Creating a partnership in our marriages was the goal when we got married, and yet many of us over the years, end up retreating into a paper marriage, a place where we live in the same space, but we do so as roommates, people who aren't connected. The goal of marriage isn't just to share a house and a washing machine, it's to connect emotionally, to learn how to love another person in a selfless and compassionate way. When we get married with expectations of the other person making us happy and always loving us, we will find it easy to lean out of the relationship and retreat into ourselves, neglecting the relationship. Instead, when we get married with the expectation that we will learn to love cleanly and fully, we will lean in and create a safe space for our partner to do the same.

Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts:

#29 Validation on Apple on Spotify

#92 Clean Love on Apple on Spotify

#125 Love It Before You Leave It on Apple on Spotify

#238 Overflow on Apple on Spotify

#280 Living in Alignment on Apple or Spotify

#283 How To Be a Better Partner on Apple on Spotify

#284 Why Vulnerability Matters on Apple on Spotify

#287 Equality in Your Relationships and Your Self-Worth on Apple on Spotify

#288 When You're in a Tough Marriage on Apple on Spotify

#289 Why Our Relationships Needs Validation on Apple on Spotify

#290 Resentment and Contempt in Our Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#298 Friendship in Marriage on Apple on Spotify

#319 Get Ready to Rock The Boat on Apple on Spotify

#331 Sense of Self on Apple on Spotify

#332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head on Apple on Spotify

#334 Sense of Self and Marriage on Apple on Spotify

#364 Relationship Neglect on Apple on Spotify

#371 Relationship Circle on Apple on Spotify

#372 Why Our Relationships Need Validation on Apple on Spotify

#373 Safety in the Relationship Circle on Apple on Spotify

#374 Creating More Safety in Your Relationship on Apple on Spotify

#375 Sense of Self and the Relationship Circle on Apple on Spotify

#384 Relational Living on Apple on Spotify

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