Leaning into relationships is the process of choosing the relationship over everything else, including our fears and insecurities. It can feel super scary because it requires vulnerability and openness, and this can mean that we may need to courage up and step into discomfort. Because when things in a relationship get tough, it can be super easy to lean out to protect our point of view, our struggling sense of self, and our ego. But leaning out increases the distance and drives disconnect. If we want meaningful, connected, and intimate relationships, we have to have the courage to lean in.

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#92 Clean Love on Apple on Spotify

#110 The Cost of Being Right on Apple on Spotify

#130 Exploring Our Darkness on Apple on Spotify

#148 Grace & Grudges in Our Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#156 The Benefits of Being Wrong on Apple on Spotify

#161 Developing More Intimacy in Your Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#164 How Being in Control is Destroying Your Life on Apple on Spotify

#165 I Would Never Act That Way on Apple on Spotify

#190 Protective Walls on Apple on Spotify

#218 Honest Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#223 It Really Is All About You on Apple on Spotify

#243 Having More Honest Communication on Apple on Spotify

#257 Other People's Agency on Apple on Spotify

#258 Communication That Connects on Apple on Spotify

#290 Resentment and Contempt in Our Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#295 Safety in the Relationship Circle on Apple on Spotify

#296 Creating More Safety in Your Relationship on Apple on Spotify

#298 Friendship in Marriage on Apple on Spotify

#304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives on Apple on Spotify

#326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe on Apple on Spotify

#331 Sense of Self on Apple on Spotify

#332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head on Apple on Spotify

#341 Choosing to Be All In on Apple on Spotify

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Moving into comparison and judgment is such a normal, human thing to do. And we can learn to harness these tendencies to create more of the kind, loving, compassionate relationships we want. Learning to lean into curiosity is a powerful tool to help us stop one-upping and one-downing in our relationships and learn instead to accept and appreciate others as our equals, creating more genuine, deep, and emotionally intimate connections.

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#55 Don't Should Yourself on Apple on Spotify

#71 Contribution on Apple on Spotify

#96 Understanding the Thought Model on Apple on Spotify

#97 Why the Thought Model Matters on Apple on Spotify

#103 The Case For Curiosity on Apple on Spotify

#110 The Cost of Being Right on Apple on Spotify

#127 Our Worth & Our Works on Apple on Spotify

#151 Connection on Apple on Spotify

#173 A Space For Grace on Apple on Spotify

#216 One Up and One Down Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#224 Compassion and Curiosity on Apple on Spotify

#303 The Thought Model Reteach on Apple on Spotify

#307 Curiosity, Not Criticism on Apple on Spotify

#327 Learning to Love Your Human Self on Apple on Spotify

#348 Entitled Expectation on Apple on Spotify

#401: Judgement and Grace on Apple on Spotify

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We all have rich emotional histories spanning our entire lifetime. And every single day these histories are shaping how we show up in the world, how we respond to other people, and how we interpret things that are said and done. When we can start to reveal the thoughts and ideas that are buried beneath our consciousness, we can address how they are impacting our lives today. Join Cathi Antczak, LCSW, and myself as we share our own personal experiences in discovering our own emotional histories.

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#211 Why We Do This Work on Apple on Spotify

#223 It Really Is All About You on Apple on Spotify

#232 Feeling Empowered on Apple on Spotify

#274 When We Behave Badly on Apple on Spotify

#297 Why Can't We Just All Get Along on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

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Do you ever wonder what the best advice is from mid-life coaches? In this podcast I am chatting with two of my great life coach friends, Brooke Onike and Jane Copier, and we are sharing some of the most impactful tools and concepts that we coach our clients on. I think you'll love this one.

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#88 Marriage Mending with Jane Copier on Apple on Spotify

#96 Understanding the Thought Model on Apple on Spotify

#97 Why the Thought Model Matters on Apple on Spotify

#99 Parenting Adult Children on Apple on Spotify

#103 The Case For Curiosity on Apple on Spotify

#122 Your Story About You on Apple on Spotify

#123 Your Thoughts About You on Apple on Spotify

#141 Coaching & Counseling - What's the Difference? on Apple on Spotify

#200 My Most Life-Changing Life Coach Lessons on Apple on Spotify

#272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify

#363 Breaking Your Over- and Under-functioning Cycles with Jane Copier on Apple on Spotify

#367 Loving Your Adult Children Better with Brooke Oniki on Apple on Spotify

You can find Brooke at https://brookeoniki.com/

Brooke's podcast is called Midlife with Brooke

You can find Jane at https://www.jane-copier.com/

Jane's podcast is called Happy in the Middle

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When we develop charity, everything in our lives gets better. We develop the capacity to treat others with more kindness and grace, and our self-respect increases as we do so. We live more in alignment with our values and create the ability to truly love. As our charity increases, so does our satisfaction, fulfilment, and joy in life. Charity creates in us the ability to honor the agency of others and develop relationships that are honest and intimate.

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#10 Unconditional Love on Apple on Spotify

#48 Love Is All You Need on Apple on Spotify

#60 Mental and Emotional Abusive Behaviors on Apple on Spotify

#61 Charity is the Antidote on Apple on Spotify

#92 Clean Love on Apple on Spotify

#120 Are You Motivated By Love or Fear? on Apple on Spotify

#124 The Curse of the White Knuckles on Apple on Spotify

#150 Living in Possibility on Apple on Spotify

#173 A Space For Grace on Apple on Spotify

#234 Forgiveness and Compassion on Apple on Spotify

#241 Forgiving Others on Apple on Spotify

#260 Your Lovability and Your Love Ability on Apple on Spotify

#280 Living in Alignment on Apple or Spotify

#299 Love Is Not a Reward on Apple on Spotify

#321 Clean Love and Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#357 How to Be More Understanding on Apple on Spotify

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Sometimes, even when we're on our best behavior and doing all the things right to stay in our own lane the other person still doesn't do things the way we want them to, and that can be so frustrating and annoying. And, as a human they get to do it that way. Our job at that point is to learn how to honor and respect their agency to make the choice they want to and figure out how to love more cleanly and unconditionally. It's a challenge to be sure, and it's part of the challenge and anticipated growth in our Heavenly Parent's Plan of Salvation for us. Figuring this out brings us more peace and fulfilment in life than we previously thought possible.

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#38 Love is Minding Your Own Business on Apple on Spotify

#99 Parenting Adult Children on Apple on Spotify

#118 100% Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#153 The Manual on Apple on Spotify

#164 How Being in Control is Destroying Your Life on Apple on Spotify

#180 Better Relationships With Our Adult Children on Apple on Spotify

#191 Why We Seek to Control Others on Apple on Spotify

#223 It Really Is All About You on Apple on Spotify

#236 None of Your Business on Apple on Spotify

#239 How to Own Your Own on Apple on Spotify

#257 Other People's Agency on Apple on Spotify

#277 Your Spouse Is Not Your Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives on Apple on Spotify

#321 Clean Love and Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#341 Choosing to Be All In on Apple on Spotify

#384 Relational Living on Apple on Spotify

#389 The Partnership of Marriage on Apple on Spotify

#390 You Can't Fill Their Bucket on Apple on Spotify

#395 You Can't Make Them Love You on Apple on Spotify

#410 What Staying in Your Own Lane Looks Like on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

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Learning how to stay in your own lane can be tricky because so often what we see as being helpful and kind and of service, is actually getting in someone else's lane. In this podcast we're going to look at over 30 examples of what it looks like to get in other peoples' lanes to help us understand more clearly how tricky it can be and become more aware of and see our own tendencies to stray from our own lane.

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#38 Love is Minding Your Own Business on Apple on Spotify

#99 Parenting Adult Children on Apple on Spotify

#118 100% Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#153 The Manual on Apple on Spotify

#164 How Being in Control is Destroying Your Life on Apple on Spotify

#180 Better Relationships With Our Adult Children on Apple on Spotify

#191 Why We Seek to Control Others on Apple on Spotify

#223 It Really Is All About You on Apple on Spotify

#236 None of Your Business on Apple on Spotify

#239 How to Own Your Own on Apple on Spotify

#257 Other People's Agency on Apple on Spotify

#277 Your Spouse Is Not Your Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives on Apple on Spotify

#390 You Can't Fill Their Bucket on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

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In this episode we explore the idea of staying in your own lane—taking responsibility for your own feelings, choices, and boundaries rather than trying to control or fix others. Though it can be easy to want to be 'helpful', when we invade others' responsibilities we risk creating resentment and undermining intimacy. So let's talk about some practical strategies to stop overstepping, set clear boundaries, and communicate from your own experience. Healthier relationships grow when partners honor each other's agency and do their own internal work, so let's practice staying in your own lane to build trust, autonomy, and deeper connection.

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#38 Love is Minding Your Own Business on Apple on Spotify

#99 Parenting Adult Children on Apple on Spotify

#118 100% Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#153 The Manual on Apple on Spotify

#164 How Being in Control is Destroying Your Life on Apple on Spotify

#180 Better Relationships With Our Adult Children on Apple on Spotify

#191 Why We Seek to Control Others on Apple on Spotify

#223 It Really Is All About You on Apple on Spotify

#236 None of Your Business on Apple on Spotify

#257 Other People's Agency on Apple on Spotify

#277 Your Spouse Is Not Your Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives on Apple on Spotify

#390 You Can't Fill Their Bucket on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching

Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

We all get triggered, it's part of being a human with an imperfect past. That's not the problem. The problem can be figuring out what to do when these moments of being triggered start harming our relationships and breaking down our own self-worth. Learning how to respond to our triggers in healthy ways and address the underlying reasons for the triggers is the work we're discussing here today.

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#118 100% Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#126 Abdicating Our Emotional Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#130 Exploring Our Darkness on Apple on Spotify

#136 How Coaching Helps on Apple on Spotify

#139 Being a Martyr on Apple on Spotify

#140 Still Being a Martyr on Apple on Spotify

#152 Victim or Hero? on Apple on Spotify

#188 A Safe Space For Awareness on Apple on Spotify

#211 Why We Do This Work on Apple on Spotify

#235 The Beautiful Mess on Apple on Spotify

#242 Circling Back Around on Apple on Spotify

#272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify

#327 Learning to Love Your Human Self on Apple on Spotify

#346 How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding on Apple on Spotify

Here are the triggering questions I used in the podcast:

· What situations tend to bring out intense emotional responses from me?

· Do these situations include specific themes, memories, or experiences?

· What emotions do I feel most often when I feel triggered?

· Has there been a pattern for what has upset me most throughout the course of my relationships?

· What happens when I get triggered?

· What do you notice?

· What might the people around me notice?

· What helps me feel more grounded after a trigger has occurred?

· What happens when I see my loved one experiencing a trigger?

· What helps us feel connected again after the trigger has occurred?

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Research shows that the quality of our lives is dependent on the quality of our relationships. I have learned a lot over the past seven years of coaching clients on difficult relationships and in divorce situations, and today I'm sharing with you my top ten tips for having a better, more fulfilling relationship. They're simple, and yet so many of us overlook these tools. Let's get to work implementing them, shall we?

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#392 Vulnerability and Validation on Apple on Spotify

#193 No Back-Burner Issues on Apple on Spotify

#218 Honest Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#309 What an Equal Relationship Looks Like on Apple on Spotify

#272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify

#257 Other People's Agency on Apple on Spotify

#342 What Does Vulnerability Look Like? On Apple on Spotify

#298 Friendship in Marriage on Apple on Spotify

#239 How to Own Your Own on Apple on Spotify

#319 Get Ready to Rock The Boat on Apple on Spotify

Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options:

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