You came into this world knowing exactly who you’re here to be, but the world gets to you as you grow older–weighing you down with other peoples’ opinions, paying your taxes, and 9 to 5s–and the actual purpose of your life is to remember what you came here for?

Interestinggg. And if you think about how overcoming perfectionism plays a role in this idea...wowee.

Human Potential Coach, Speaker, and Podcast Host Kamini Wood joins Erin on the pod today to discuss:

• Her own personal relationships with people-pleasing and perfectionism that began at a young age and how she’s working through them
• How to meet someone where they are, not try to get them to fit into the box you have for them
• What a values-based action is and how to start taking more of them

Kamini shares her concrete method for calling out your perfectionism and recalibrating in order to avoid perfectionism paralysis.

If you’re a recovering perfectionist and/or people-pleaser – this is the episode for you.

Special sprinkles on top of this episode:

• Why it’s not about not caring what others’ think, it’s about not making their reaction dictate what you choose to do
• Kindness > judgment

How to get rid of perfectionism?

1. Celebrate your successes.
2. Embrace mistakes as learning opportunities.
3. Set reasonable expectations.
4. Break tasks into smaller steps and start simple.
5. Remind yourself that perfection is not necessary.
6. Limit your time on tasks.

-calm.com

What is the root cause of perfectionism?

Perfectionism can be caused by conditions like Generalized Anxiety and OCD, as well as family, cultural, and workplace expectations. I often see perfectionism in people with a trauma history, as it can come from a desire to control things or avoid any potential negative consequences from mistakes.

-choosingtherapy.com

If you liked this episode, you can keep the party going with:

• Episode 149: Why Perfectionism is Harmful for Leaders with Jess Joswick

 

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