My new book, FULL: THE EMPTINESS OF OVEREATING, is available here.

I recently received an anonymous message that deeply moved me. In it, someone shared that I had been the first example of safe masculinity they had encountered.

This episode is not about praise or identity. More so, responsibility.

I reflect on what it means to be experienced as safe, how influence actually works in coaching relationships, and why care, boundaries, and humility matter more than intention. We explore how presence can be impactful without becoming controlling, and how male coaches can support clients without stepping outside their role or replacing other forms of care.

This conversation is an invitation to look at influence. Not to inflate it. Not to deny it. But to hold it with awareness.