Are you enough? With all of your flaws and imperfections, with all of your mistakes and misunderstandings, how can you really be enough? As women, many of us have spent years grappling with this concept of being enough, and very often we come up wanting. We don't feel we are pretty enough, skinny enough, compassionate enough, tough enough, strong enough, vulnerable enough, happy enough, etc. You name it, we often don't feel we are enough of it, unless we start to believe we are too much of something: too outspoken, too strong, too vulnerable, too compassionate, too happy, to skinny, etc. So where do we find the place of being content – happy with who we are and the path we're on, while also acknowledging our human imperfections?

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#33 Forgiving Yourself on Apple on Spotify

#34 Self-Compassion on Apple on Spotify

#55 Don't Should Yourself on Apple on Spotify

#72 Unconditional Self-Love on Apple on Spotify

#104 Cultivating Self-Love on Apple on Spotify

#105 Self-Love in Our Past, Present, and Future on Apple on Spotify

#106 Fierce Self-Love on Apple on Spotify

#137 Not Enough? Not True on Apple on Spotify

#195 What Are You Sorry For? on Apple on Spotify

#217 Self-Respect and Being Wrong on Apple on Spotify

#260 Your Lovability and Your Love Ability on Apple on Spotify

#305 When We Don't Feel Good Enough on Apple on Spotify

#351 Grace, Shame, and Letting Yourself Off the Hook on Apple on Spotify

#385 Self-Forgiveness on Apple on Spotify

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Until we can understand and honor our own boundaries, we will not be able to create the kind of honest, equal partnerships and connections we desire. Because they are so vital to great relationships, it's important to know exactly what they are and how to set them. Let's dig in, shall we?

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#7 Boundaries Part 1 on Apple on Spotify

#8 Boundaries Part 2 on Apple on Spotify

#47 Thoughts, Consequences, & Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

#174 Better Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

#314 When Setting Boundaries Is Hard on Apple on Spotify

#378 What Can Happen When We Don't Set Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

#381 Psychological Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

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Brene Brown teaches that the most compassionate people have the strongest boundaries. This is because when we have clear and strong boundaries, we protect the relationship from resentment and anger and clear the way for compassion. Only when we are honest about what is okay and not okay with us can we create the partnerships that we seek in our most intimate relationship.

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#7 Boundaries Part 1 on Apple on Spotify

#9 Boundaries Part 3 on Apple on Spotify

#47 Thoughts, Consequences, & Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

#174 Better Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

#314 When Setting Boundaries Is Hard on Apple on Spotify

#378 What Can Happen When We Don't Set Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

#381 Psychological Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

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Boundaries are imperative if you are to have strong and healthy relationships. And I know that seems counter-intuitive, but when we don't have good boundaries, we end up swimming in resentment and anger, and that makes it really tough to show up the way we want to, which is generally loving and kind. In this episode we talk about boundary basics, what they are and why they're so important.

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#8 Boundaries Part 2 on Apple on Spotify

#9 Boundaries Part 3 on Apple on Spotify

#47 Thoughts, Consequences, & Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

#174 Better Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

#314 When Setting Boundaries Is Hard on Apple on Spotify

#378 What Can Happen When We Don't Set Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

#381 Psychological Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

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Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Many of us are in the habit of resisting things we can't change, and it creates a lot of unhappiness and havoc in our lives. Byron Katie wrote a book entitled, 'Loving What is', and it presents the concept that when we stop resisting reality, we will find so much more peace in our lives. When we learn to focus on our response and choose to behave in ways that are in alignment with our values, we find much more satisfaction, contentment, happiness, and peace. Learning to love what is, rather than resisting and fighting against it, creates a solid space for growth.

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#2 Control Issues on Apple on Spotify

#19 Storytelling on Apple on Spotify

#48 Love Is All You Need on Apple on Spotify

#75 Emotional Adulthood on Apple on Spotify

#91 Personal Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#92 Clean Love on Apple on Spotify

#96 Understanding the Thought Model on Apple on Spotify

#97 Why the Thought Model Matters on Apple on Spotify

#118 100% Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#148 Grace & Grudges in Our Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#152 Victim or Hero? on Apple on Spotify

#165 I Would Never Act That Way on Apple on Spotify

#166 Imaginary Friends on Apple on Spotify

#167 I Didn't Sign Up For This on Apple on Spotify

#173 A Space For Grace on Apple on Spotify

#204 Being a Peacemaker on Apple on Spotify

#257 Other People's Agency on Apple on Spotify

#268 Drama Response on Apple on Spotify

#269 Fine - The 4-Letter F-Word on Apple on Spotify

#298 Friendship in Marriage on Apple on Spotify

#299 Love Is Not a Reward on Apple on Spotify

#304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

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Learning to 'lean into' our relationships can be a challenge because even in good relationships our primitive brain can feel scared and threatened by the vulnerability required. But when we do choose to lean in, we find greater connection and intimacy and partnership. Here are 15 ways that you can lean in with more intention.

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#7 Boundaries Part 1 on Apple on Spotify

#8 Boundaries Part 2 on Apple on Spotify

#9 Boundaries Part 3 on Apple on Spotify

#60 Mental and Emotional Abusive Behaviors on Apple on Spotify

#61 Charity is the Antidote on Apple on Spotify

#92 Clean Love on Apple on Spotify

#118 100% Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#130 Exploring Our Darkness on Apple on Spotify

#161 Developing More Intimacy in Your Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#174 Better Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

#193 No Back-Burner Issues on Apple on Spotify

#203 Cleaning Up Your Apology on Apple on Spotify

#204 Being a Peacemaker on Apple on Spotify

#216 One Up and One Down Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#239 How to Own Your Own on Apple on Spotify

#242 Circling Back Around on Apple on Spotify

#243 Having More Honest Communication on Apple on Spotify

#269 Fine - The 4-Letter F-Word on Apple on Spotify

#271 Equal Partnerships on Apple on Spotify

#272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify

#283 How To Be a Better Partner on Apple on Spotify

#319 Get Ready to Rock The Boat on Apple on Spotify

#357 How to Be More Understanding on Apple on Spotify

#359 10 Ways to Be a Safer Spouse on Apple on Spotify

#384 Relational Living on Apple on Spotify

#389 The Partnership of Marriage on Apple on Spotify

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Leaning into relationships is the process of choosing the relationship over everything else, including our fears and insecurities. It can feel super scary because it requires vulnerability and openness, and this can mean that we may need to courage up and step into discomfort. Because when things in a relationship get tough, it can be super easy to lean out to protect our point of view, our struggling sense of self, and our ego. But leaning out increases the distance and drives disconnect. If we want meaningful, connected, and intimate relationships, we have to have the courage to lean in.

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#92 Clean Love on Apple on Spotify

#110 The Cost of Being Right on Apple on Spotify

#130 Exploring Our Darkness on Apple on Spotify

#148 Grace & Grudges in Our Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#156 The Benefits of Being Wrong on Apple on Spotify

#161 Developing More Intimacy in Your Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#164 How Being in Control is Destroying Your Life on Apple on Spotify

#165 I Would Never Act That Way on Apple on Spotify

#190 Protective Walls on Apple on Spotify

#218 Honest Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#223 It Really Is All About You on Apple on Spotify

#243 Having More Honest Communication on Apple on Spotify

#257 Other People's Agency on Apple on Spotify

#258 Communication That Connects on Apple on Spotify

#290 Resentment and Contempt in Our Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#295 Safety in the Relationship Circle on Apple on Spotify

#296 Creating More Safety in Your Relationship on Apple on Spotify

#298 Friendship in Marriage on Apple on Spotify

#304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives on Apple on Spotify

#326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe on Apple on Spotify

#331 Sense of Self on Apple on Spotify

#332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head on Apple on Spotify

#341 Choosing to Be All In on Apple on Spotify

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Moving into comparison and judgment is such a normal, human thing to do. And we can learn to harness these tendencies to create more of the kind, loving, compassionate relationships we want. Learning to lean into curiosity is a powerful tool to help us stop one-upping and one-downing in our relationships and learn instead to accept and appreciate others as our equals, creating more genuine, deep, and emotionally intimate connections.

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#55 Don't Should Yourself on Apple on Spotify

#71 Contribution on Apple on Spotify

#96 Understanding the Thought Model on Apple on Spotify

#97 Why the Thought Model Matters on Apple on Spotify

#103 The Case For Curiosity on Apple on Spotify

#110 The Cost of Being Right on Apple on Spotify

#127 Our Worth & Our Works on Apple on Spotify

#151 Connection on Apple on Spotify

#173 A Space For Grace on Apple on Spotify

#216 One Up and One Down Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#224 Compassion and Curiosity on Apple on Spotify

#303 The Thought Model Reteach on Apple on Spotify

#307 Curiosity, Not Criticism on Apple on Spotify

#327 Learning to Love Your Human Self on Apple on Spotify

#348 Entitled Expectation on Apple on Spotify

#401: Judgement and Grace on Apple on Spotify

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We all have rich emotional histories spanning our entire lifetime. And every single day these histories are shaping how we show up in the world, how we respond to other people, and how we interpret things that are said and done. When we can start to reveal the thoughts and ideas that are buried beneath our consciousness, we can address how they are impacting our lives today. Join Cathi Antczak, LCSW, and myself as we share our own personal experiences in discovering our own emotional histories.

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#211 Why We Do This Work on Apple on Spotify

#223 It Really Is All About You on Apple on Spotify

#232 Feeling Empowered on Apple on Spotify

#274 When We Behave Badly on Apple on Spotify

#297 Why Can't We Just All Get Along on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

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Do you ever wonder what the best advice is from mid-life coaches? In this podcast I am chatting with two of my great life coach friends, Brooke Onike and Jane Copier, and we are sharing some of the most impactful tools and concepts that we coach our clients on. I think you'll love this one.

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#88 Marriage Mending with Jane Copier on Apple on Spotify

#96 Understanding the Thought Model on Apple on Spotify

#97 Why the Thought Model Matters on Apple on Spotify

#99 Parenting Adult Children on Apple on Spotify

#103 The Case For Curiosity on Apple on Spotify

#122 Your Story About You on Apple on Spotify

#123 Your Thoughts About You on Apple on Spotify

#141 Coaching & Counseling - What's the Difference? on Apple on Spotify

#200 My Most Life-Changing Life Coach Lessons on Apple on Spotify

#272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify

#363 Breaking Your Over- and Under-functioning Cycles with Jane Copier on Apple on Spotify

#367 Loving Your Adult Children Better with Brooke Oniki on Apple on Spotify

You can find Brooke at https://brookeoniki.com/

Brooke's podcast is called Midlife with Brooke

You can find Jane at https://www.jane-copier.com/

Jane's podcast is called Happy in the Middle

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/