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In this deeply vulnerable episode, Dara explores why we resist the very tools that could transform our lives, using a client's confession about avoiding thought downloads as the starting point for understanding our patterns of self-sabotage.
Key Topics Covered:
🗝️The paradox of resistance: Why we rebel against ourselves by buying unnecessary fabric, saying yes when overwhelmed, or avoiding helpful practices
🗝️Family history revelation: Dara's discovery of her great-grandfather's traumatic childhood and how it illuminates our tendency to run from difficult emotions
🗝️The boogeyman effect: How avoidance makes problems seem bigger and more frightening than they actually are
🗝️Shame as a mushroom: Understanding how shame grows in darkness and secrecy, but loses power when brought into the light
🗝️The five pillars framework: Weight loss science, making your own eating plan, feeling feelings instead of eating them, taking 100% responsibility, and building self-confidence
Key Insights:
🔑Resistance is information - When we avoid something, it's usually because we're afraid of what we might discover
🔑Worth isn't tied to results - Your value remains 100% regardless of weight loss success or failure
🔑Vulnerability neutralizes shame - Speaking our fears aloud removes their power over us
🔑Avoidance amplifies problems - Whatever we resist grows bigger in our minds
Action Step: Identify one tool or practice you've been avoiding and ask yourself: "What am I afraid I might find?" Then gently explore that fear with curiosity rather than judgment.
Special Offer: 25-minute free coaching sessions (5 slots available in one session) to help identify sabotage patterns and create holiday success plans. Book Here
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In this deeply vulnerable episode, Dara explores why we resist the very tools that could transform our lives, using a client's confession about avoiding thought downloads as the starting point for understanding our patterns of self-sabotage.
Key Topics Covered:
🗝️The paradox of resistance: Why we rebel against ourselves by buying unnecessary fabric, saying yes when overwhelmed, or avoiding helpful practices
🗝️Family history revelation: Dara's discovery of her great-grandfather's traumatic childhood and how it illuminates our tendency to run from difficult emotions
🗝️The boogeyman effect: How avoidance makes problems seem bigger and more frightening than they actually are
🗝️Shame as a mushroom: Understanding how shame grows in darkness and secrecy, but loses power when brought into the light
🗝️The five pillars framework: Weight loss science, making your own eating plan, feeling feelings instead of eating them, taking 100% responsibility, and building self-confidence
Key Insights:
🔑Resistance is information - When we avoid something, it's usually because we're afraid of what we might discover
🔑Worth isn't tied to results - Your value remains 100% regardless of weight loss success or failure
🔑Vulnerability neutralizes shame - Speaking our fears aloud removes their power over us
🔑Avoidance amplifies problems - Whatever we resist grows bigger in our minds
Action Step: Identify one tool or practice you've been avoiding and ask yourself: "What am I afraid I might find?" Then gently explore that fear with curiosity rather than judgment.
Special Offer: 25-minute free coaching sessions (5 slots available in one session) to help identify sabotage patterns and create holiday success plans. Book Here
Check out my free webinars happening in October - Webinars

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