This is an unpopular viewpoint but it's true: You're NOT just supposed to love your partner the way they are. Really?! It's true. Why are you suppose to love them as they are? With all their flaws? What if they're lazy? What if they're broke and have a gambling addiction? Accept them as they are? You don't have to love someone as they are. Your marriage won't last if you both don't change. Be the best you can for you and you'll be the best for someone else. Here are two rules to remember:

1. Don't accept people just the way they are. Push them to the top. 2. When you take care of yourself it's a gift for your partner.