The Art of We

4. Anxiety, Attachment Styles + BHAGs


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Everybody has attachment styles, and if we're not conscious of what they are, it can be really challenging to navigate relationships. In this episode, we break down the most common attachment styles and discuss some tools that can help reduce the root causes of anxiety. 

The ambivalent attached person is more concerned about abandonment, and the avoidant person typically is more concerned about too much contact or invasion. We explore how we’ve created a sense of understanding and compassion around these very deep patterns that we experience. We share tools for how to come back together when you feel like you’re constantly bumping up against your partner’s attachment style, including somatic processing techniques like synchronized breathing and skin-to-skin contact. 

We also touch on the anxiety that we face when we go after big, hairy, audacious goals (BHAGs). We articulate what's really helped us in the high stress, high growth years that we've had in our business, particularly through the lens of exercise. Will also highlights things that you can do for your body that reduce inflammation and we talk about how the gut microbiome is tied to our mental wellness.  

Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. 

Topics Covered:

  • How attachment styles form and what we can do about them 
  • Tools for getting in touch with how you feel in your body 
  • Understanding where your anxiety comes from 
  • How imposter syndrome impacts individuals and relationships 
  • Getting curious about what foods work well for you and your unique system

Resources Mentioned

  • We Do by Stan Tatkin 
  • Your Brain on Love by Stan Tatkin
  • The Higher Practice Podcast for Optimal Mental Health
  • Christopher Lowry for TEDxMileHigh “Plants, the microbiome, and mental health”

Get in Touch: 


  • Krista’s Website
  • Integrative Psychiatry Institute
  • Krista’s Instagram
  • Will’s Instagram
  • Art of We Instagram


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