A decades-long research project has learned that the quality of our lives depends on the quality of our relationships. And what a tragedy that so many of us do not have the tools to create deep, intimate, connected relationships. We have a tendency to hide our true selves behind half-truths, behind saying we're 'fine' when we're not, behind being so amenable and accommodating that we never rock the boat. And yet, in seeking to keep things low-maintenance and easy, we are being dishonest with ourselves and with our partner about who we really are, what we really desire and prefer, and we show up instead as a shallow shell of who we really are. Until we truly learn how to be honest with ourselves and with our partners about who we are and what we really want, we will never be able to create the equal partnerships so many of us crave.

Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts:

#83 Self-Honesty on Apple on Spotify

#193 No Back-Burner Issues on Apple on Spotify

#216 One Up and One Down Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#218 Honest Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#220 Being Low Maintenance on Apple on Spotify

#230 People-Pleasing on Apple on Spotify

#240 Passive-Aggressive Behavior on Apple on Spotify

#243 Having More Honest Communication on Apple on Spotify

#255 What is Gaslighting on Apple on Spotify

#269 Fine - The 4-Letter F-Word on Apple on Spotify

#270 People-Pleasing & Kindness - What's the Difference? on Apple on Spotify

#271 Equal Partnerships on Apple on Spotify

#272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify

#287 Equality in Your Relationships and Your Self-Worth on Apple on Spotify

#309 What an Equal Relationship Looks Like on Apple on Spotify

#317 Fawning- What Is It, Why Do We Do It, and How to Stop on Apple on Spotify

#331 Sense of Self on Apple on Spotify

#332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head on Apple on Spotify

#384 Relational Living on Apple on Spotify

#389 The Partnership of Marriage on Apple on Spotify

#396 How to Have an Easy Relationship on Apple on Spotify

#397 The Relationship Bucket on Apple on Spotify

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