This week I will be joined by my colleague and friend Jesse MacBeth. He is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Pennsylvania. You can find Jessie at www.abetterlifetherapy.com

Today’s Question: Is compatibility overrated? How can we be sure we are with the right person? 

Answer: This is another question that demands certainty. There is not just one answer. Foundationally  and fundamentally do you feel safe? Opposites attract is a common line and many people have a relationship with opposite traits. You have to ask yourself, is there trust and commitment? Those are things needed in all relationships. Does your partner care about what you care about? What are you building towards? Is this a common goal for both of you? If you feel safe, loved and you are headed in the same direction that is about all you can ask for. 

Compatibility is a very surface level similarity. This can be growing up unders similar circumstances, the same religion, the same generation, but scientifically there is not an underlying theme that truly influences the long term relationship. It is not a term that relates to relationship health. 

Compatibility can be seen as mutual trust, similar goals, and respect.  Age, the same religion, or similar childhoods do not make people compatible. 

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