The Art of We

25. Should I Stay Or Should I Go? Navigating This Hard Question


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When you’re asking yourself if you should stay in a relationship or leave it behind, it can feel painful and confusing, even heartbreaking. In our previous relationships, we grappled with this dilemma a lot and dealt with it in different ways. There are various scenarios that might lead you to question the future of your partnership, and in this episode, we share how we navigated that period of our lives and questions to help guide you through it if you find yourself there now. 

Maybe you’re in a situation where abuse is present, or infidelity, or perhaps you're tired of tolerating broken agreements. Sometimes the ‘should I stay or should I go’ question stems from living parallel lives or feeling misaligned with the life that your partner envisions for themselves. Being in that headspace can feel incredibly isolating and disempowering, but there are certain therapeutic tools that can support couples through it. 

There’s a process that's unique to each partnership that needs to happen in order to get clarity. We invite you to think about what kind of relationship you stand for and if this is mutually desired by both of you. Are you and your partner willing and capable to do the work to achieve what you desire together? Join us on this episode as we explore this question, and more like it, to gain insight into if you should stay or if you should go. 

Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. 

Topics Covered:

  • The possibility for creating the type of partnership that has the capacity for deep collaboration, connection, and contribution to the world
  • Untangling how the relationship patterns that we witnessed as children often inform what we're willing to accept as adults 
  • Reflecting on the ways that we contributed to the outcomes that we created in the past
  • How Will and his ex-wife came to the conclusion to end their marriage 
  • Krista’s ‘North Star’ moment when she claimed the type of relationship she wanted for herself 
  • Questions to consider about the circumstances of your relationship 

Resources Mentioned: 

  • The Art Of We Weekly Newsletter


Get in Touch: 

  • The Art Of We Website
  • The Art of We Instagram 
  • Integrative Psychiatry Institute: Integrative Mental Wellness & Psychedelic Therapy Training

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