coach Hayden Lee. We discuss how he became passionate about life coaching while starting out with helping high schoolers with their schoolwork.

As the interview progressed, Hayden breaks down the differences between being a life coach, therapist, consultant, and mentor. By doing this, we are able to understand how these different helping professions play out in a persons life.

Later on, I ask him about the three levels of health which are creating health, being sick, and being non-sick. This was interesting because it shed light on the idea that even though we may not feel sick, we not be growing in our life. Hayden also talked about how we can become laser focused on the important things in our life while also accepting that not everything is in our control.

Overall, such an enjoyable conversation and highly recommend giving it a listen!

In this episode, I talk about how our dreams that we have when sleeping are related to our experiences when we are awake. Sometimes, it's hard to believe that the crazy, far fetched events while we sleep can have importance in our life. But, they have a great impact on the way we handle different events and also reflect the type of emotions we have at a certain moment. After doing some research from a couple articles, it gave more scientific context to why this happens. A study conducted by Alessandro Fogli and his colleagues tested 24,000 dreams from a Dreambank for clinical patients and found a positive relationship with the anxiety experienced in dreams versus the anxiety in real life. Another idea expressed dreams as being a "Nocturnal Therapist" show them as being important of understanding our worries in real life so that we can become better problem solvers. If you have always wondered about the relationship between dreams and reality, tune in! 

In this episode, I discuss prosocial behavior and what influences us to act for other people. Social exchange  and empathy altruism theory are a couple of many factors that come into play with helping others. In this one, I use the example of the Zegota found in the book "Social Psychology by Elliot Aronson to help illustrate the reasons behind helping. Tune in to learn more about why we help others!

In this episode, I talk about the different attachment styles and how they present themselves in infants as well as adults. Through doing this we are able to see the connections between the two stages of life, but also the capability for people to evolve and for their attachment styles to change.

Later on, I discuss some research done by Mary Ainsworth that puts these attachment styles into the context of relationships and how different styles would interact with each other. Throughout this episode, you will gain more awareness into your own attachment styles and understand how you can use them to your advantage and create a happier and fulfilling life.