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Well... This series wasn’t planned.
It started with us unpacking three phrases that have hit our marriage the hardest:
“It’s not my job to make you happy.”
“We don’t need each other.”
“I’m going to let you down.”
Each episode breaks down one of these conversation starters—and what followed was not easy. There are tears. There are real-time arguments. And there are very honest conversations we almost kept private.
This is Part 1 of a three-part series.
Parts 2 and 3 are coming over the next two weeks—stay tuned.
We’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Do you agree? Have you had these conversations in your own relationship?
ALSO — we have a BOOK. We’re so excited to finally share The Courage to Commit, releasing June 9, 2026.
Pre-orders are available here:
https://www.thecouragetocommit.com
Love you guys!Shawn & Andrew
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Wildgrain ▶ Right now, Wildgrain is offering our listeners $30 off your first box plus free Croissants for life when you go to https://www.Wildgrain.com/EASTFAM to start your subscription today.
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OLIPOP ▶ Right now, you can actually get a free can of OLIPOP. Just buy any two cans in-store — any flavor, any retailer — and they’ll pay you back for one. Go to https://www.drinkolipop.com/COUPLETHINGS for all the details
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(00:00) the series we never planned for
(01:56) I’m not here to make you happy!
(04:09) life updates (reminder, this is a repost episode)
(06:10) why we are doing this & how we disagree
(14:20) “the point isn’t the “happiness”, it’s about support”
(23:23) viewing emotions (andrew's pov)
(29:50) being fully known and loved
(34:04) do you run away if there is no happiness?
(39:45) balancing the variables
(44:18) marriage isn’t about your happiness
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By Shawn Johnson + Andrew East
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Well... This series wasn’t planned.
It started with us unpacking three phrases that have hit our marriage the hardest:
“It’s not my job to make you happy.”
“We don’t need each other.”
“I’m going to let you down.”
Each episode breaks down one of these conversation starters—and what followed was not easy. There are tears. There are real-time arguments. And there are very honest conversations we almost kept private.
This is Part 1 of a three-part series.
Parts 2 and 3 are coming over the next two weeks—stay tuned.
We’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Do you agree? Have you had these conversations in your own relationship?
ALSO — we have a BOOK. We’re so excited to finally share The Courage to Commit, releasing June 9, 2026.
Pre-orders are available here:
https://www.thecouragetocommit.com
Love you guys!Shawn & Andrew
Caraway ▶Caraway’s cookware set is a favorite for a reason — it can save you up to $190 versus buying the items individually. Plus, if you visit https://www.Carawayhome.com/EASTFAM, you can take an additional 10% off your next purchase.
Wildgrain ▶ Right now, Wildgrain is offering our listeners $30 off your first box plus free Croissants for life when you go to https://www.Wildgrain.com/EASTFAM to start your subscription today.
Cove ▶ Make protecting your home one of your New Year’s resolutions! Check out Cove at https://www.covesmart.com/eastfam or use code EASTFAM at checkout for up to 70% off your first order. And if you get a survey, be sure to let them know you heard about Cove from this podcast.
OLIPOP ▶ Right now, you can actually get a free can of OLIPOP. Just buy any two cans in-store — any flavor, any retailer — and they’ll pay you back for one. Go to https://www.drinkolipop.com/COUPLETHINGS for all the details
Follow our podcast Instagram ▶ https://www.instagram.com/shawnandandrewpods/
Follow My Instagram ▶ https://www.instagram.com/ShawnJohnson
Follow My Tik Tok ▶ https://www.tiktok.com/@shawnjohnson
Shop My LTK Page ▶ https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shawnjohnson
Like the Facebook page! ▶ https://www.facebook.com/ShawnJohnson
Follow Andrew’s Instagram ▶ https://www.instagram.com/AndrewDEast
Andrew’s Tik Tok ▶ https://www.tiktok.com/@andrewdeast?lang=en
(00:00) the series we never planned for
(01:56) I’m not here to make you happy!
(04:09) life updates (reminder, this is a repost episode)
(06:10) why we are doing this & how we disagree
(14:20) “the point isn’t the “happiness”, it’s about support”
(23:23) viewing emotions (andrew's pov)
(29:50) being fully known and loved
(34:04) do you run away if there is no happiness?
(39:45) balancing the variables
(44:18) marriage isn’t about your happiness
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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