When we feel safe in our relationships, we feel we can show up with more vulnerability.  When we show up with more vulnerability, we create more emotional and physical intimacy.  But oftentimes, the behaviors we are engaging in in our relationships put the other person into protective mode rather than feeling safe, and so we struggle to create the connected relationships we really desire.  In this podcast we will talk about ten ways we can create more of a safe space for our person.

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#218 Honest Relationships

#243 Having More Honest Communication

#244 The Relationship Circle

#284 Why Vulnerability Matters

#295 Safety in the Relationship Circle

#326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe

#331 Sense of Self

#332 Sense of Self – It’s All In Your Head

#333 Sense of Self and Dating

#334 Sense of Self and Marriage

#341 Choosing to Be All In

#344 Are You a Safe Place for Vulnerability?

#347 The Self Care of Relationship Repair

#357 How to Be More Understanding

#359 10 Ways to Be a Safer Spouse

#364 Relationship Neglect

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

A strong, healthy relationship is one in which we create a very safe place for each person to be 100% themselves. So many of us did not learn growing up what it means to be in a relationship this way.  If you're like me, you thought that growing up and getting married would mean that you would have someone to love you, to shore up your insecurities, to validate you, or to agree with your opinions.  Strong, happy relationships are places to learn how to be more loving and kind and show up in a space of US rather than a space of ME.  In this podcast we are digging a little deeper into what it means to show up in relationship to create a safe space for our partner.

Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts:

#244 The Relationship Circle

#296 Creating More Safety in Your Relationship

#326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe

#331 Sense of Self

#332 Sense of Self – It’s All In Your Head

#333 Sense of Self and Dating

#334 Sense of Self and Marriage

#344 Are You a Safe Place for Vulnerability?

#347 The Self Care of Relationship Repair

#357 How to Be More Understanding

#364 Relationship Neglect

#369 Normal, Difficult, Human Interactions

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Being able to validate your relationship is an important tool in creating a healthier space for the two of you to live and love. Validation is something that we often seek from others to shore up our sense of self. And this never really works, because SELF-worth is something that can only be created within ourselves. Validation in our marriages and relationships, however, is vital. It lets the other person know we see them, we acknowledge them, we accept them, and it creates connection and intimacy. In this podcast we are discussing how we can better validate our relationships to create greater connection.

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#29 Validation

#244 The Relationship Circle

#295 Safety in the Relationship Circle

#296 Creating More Safety in Your Relationship

#326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe

#331 Sense of Self

#332 Sense of Self – It’s All In Your Head

#333 Sense of Self and Dating

#334 Sense of Self and Marriage

#344 Are You a Safe Place for Vulnerability?

#357 How to Be More Understanding

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

The Relationship Circle is a concept that I keep coming back to again and again with my clients. Understanding the relationship circle helps us stay in our own lanes and resist the temptation to try and take control of things that aren't ours to control.  When we more clearly understand how to allow the other person the space to work through their own struggles and challenges and show up empathetic, supportive, and kind, we can start tapping into the intimate partnership relationships have the possibility of becoming.

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#272 Stay In Your Own Lane

#289 Why Our Relationships Need Validation

#295 Safety in the Relationship Circle

#296 Creating More Safety in Your Relationship

#326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe

#331 Sense of Self

#332 Sense of Self – It’s All In Your Head

#333 Sense of Self and Dating

#334 Sense of Self and Marriage

#344 Are You a Safe Place for Vulnerability?

#357 How to Be More Understanding

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoachin

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoachin

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Conflict is a word that makes many of us squirm – it’s just so darn uncomfortable! And yet, conflict doesn’t always need to lead to contention. What if you had the skills to turn a conflict into deeper connection and intimacy instead?

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#3 Resolving Conflict

#110 The Cost of Being Right

#156 The Benefits of Being Wrong

#317 Fawning – What Is It, Why Do We Do It, and How to Stop

#326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe

#346 How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding

#369 Normal, Difficult, Human Interactions

#357 How to Be More Understanding

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

When humans act like humans, it can sure make our lives difficult. Of course it would be easier if they all just did what we wanted and behaved in ways we thought were appropriate, but that’s just not going to happen. Challenges and difficulties in our relationships are inevitable and a normal part of all relationships. Learning to allow and even embrace these elements of our relationships is a valuable part of growing up into middle age.

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#193 No Back-Burner Issues

#216 One-Up and One-Down Relationships

#217 Self-Respect and Being Wrong

#244 The Relationship Circle

#257 Other People’s Agency

#272 Stay In Your Lane

#280 Living in Alignment

#295 Safety In the Relationship Circle

#296 Creating More Safety in Your Relationship

#298 Friendship in Marriage

#304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives

#326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe

#331 Sense of Self

#332 Sense of Self – It’s All In Your Head

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

It can be easy, and even feel intuitive, to get in the middle of other people’s business. And it’s even easier when they invite us in, asking for verification that what they are thinking is true and what they are feeling is valid. When we feel we’re being pulled into someone else’s relationship, it’s important that we learn to stay out and let the be responsible for their own relationship. In this podcast, we talk about why that’s important and how to do it better.

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#272 Stay in Your Own Lane

#289 Why Our Relationships Need Validation

#314 When Setting Boundaries is Hard

#344 Are You a Safe Place for Vulnerability?

#349 It’s Okay If People Don’t Like You

#357 How to be More Understanding

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

So many of us feel blindsided when it comes to the relationships with our adult children. We heard a lot about the struggles of being a parent to babies, toddlers, tots, pre-teens, and teenagers, but not a lot about our role and relationship with adult children. The reason it can be so challenging is because so many of us struggle to let go of our parenting role and we can often feel that their decisions (which we can often judge as poor) reflect badly on our parenting. In this podcast I'm speaking with Coach Brooke Oniki about how we can show up better in the relationships with our adult children.

You can find Brooke at www.brookeoniki.com

Here's her Women's Conference talk: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/byu-womens-conference-may-2025-keeping-a-strong/id1819510541?i=1000712108423

Brooke's podcast: Midlife with Brooke

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#99 Parenting Adult Children 

#129 Parenting Discomfort 

#157 Friend-Zoning Your Adult Children 

#180 Better Relationships With Our Adult Children 

#182 How Our 'Wayward' Children Bless Our Lives 

#202 Pain, Peace, and Parenting Disengaged Adult Children 

#237 You'll Never Be Enough For Your Children

#314 When Boundaries Are Hard

#318 The Challenge of Parenting Adult Children

#335 Sense of Self and Parenting

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

The conflict between our primitive brain and our prefrontal cortex is as old as our brain itself. Primitive brain wants to avoid pain, pursue immediate pleasure, and conserve energy, while our prefrontal cortex wants to plan for long-term goals and growth to improve the quality of our life. This conflict will often trigger internal negotiation between the two parts of our brain. When we can learn to increase our awareness around this negotiation and apply some tools to our thinking, we can find it easier to shut down the negotiation, keep the commitments we make to ourselves, and grow in our self-respect and self-trust.

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#58 The Brain and the Mind

#159 When Your Brain Lies to You

#169 What Don’t You Want?

#229 How to Make Better Decisions

#301 The Primitive Brain Problem

#316 Confidence to Make Tough Decisions

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Our brain loves a good story, and what it doesn’t know in facts, it will make up with fiction. It also really like to have a villain, a hero, and a victim in its story, and it especially loves to put us in the victim mode because when there we don’t have to shoulder the responsibility for solving our problems, we can just stay in a place of blame, criticism, and accusation. If we are to move out of being stuck in victim mode, we have to learn how to banish the villain from our story and even stop expecting a hero to show up and rescue us. We have to learn how to step out of being the victim and become our own hero.

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#29 Validation

#122 Your Story About You

#139 Being a Martyr

#140 Still Being A Martyr

#152 Victim or Hero?

#250 Being a Victim

#268 Drama Response

#291 Divorce and Self-Worth 

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/