Bondage: what was once considered a taboo, dangerous kink is now a commonplace sex act that you can find in many a suburban bedroom.  But is restraint play for you?  Tune in to find out.  

Bondage, or restraint play, is a common sexual fantasy, but how can you safely make it into a very hot reality? 

In this episode, the Wives discuss what bondage is (including some sexy past experiences), who restraint play is for, and how to safely play with different forms of restraints. 

But first, cool off with a Summer Brazilian (no waxing necessary) while Ams shares her Hot Tale: a fantasy threesome with Peloton instructor Denis Morton. Spoiler-alert - Denis wasn't actually involved, but sometimes a little fantasy goes a long way in the bedroom (and the basement).  

Then, the Wives define and explore some bondage basics. 

Bondage is a form of kinky sex play that involves tying up, pinning down, or otherwise restraining a partner.  It can be combined with other forms of BDSM play, such as impact play or orgasm control, or just used as a way to spice up an otherwise vanilla sexual experience. 

Bondage was once considered very taboo and even a little dangerous: something that only Kinksters do in the privacy of their local sex dungeon.  But if you check out the nightstand drawer of many a suburban mom, you just might find a blindfold and some cuffs.

Bondage has become a much more mainstream sexual activity (who didn't read Fifty Shades of Grey?), and it's actually quite accessible to the curious couple. 

Four popular types of restraints are: rope,  binders, bondage tape and shackles.

Shackles/Cuffs- a great place to start.

Shackles refer to cloth, leather or metal ankle or wrist restraints.

They are easy to put on and do an excellent job of keeping your partner immobilized. 

Rope- is super versatile, but a little tricky to use.

The material and type of rope matters. Cotton rope may be a good starting point, because it’s softer on skin.

It can involve suspension. It can be paired with all kinds of other erotic play.

Can change the position of your body so you experience sensation differently.

Binders- Not for Bondage newbies.  

The most common form of binders are arm binders, which completely immobilize the wearer’s arms (unlike handcuffs which still give them a little bit of wiggle room).

Another option are leather leg binders, which keep the wearer from bending their knee or moving on their own.

Bondage Tape- If you are looking for sometime quick and pretty. 

Unlike regular tape, it only sticks to itself.  Not skin or hair  Bondage tape can be used to create makeshift hand or ankle cuffs, to secure someone’s hands, legs or almost any body part.

Safety note: with tape play, you need to be careful of nearby candles or heat of any kind.  Some adhesives will become too sticky when heated, pulling the top layer of skin off when you go to remove the tape.

To get the low-down on all things Bondage, the Wives interview Kayla Lords, cohost of the podcast Loving  BDSM.  

Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: Ams wants to be tied to the bed, spread eagle-style, while Mr. Ams applies some delicious torture.  While Kat wants to take it up a notch with three sexy gentlemen (wait, isn't that called a gang bang???)

A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode!  You can check out Abbey's podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/. 

Want to learn more about BDSM?

Check out our Season 1 episode on Impact Play

Our two-part episode on Dungeons (Part 1 and Part 2)

And our BSDM Articles:

Five Myths about Impact Play

Your Sweet, Kinky, Embraceable You

Essential Items for a Home Dungeon.