Many of us grew up in homes where we didn't receive any training about vulnerability in relationships. We were fairly uneducated about emotions, and it is very detrimental in our marriage relationships. My previous 24-year marriage struggled with a severe lack of vulnerability, and today we're talking about why that was such a problem and the difference vulnerability will make in your emotional intimacy.

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190 Protective Walls

215 Being Seen and Heard

242 Circling Back Around

341 Choosing to be All In

343 What Does Vulnerability Look Like?

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If we are going to be all-in in our relationships, we have to be vulnerable, and that can feel super scary. Sometimes it's difficult because we are in a new relationship and it can be hard to be the one to make the first move. Sometimes it's difficult because our decades-long relationship is struggling and it's been a very long time since we were vulnerable with each other. But until we truly step into vulnerability, we will never create the deep, intimate, connected relationship we crave. So, how do we start being more vulnerable? That's what we're talking about today.

You can find an Emotional Wheel here.

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190 Protective Walls

215 Being Seen and Being Heard

239 How to Own Your Own

242 Circling Back Around

284 Why Vulnerability Matters

314 When Setting Boundaries Is Hard

341 Choosing to Be All-In

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are two options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Relationships can be hard. If we have created a pprotective pattern over the years, we may find that we are in a pattern of leaning out emotionally in our marriage and not having the intimate connection that we inwardly crave. When we choose to be all-in, we take a risk in our relationship, but it is also the only way to open a door that makes emotional intimacy an option. There aren't any guarantees how your spouse will show up when you choose to lean in, but I promise, you will be a better person on the other side of you couraging up and being all in regardless of the outcome.

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92 Clean Love

111 Checklist Relationship

125 Love It Before You Leave It

183 Taking Risks and Becoming

201 The Tolerable Life

271 Equal Partnerships

284 Why Vulnerability Matters

299 Love Is Not a Reward

309 What An Equal Relationship Looks Like

331 Sense of Self

332 Sense of Self - It's All In Your Head

334 Sense of Self and Marriage

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Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

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When a woman has devoted so many years to being a stay-at-home mom and then the kids grow up and leave, she will often feel as though she is floundering a bit to get her feet underneath her. What are her next steps? How does she enter the workforce with not a lot of 'working outside the home' experience in the last 30 years? Angela Ashurst-McGee is a career coach who focuses on helping women in this exact situation enter the 'working world' in the best way possible.

Here are some great things to know about Angela:

Angela Ashurst-McGee is a Certified Professional Resume Writer (CPRW) and the creator of Upword Resume, a premium resume-writing service for professionals who want to keep their career moving onward and upward.

In the last 15 years, the Upword Resume team has written resumes and LinkedIn profiles for everyone from blue collar workers and new grads to Fortune 50 executives and serial entrepreneurs.

Angela is a firm believer that a good job isn't just a good paycheck—it's a key to our deeper dreams of creating value and making the world a better place. She is an advocate and reformer who loves bringing clarity, confidence, and optimism to Upword Resume' clients.

Angela is the mother to six teens and young adults and lives in Mapleton, Utah.

You can find Angela at:

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89 Mid-Life Teenage Angst

128 Growing Up Into Middle-Age

184 Excited About Middle-Age

261 No More Growing Old Gracefully with Kwavi Agbeyegbe

315 Mid-Life Crisis? Yes, Please!

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There are so many things we love about the holiday season, the decorations, the gifts, the music, the family getting together. . . well maybe not always the family because, well, drama. But what if we could have holidays without all the drama? What if we could just enjoy the people, the conversations, the sentiments and the season for what we really want them to be? Today we're going to talk about just how to do that - how to show up in a way where we can sit on the sofa after it's all over and just feel really satisfied with who we were.

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26 Taking Offense

77 Other People's Opinions

163 Difficult People

181 6 Tips For a Happier Holiday

231 Other People's Pain

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I believe that the holiday season is one of the greatest reasons for stress and anxiety for a lot of people. Today I have 6 really practical tips for you on how you can step back from the stress, spread yourself a little thicker, and really enjoy your holidays this year.

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26 Taking Offense

77 Other People's Opinions

163 Difficult People

175 Happy No-Drama Holidays to You

231 Other People's Pain

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are two options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

God created us to be sexual beings. Through a lot of social conditioning in the 70s and 80s (and probably before, but I wasn't there), we got a lot of mixed messages about our sexuality as women, and one of them was not that as women we were created to be sexual and find a lot of pleasure and enjoyment there. From this conditioning, many of us struggle to be at peace with our sexuality and to engage in healthy and happy sexuality. When we have a strong sense of self, we are more fully capable of addressing these challenging conditioned thoughts and moving into a more whole version of ourselves that includes healthy sexuality.

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29 Validation

34 Self-Compassion

46 Choosing to Love Yourself

78 Playing Small

104 Cultivating Self-Love

105 Self-Love In Our Past, Present, and Future

106 Fierce Self-Love

113 Self-Acceptance

114 Confidence

137 Not Enough? Not True

215 Being Seen and Being Heard

247 The Value in Knowing Our Value

260 Your Lovability and Your Love Ability

281 Mid-Life Sexuality with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

293 Dating in Mid-life

304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives

327 Learning to Love Your Human Self

331 Sense of Self

332 Sense of Self - It's All In Your Head

333 Sense of Self and Dating

334 Sense of Self and Marriage

335 Sense of Self and Parenting

336 Sense of Self and Spirituality

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How does our sense of self impact our spirituality, or our ability to connect with God? Significantly. When we have a strong sense of self we see ourselves as worthy of God's love, deserving of His mercy, and accepting of His grace. When we have a struggling sense of self we don't beieve that God could love us and forgive us for our human frailties. Though God is always there with love and an outstretched hand, our feelings of worth and confidence will determine whether we are willing and able to reach out and accept what He is offering us. Our connection to God, our spirituality, is determined not by what God is offering, but by what we are willing to accept.

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29 Validation

34 Self-Compassion

46 Choosing to Love Yourself

78 Playing Small

104 Cultivating Self-Love

105 Self-Love In Our Past, Present, and Future

106 Fierce Self-Love

113 Self-Acceptance

114 Confidence

137 Not Enough? Not True

215 Being Seen and Being Heard

247 The Value in Knowing Our Value

260 Your Lovability and Your Love Ability

304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives

327 Learning to Love Your Human Self

331 Sense of Self

332 Sense of Self - It's All In Your Head

333 Sense of Self and Dating

334 Sense of Self and Marriage

335 Sense of Self and Parenting

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Having a strong sense of self is so valuable in our parenting journey. It allows for us to have healthy, strong, and beautiful relationships with our children, where a struggling sense of self breaks down our relationships and actually creates more struggle with our sense of self. The work we do to develop our sense of self will allow us to have better boundaries with our adult children and also stop people-pleasing in an effort to earn their love and acceptance. This strong sense of self empowers us to honor their agency and not feel threatened or insecure when they choose paths that we weren't anticipating. We just can't go wrong with a healthy sense of self.

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29 Validation

34 Self-Compassion

46 Choosing to Love Yourself

99 Parenting Adult Children

104 Cultivating Self-Love

105 Self-Love In Our Past, Present, and Future

106 Fierce Self-Love

113 Self-Acceptance

129 Parenting Discomfort

157 Friend-Zoning Your Adult Children

180 Better Relationships with Our Adult Children

182 How Our 'Wayward' Children Bless Our Lives

202 Pain, Peace, and Parenting Disengaged Adult Children

237 You'll Never Be Enough for Your Children

260 Your Lovability and Your Love Ability

304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives

318 The Challenge of Parenting Adult Children

327 Learning to Love Your Human Self

331 Sense of Self

332 Sense of Self - It's All In Your Head

333 Sense of Self and Dating

334 Sense of Self and Marriage

Interesting in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

This week we are continuing with our discussions about sense of self, and focusing on how it impacts our marriages. It is really difficult, if not impossible, to have a strong, healthy, intimately connected marriage relationship if we don't have a strong sense of self. When we have an underdeveloped sense of self, we lessen our capacity to really love and accept the other person and we severly limit our ability to do the repair work that is inevitable and so important to our marriage, two things that are vital for deep, intimate connection. Let's dig a little deeper so we can clean some things up, shall we?

Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts:

29 Validation

34 Self-Compassion

46 Choosing to Love Yourself

78 Playing Small

104 Cultivating Self-Love

105 Self-Love In Our Past, Present, and Future

106 Fierce Self-Love

113 Self-Acceptance

114 Confidence

137 Not Enough? Not True

162 My 90-day Relationship

198 My Last 90 Day Relationship

215 Being Seen and Being Heard

247 The Value in Knowing Our Value

260 Your Lovability and Your Love Ability

293 Dating in Mid-life

294 The 90-day Relationship How To

304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives

327 Learning to Love Your Human Self

331 Sense of Self

332 Sense of Self - It's All In Your Head

333 Sense of Self and Dating

Interesting in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/