Intentional Living with Tanya Hale

Love is one of the greatest gifts we have to offer the world and ourselves. Sometimes, though, we start straying into other people's lanes in intrusive ways. We start behaving in ways that overstep our boundaries and dismiss their wants and needs. It's all done from the best of intentions, a desire to help them succeed, to be happy, to not struggle, but it is intruding on their agency to make their own choices and mistakes and live their own life. Learning to clean up our love and honor their agency will help both them and us to live with less resentment and contention, and really love well.

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#38 Love is Minding Your Own Business on Apple on Spotify

#60 Mental and Emotional Abusive Behaviors on Apple on Spotify

#61 Charity is the Antidote on Apple on Spotify

#92 Clean Love on Apple on Spotify

#99 Parenting Adult Children on Apple on Spotify

#129 Parenting Discomfort on Apple on Spotify

#149 The Importance of Discomfort on Apple on Spotify

#157 Friend-Zoning Your Adult Children on Apple on Spotify

#180 Better Relationships With Our Adult Children on Apple on Spotify

#202 Pain, Peace, and Parenting Disengaged Adult Children on Apple on Spotify

#214 How to Stop Being 'The Fixer' on Apple on Spotify

#227 Feeling Obligated on Apple on Spotify

#236 None of Your Business on Apple on Spotify

#272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify

#277 Your Spouse Is Not Your Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives on Apple on Spotify

#314 When Setting Boundaries Is Hard on Apple on Spotify

#318 The Challenge of Parenting Adult Children on Apple on Spotify

#368 Stay Out of Other People's Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#390 You Can't Fill Their Bucket on Apple on Spotify

#395 You Can't Make Them Love You on Apple on Spotify

#410: What Staying in Your Own Lane Looks Like on Apple on Spotify

#411: When Staying in Your Own Lane Isn't Getting You What You Want on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Feeling unseen or unsure of your worth in a struggling marriage can be lonely and multiply the challenges you are experiencing. In this episode I share some lessons that, upon reflection, I think are some of the most important for either cleaning up your current marriage or moving on after a divorce. This is a great podcast for you want some guidance, and hope while navigating a difficult relationship.

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#11 I Am Enough on Apple on Spotify

#34 Self-Compassion on Apple on Spotify

#78 Playing Small on Apple on Spotify

#103 The Case For Curiosity on Apple on Spotify

#118 100% Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#125 Love It Before You Leave It on Apple on Spotify

#137 Not Enough? Not True on Apple on Spotify

#174 Better Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

#197 Connecting Through Conflict on Apple on Spotify

#215 Being Seen and Being Heard on Apple on Spotify

#220 Being Low Maintenance on Apple on Spotify

#224 Compassion and Curiosity on Apple on Spotify

#257 Other People's Agency on Apple on Spotify

#268 Drama Response on Apple on Spotify

#277 Your Spouse Is Not Your Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#290 Resentment and Contempt in Our Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#307 Curiosity, Not Criticism on Apple on Spotify

#331 Sense of Self on Apple on Spotify

#332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head on Apple on Spotify

#357 How to Be More Understanding on Apple on Spotify

#381 Psychological Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

#390 You Can't Fill Their Bucket on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Because we're all humans who see the world from our unique perspective, it is inevitable that we will experience conflict in all of our relationships. As we increase our emotional maturity we are able to lean into these conflicts to create connection rather than contention. But what does it look and sound like? That's what we're talking about on this podcast. I have lots of examples for you to understand where you are in your journey to stronger emotional maturity, and be sure to check out the show notes below for more podcasts that will grow your capacity and skills for having more emotionally mature conflict.

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#3 Resolving Conflict on Apple on Spotify

#5 Learning to Listen on Apple on Spotify

#20 Blame and Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#77 Other People's Opinions on Apple on Spotify

#110 The Cost of Being Right on Apple on Spotify

#117 Anti-Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#118 100% Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#147 Hijacked By Your Emotions on Apple on Spotify

#148 Grace & Grudges in Our Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#156 The Benefits of Being Wrong on Apple on Spotify

#164 How Being in Control is Destroying Your Life on Apple on Spotify

#165 I Would Never Act That Way on Apple on Spotify

#166 Imaginary Friends on Apple on Spotify

#167 I Didn't Sign Up For This on Apple on Spotify

#193 No Back-Burner Issues on Apple on Spotify

#194 When You Feel Sad, Or Bad, or Mad on Apple on Spotify

#196 How to Break the Blame/Defense Cycle on Apple on Spotify

#197 Connecting Through Conflict on Apple on Spotify

#216 One Up and One Down Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#239 How to Own Your Own on Apple on Spotify

#242 Circling Back Around on Apple on Spotify

#243 Having More Honest Communication on Apple on Spotify

#244 The Relationship Circle on Apple on Spotify

#245 Transactional Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#251 Contention is a Choice on Apple on Spotify

#258 Communication That Connects on Apple on Spotify

#272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify

#286 How Miscommunication Destroys Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#288 When You're in a Tough Marriage on Apple on Spotify

#289 Why Our Relationships Needs Validation on Apple on Spotify

#290 Resentment and Contempt in Our Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#297 Why Can't We Just All Get Along on Apple on Spotify

#298 Friendship in Marriage on Apple on Spotify

#304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives on Apple on Spotify

#307 Curiosity, Not Criticism on Apple on Spotify

#319 Get Ready to Rock The Boat on Apple on Spotify

#331 Sense of Self on Apple on Spotify

#332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head on Apple on Spotify

#346 How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding on Apple on Spotify

#357 How to Be More Understanding on Apple on Spotify

#369 Normal, Difficult, Human Interactions on Apple on Spotify

#370 Conscious Conflict on Apple on Spotify

#386 Overcoming Resentment on Apple on Spotify

#392 Vulnerability and Validation on Apple on Spotify

#404: People Over Problems and Processes on Apple on Spotify

#405: How to Create a Partnership on Apple on Spotify

#408: When You Get Triggered on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

I believe grace is one of the most Christlike ways that we can be loving. When we better understand Christ's Grace for us, when we can accept that Grace into our own lives, and when we can then extend this Grace to others, everything seems to change. We feel more peace and compassion, we develop a stronger sense of self, and we feel more deeply connected to Divinity, ourselves, and others. We can never go wrong with Grace.

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#26 Taking Offense on Apple on Spotify

#33 Forgiving Yourself on Apple on Spotify

#39 Guilt & Shame on Apple on Spotify

#46 Choosing to Love Yourself on Apple on Spotify

#55 Don't Should Yourself on Apple on Spotify

#104 Cultivating Self-Love on Apple on Spotify

#105 Self-Love in Our Past, Present, and Future on Apple on Spotify

#106 Fierce Self-Love on Apple on Spotify

#148 Grace & Grudges in Our Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#155 How to Forgive Anyone on Apple on Spotify

#165 I Would Never Act That Way on Apple on Spotify

#166 Imaginary Friends on Apple on Spotify

#219 The Truth About The Struggle on Apple on Spotify

#234 Forgiveness and Compassion on Apple on Spotify

#235 The Beautiful Mess on Apple on Spotify

#272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify

#274 When We Behave Badly on Apple on Spotify

#297 Why Can't We Just All Get Along on Apple on Spotify

#304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives on Apple on Spotify

#351 Grace, Shame, and Letting Yourself Off the Hook on Apple on Spotify

#357 How to Be More Understanding on Apple on Spotify

#385 Self-Forgiveness on Apple on Spotify

#389 The Partnership of Marriage on Apple on Spotify

#401: Judgement and Grace on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Love is an amazing feeling. And it starts with our thoughts. Our ability to show up loving in our relationships begins with having loving thoughts about them. And many of us have gotten into a unfortunate habit of having frustrated, angry, and angsty thoughts about people in our lives. These thoughts eventually lead to behaviors that are less than loving, in fact, they can become contemptuous when we're not even aware of it. Let's talk about how to be more loving.

Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts:

#10 Unconditional Love on Apple on Spotify

#38 Love is Minding Your Own Business on Apple on Spotify

#48 Love Is All You Need on Apple on Spotify

#92 Clean Love on Apple on Spotify

#216 One Up and One Down Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#244 The Relationship Circle on Apple on Spotify

#251 Contention is a Choice on Apple on Spotify

#289 Why Our Relationships Needs Validation on Apple on Spotify

#298 Friendship in Marriage on Apple on Spotify

#299 Love Is Not a Reward on Apple on Spotify

#309 What an Equal Relationship Looks Like on Apple on Spotify

#321 Clean Love and Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#341 Choosing to Be All In on Apple on Spotify

#364 Relationship Neglect on Apple on Spotify

#384 Relational Living on Apple on Spotify

#405: How to Create a Partnership on Apple on Spotify

#416: Leaning In on Apple on Spotify

#417: What Leaning in Looks Like on Apple on Spotify

#418: Loving What Is on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

In The Book of Mormon, Alma teaches that those who want to more fully follow Christ need to be willing to 'mourn with those that mourn'. I believe many of us are good at seeing people who are mourning, our hearts are pricked and we desire to reach out, and often do, and then we get stuck. How do we create a safe space for the other person to mourn and struggle without being dismissive, judgmental, or a fixer? How do we really mourn with them? This podcast will not only help create awareness around your go-to behaviors that may not be so helpful, but you will also learn some tools to use that will truly allow you to 'mourn with those that mourn.'

Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts:

#5 Learning to Listen on Apple on Spotify

#92 Clean Love on Apple on Spotify

#149 The Importance of Discomfort on Apple on Spotify

#215 Being Seen and Being Heard on Apple on Spotify

#221 How to Handle Your Friend's Divorce on Apple on Spotify

#236 None of Your Business on Apple on Spotify

#244 The Relationship Circle on Apple on Spotify

#258 Communication That Connects on Apple on Spotify

#272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify

#284 Why Vulnerability Matters on Apple on Spotify

#289 Why Our Relationships Needs Validation on Apple on Spotify

#346 How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding on Apple on Spotify

#357 How to Be More Understanding on Apple on Spotify

#402: A Better Way to Validate on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

'Should' is a sketchy word. Not only does it keep us in a place of limbo, somewhere between doing things and not doing things, it also creates a lot of shame around our lack of focus and momentum. And if there's one thing we know about shame, it's that it will never move us forward into a better version of ourselves. Shame always shuts us down and even creates a downward spiral.

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#39 Guilt & Shame on Apple on Spotify

#55 Don't Should Yourself on Apple on Spotify

#70 Self Reflection and Self Coaching on Apple on Spotify

#83 Self-Honesty on Apple on Spotify

#91 Personal Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#104 Cultivating Self-Love on Apple on Spotify

#105 Self-Love in Our Past, Present, and Future on Apple on Spotify

#106 Fierce Self-Love on Apple on Spotify

#107 Why Our Thoughts Are So Important on Apple on Spotify

#130 Exploring Our Darkness on Apple on Spotify

#143 Stuck in Perfectionism on Apple on Spotify

#186 Are You Committed or Just Interested? on Apple on Spotify

#225 Shame, Blame, and Disempowerment on Apple on Spotify

#305 When We Don't Feel Good Enough on Apple on Spotify

#327 Learning to Love Your Human Self on Apple on Spotify

#351 Grace, Shame, and Letting Yourself Off the Hook on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

In our home we call it the 'sh' word, because should is a word we like to stay away from. It creates shame and annoyance from unmet expectations and it makes us incredibly judgmental of the person we are 'shoulding', including ourselves. 'Should' doesn't inspire, it doesn't love, it isn't kind, and it doesn't move us forward to our next best version. Learning to extract this word from your thinking and speaking will make a huge difference in how you think and feel about yourself and others.

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#25 Getting Unstuck on Apple on Spotify

#53 Finding Peace With Your Past on Apple on Spotify

#54 Finding Faith in Our Future on Apple on Spotify

#96 Understanding the Thought Model on Apple on Spotify

#97 Why the Thought Model Matters on Apple on Spotify

#107 Why Our Thoughts Are So Important on Apple on Spotify

#122 Your Story About You on Apple on Spotify

#123 Your Thoughts About You on Apple on Spotify

#195 What Are You Sorry For? on Apple on Spotify

#196 How to Break the Blame/Defense Cycle on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

In this greatest hits episode, I get a little bit personal when I tell you about an experience I had hurting someone's feelings and what I learned from it. Basically, that it's all about love. If I can get my heart to a place of love, everything in my life is better, most importantly, my relationships with others, myself, and my Heavenly Parents. Love really is the answer if we want greater happiness and peace in our lives.

Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts:

#72 Unconditional Self-Love on Apple on Spotify

#92 Clean Love on Apple on Spotify

#104 Cultivating Self-Love on Apple on Spotify

#105 Self-Love in Our Past, Present, and Future on Apple on Spotify

#106 Fierce Self-Love on Apple on Spotify

#125 Love It Before You Leave It on Apple on Spotify

#260 Your Lovability and Your Love Ability on Apple on Spotify

#299 Love Is Not a Reward on Apple on Spotify

#321 Clean Love and Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#327 Learning to Love Your Human Self on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Are you enough? With all of your flaws and imperfections, with all of your mistakes and misunderstandings, how can you really be enough? As women, many of us have spent years grappling with this concept of being enough, and very often we come up wanting. We don't feel we are pretty enough, skinny enough, compassionate enough, tough enough, strong enough, vulnerable enough, happy enough, etc. You name it, we often don't feel we are enough of it, unless we start to believe we are too much of something: too outspoken, too strong, too vulnerable, too compassionate, too happy, to skinny, etc. So where do we find the place of being content – happy with who we are and the path we're on, while also acknowledging our human imperfections?

Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts:

#33 Forgiving Yourself on Apple on Spotify

#34 Self-Compassion on Apple on Spotify

#55 Don't Should Yourself on Apple on Spotify

#72 Unconditional Self-Love on Apple on Spotify

#104 Cultivating Self-Love on Apple on Spotify

#105 Self-Love in Our Past, Present, and Future on Apple on Spotify

#106 Fierce Self-Love on Apple on Spotify

#137 Not Enough? Not True on Apple on Spotify

#195 What Are You Sorry For? on Apple on Spotify

#217 Self-Respect and Being Wrong on Apple on Spotify

#260 Your Lovability and Your Love Ability on Apple on Spotify

#305 When We Don't Feel Good Enough on Apple on Spotify

#351 Grace, Shame, and Letting Yourself Off the Hook on Apple on Spotify

#385 Self-Forgiveness on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/