Many of us dream of living a luxurious life, and we tend to confine that idea to materialistic luxury, houses and cars and clothing and jewelry and travel, all the things money can buy. And yet there is another type of luxury I want to talk about with you today, and it’s the luxury of living in alignment with our God-given possibility, the luxury of living a life that creates more energy than it expends, a life of feeling amazing in the love we have for ourselves, for others, and for God. This is luxury that feels like a pearl of great price, something we are willing to sacrifice our tolerable life for.

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#130 Exploring Our Darkness

#183 Taking Risks and Becoming

#204 Being a Peacemaker

#218 Honest Relationships

#238 Overflow

#241 Forgiving Others

#243 Having More Honest Relationships

#271 Equal Partnerships

#287 Equality in Your Relationships and Your Self-Worth

#299 Love Is Not a Reward

#309 What An Equal Relationship Looks Like

#331 Sense of Self

#332 Sense of Self – It’s All In Your Head

#333 Sense of Self and Dating

#334 Sense of Self and Marriage

#335 Sense of Self and Parenting

#347 The Self Care of Relationship Repair

#357 How to Be More Understanding

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Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Sexuality between men and women can get complicated because we experience it so differently. And until we can begin to understand and accept those differences, and then learn to work with them rather than fighting against them, we will struggle to find the connection and intimacy that a great sexual relationship has to offer us. In this podcast I am speaking with Dan Purcell, a life coach and Christian couples sex expert about what women may not know about men's sexuality. You can find more of Dan on his popular podcast Get Your Marriage On.

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#281 Mid-Life Sexuality with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

#337 Sense of Self and Our Sexuality

#345 Men's Sexuality and Intimacy with Sione

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If we want to increase the intimacy and connection in our relationships, it is imperative that we show up as a safe person who creates a safe space. Often, the patterns we have established in our relationships are the opposite of safe, they cause our primitive brains to go into hyper protective mode and want to run away emotionally and physically. But when we can learn to show up safe, time and time again, we can create a space where our spouse may be willing to start engaging in vulnerability, in the openness and honesty necessary to deepen our engagement.

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#3 Resolving Conflict

#20 Blame and Responsibility

#51 The Silent Treatment

#60 Mental and Emotional Abusive Behaviors

#61 Charity is the Antidote

#75 Emotional Adulthood

#143 Stuck in Perfectionism

#193 No Back-Burner Issues

#197 Connecting Through Conflict

#230 People Pleasing

#239 How to Own Your Own

#240 Passive-Aggressive Behavior

#242 Circling Back Around

#270 People Pleasing and Kindness – What’s the Difference?

#304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives

#319 Get Ready to Rock the Boat

#357 How to be More Understanding

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

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Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Difficult emotions can be, well, difficult. And because they don’t feel good, we will often dismiss, ignore, or resist them, which can be unfortunate when there is so much amazing information behind the emotions we are feeling and why we are feeling them. When we can learn to be aware of the emotion and then step into curiosity to figure out what it is teaching us about ourselves, we become empowered to make the changes necessary for positive movement in our lives. And living in alignment with who we really want to be is one of the most empowering things we can do.

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#75 Emotional Adulthood

#194 When You Feel Sad, or Bad, or Mad

#219 The Truth About the Struggle

#225 Shame, Blame, and Disempowerment

#252 How to Courage Up In the Face of Fear

#254 When You Feel Resentment

#306 The Problem with Happiness

#348 Entitled Expectation

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Our insecurities and the protective nature of our primitive brain can make meaningful connection in our relationships difficult. These protective tendencies make it difficult for us to step into truly listening and seeking to understand the other person. When we can learn to consciously set aside these human tendencies to preserve and protect ourselves, in areas where we really don’t need protecting, we can step in to truly understand and connect with the other person, relationships change for the better. This podcast teaches you three things you can do to better understand and connect with others around you.

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#3 Resolving Conflict

#5 Learning to Listen

#41 Correcting and Connecting

#242 Circling Back Around

#251 Contention is a Choice

#258 Communication That Connects

#283 How To Be a Better Partner

#289 Why Our Relationships Need Validation

#295 Safety in the Relationship Circle

#296 Creating More Safety in Your Relationship

#347 The Self Care of Relationship Repair

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

When Stacey first met me for her free consult, she was months out from a divorce and really struggling getting her feet on the ground. She was stuck in victim mentality and it was impacting the relationships with her children, herself, and everyone else. We started coaching one-on-one, and within 1 1/2 years, Stacy was on solid ground, had cleaned up her relationships with her children, and met and married a man who has to be her soul mate. Listen to Stacey share her story of growth and progress and finding love again in her 50s. Spoiler alert: she didn't always like me when we got off of a call. . . 

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#49 Fixing Yourself

#117 Anti-Responsibility

#118 100% Responsibility

#139 Being a Martyr

#140 Still Being a Martyr

#141 Coaching & Counseling. What's the Difference?

#213 Thriving Post-Divorce - An Interview with Jody Moore

#246 Self Coaching Strategies

#250 Being a Victim

#291 Divorce and Self-Worth

#292 Healing and Moving Forward After Divorce

#308 Stop Dabbling and Start Doing

#312 Divorce Is Not the End, Part 1

#313 Divorce Is Not the End, Part 2

#330 Stuck to Your Ex

#350 Getting Back Up After Divorce

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Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Besides all of the life changes that occur in middle-age such as children leaving home, readjusting our marriage relationships, figuring out our next life steps, aging parents, etc., how about we add on a heaping serving of menopause where our hormones change and adjust and it affects us not only physically, but also mentally and emotionally as well. So much in such a small time space! On this podcast I'm speaking with Dr. Taylor Hahn, a menopause specialist, who answers many of your questions about what is going on and how can we manage our menopause in helpful and healthy ways.

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For many of us, fun is something that became more elusive as we got older. We were so involved in making sure our children and our spouses were doing well, that they were learning and growing and having fun, that our own fun often got put on the back burner. And yet, having fun and engaging in play is an important part of our mental and emotional health and is also super important to our relationships. I recently discovered that I had some work to do around play, and it’s helping me to feel more complete,  whole and happy. What about you? Where are you at in figuring out fun?

Here are some questions to consider:

What are you doing, just for you, that is fun?

What do you do that energizes you?

What are you doing that you lose track of time doing?

What are you doing that feels productive and meaningful?

If you have a partner, what are you doing with them that is fun?

What do the two of you do that energizes you, that feels productive and meaningful, and that you lose track of time doing?

How can you add more play into your engagement with your partner?

How can you enjoy being with them more?

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#37 Self-Care

#78 Playing Small

#86 Is Self-Care Being Selfish?

#169 What Don’t You Want?

#186 Are You Committed or Just Interested?

#226 The Best Is Yet To Come

#238 Overflow

#249 Finding Rest

#280 Living In Alignment

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Many of us think that if we could just take a confidence pill that everything in our life would be different, because confidence impacts our courage to step into new and sometimes scary situations and to take risks that could make our lives better. And yet, we all have confidence. Sometimes that confidence is just in things, but what we mostly struggle with is confidence in our SELVES. The confidence to believe that regardless of the outcome we will figure it out and have our own backs and still love and appreciate ourselves. When we can learn to have confidence in us, then our lives become more of what we want them to be.

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#11 I Am Enough

#35 Self-Esteem

#82 Courage and Fear

#107 Why Our Thoughts Are So Important

#113 Self-Acceptance

#114 Confidence

#137 Not Enough? Not True

#260 Your Lovability and Your Love Ability

#305 When We Don’t Feel Good Enough

#327 Learning to Love Your Human Self

#331 Sense of Self

#332 Sense of Self – It’s All In Your Head

#333 Sense of Self and Dating

#334 Sense of Self and Marriage

#335 Sense of Self and Parenting

#336 Sense of Self and Our Spirituality

#337 Sense of Self and Our Sexuality

#349 It’s Okay If People Don’t Like You

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Sione and I are just hitting our third anniversary. On this podcast we share what we have learned and incorporated this last year regarding how curiosity creates a safe space. Learning to slow down, to pause before responding, to remember that this is the person we love the most and choosing to show up curious and kind and compassionate have been important for us in creating a relationship that is remarkable. We can treat our partner with love and kindness and avoid the blaming, accusing, attacking, and criticizing trap.

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#103 The Case for Curiosity

#173 A Space For Grace

#258 Communication That Connects

#286 How Miscommunication Destroys Relationships

#295 Safety in the Relationship Circle

#296 Creating More Safety in Your Relationship

#301 The Primitive Brain Problem

#307 Curiosity, Not Criticism

#326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe

#344 Are You a Safe Place for Vulnerability?

#346 How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding

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Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/