Most of us say we want to be loved — but for many of us, when it shows up at our doorstep, it stirs up panic, self-doubt, and the urge to run. But what if allowing people to love us could feel comfortable and completely normal?

In this episode, Justin, Abi, and their long-time friend Rachel unpack what it means to build emotional distress tolerance—not just for pain, but for goodness. They explore why being seen, supported, or chosen can feel so threatening when your nervous systems is used to disappointment or self-reliance. From unexpected gifts to unwavering kindness, they share personal stories of the discomfort that arises when love challenges your core beliefs about worth, safety, and identity. Lastly they discuss how expanding your capacity to sit with uncomfortable feelings—without numbing, blaming, or ejecting—can radically transform your relationships.

If you've ever felt overwhelmed by love, unsure how to receive it, or scared it might not last—this conversation will help you grow your capacity to let love in, one moment at a time.

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