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By Ams & Kat
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Are you ready to unlock the mysteries of female sexuality? Come As You Are is a must-read for all vulva-owners and the partners who want to please them. In this episode, the Wives interview author Emily Nagoski on how her can help all women maximize their capacity for pleasure. But before we dive into the details, mix yourself up this episode's Cocktail - the Blood Orange Mule, while Ams recounts a ridiculous attempt to buy THC-infused lube in California Then, the Wives FAN-GIRL over their favorite author, Emily Nagoski, and her award-winning book, Come As You Are. Based on their initial read, the Wives learned the nitty gritty of female anatomy (how male parts and female parts are analogs of each other!), the Dual Control Model (with the notorious sexual "accelerators" and "brakes"), the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire and how to get all parts of your mind and body moving in one direction, for absolutely mind-blowing pleasure. Next, the Wives go straight to the source, interviewing the incomparable Emily Nagoski, on Come As You Are as well as her newest project, which focuses on staying connected in a long term relationship. Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: time to check out Come As You Are, the Workbook. If you find female sexuality confusing and even frustrating, this book is a game-changer. A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode! You can check out Abbey's podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.

Get ready for the hottest homework of this season! In this episode, the Wives report back on their sexy homework with Bondage. But first, if summer shenanigans are making you feel run down, check out this episode's cocktail: the Bourbon Elixir. And trust us, you will want a drink in hand when you listen to Kat's hot tale, steamy foreplay with not one, not two, BUT THREE men. Then, the Wives share their sexy homework with bondage, including a sexy foursome, Dom/sub play and the kink that cannot be named (...pssst, between you and I, it's a GANG BANG!!!) Finally, it's Just the Tips for anyone who wants to explore bondage and restraint play. Four popular types of restraints are: rope, binders, bondage tape and shackles. Shackles/Cuffs– a great place to start. Shackles refer to cloth, leather or metal ankle or wrist restraints. They are easy to put on and do an excellent job of keeping your partner immobilized. Rope– is super versatile, but a little tricky to use. The material and type of rope matters. Cotton rope may be a good starting point, because it's softer on skin. It can involve suspension. It can be paired with all kinds of other erotic play. Can change the position of your body so you experience sensation differently. Binders- Not for Bondage newbies. The most common form of binders are arm binders, which completely immobilize the wearer's arms (unlike handcuffs which still give them a little bit of wiggle room). Another option are leather leg binders, which keep the wearer from bending their knee or moving on their own. Bondage Tape- If you are looking for sometime quick and pretty. Unlike regular tape, it only sticks to itself. Not skin or hair Bondage tape can be used to create makeshift hand or ankle cuffs, to secure someone's hands, legs or almost any body part. Safety note: with tape play, you need to be careful of nearby candles or heat of any kind. Some adhesives will become too sticky when heated, pulling the top layer of skin off when you go to remove the tape. To get the low-down on all things Bondage, listen to Part 1 where the Wives interview Kayla Lords, cohost of the podcast Loving BDSM. A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode! You can check out Abbey's podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/. WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT BONDAGE Check out our Season 1 episode on Impact Play Our two-part episode on Dungeons (Part 1 and Part 2) And our BSDM Articles: Five Myths about Impact Play Your Sweet, Kinky, Embraceable You Essential Items for a Home Dungeon. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE UNDER THE BED RESTRAINTS EVERYTHING BONDAGE KIT SHIBARI ROPE HITACHI WAND MASSAGE TABLE EYE SHADES This post contains affiliate links. If you use these links to buy something we may earn a commission. Thanks

In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Unicorn Threesomes. Unicorns, you say? But unicorns are single women in the lifestyle and the 2HotWives are…wives! Well, even though Ams and Kat are not unicorns, they can still be "guest stars" in a threesome. But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why don't try this Canna-cocktail, the Apple Pom Spritz! All you need is some apple cider, pomegranate syrup, and a little cannabis tincture! Mix one up while listening to Ams share her sexy experience landing a hot, bi bro. And wait, there are pictures involved?!? Next, the Wives explore what it means to have a Unicorn Threesome. Unicorn threesomes are just any old threesome, it's a chance to be welcomed as the cherished "third" in a couple's fantasy. While not every woman can be a unicorn, they can be the special guest in a threesome! Why is it interesting to explore? Well, apart from being a fantasy for many women, it's an opportunity for partnered women to explore their sexuality without their primary partners and to be treated as a special guest in a couple's most intimate space. But unicorn threesomes also pose some challenges. If you are a partnered woman, you may have trouble communicating your wants and boundaries alone. You may even have safety concerns. To learn more, the Wives talk with YouTuber, Toronto Unicorn about the dos and don'ts of exploring the lifestyle as a single woman. Finally, the Wives decide on their sexy homework: Kat plans to go to a sex club with other ladies, while Ams looks for opportunities to invite herself into a couple's bedroom. ABOUT TORONTO UNICORN: TorontoUnicorn pulls back the curtain of secrecy on the swinger lifestyle, normally underground, for those curious to find their way to this sex positive lifestyle for themselves. Her mission is to "take the scary out of swinging and sex clubs" and invite sex positive people to observe the swinging world through her lifestyle vlogs and experiences. Learn more at https://torontounicorn.com/

Time to check in with the Wives on their sexy homework from the book, Come as You Are, and the companion Workbook. Author Emily Nagoski states that everyone's sexuality is unique and normal. That's a wonderful and liberating message, but how can a woman learn about her unique sexual temperament from a book? It's time to dig a little deeper and pull out the workbook for sexy homework! But first, if you looking for a cocktail that won't weigh you down in these dog days of summer, check out the Grapefruit Spritzer while listening to Kat recount 22 straight days of morning sex with Mr. Kat (…jealous much?!?!) Then, the Wives share their sexy homework with Come as You Are and the companion Workbook. Drop that baggage, girl! Most women bring a lot of "baggage" in the bedroom, much of which is based on cultural messages around sex. Using the workbook, Ams and Kat explore how idealized versions of the "pure" "healthy" and "high performance" woman make real women feel inadequate and self-critical. Time to Start a Sex Binder. Do you plan for sex? Why not?!?! We plan for the things in life that are important to us, so why don't we plan more for sex? Ams uses the workbook to identify the "perfect context" for sex and better ways that her and Mr. Ams can initiate. Let that Shit Go. Is stress keeping you from an amazing sex life? Kat confesses that chronic stress has been a major "brake" in her life over the past two years, and references Emily's wisdom from CAUA as well as Emily and Amelia Nagoski's book, Burnout, to complete the stress cycle. Finally, it's Just the Tips for Come As You Are and the companion Workbook A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode! You can check out Abbey's podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/. Check out our Podcasts and Articles Featuring Books about Sex. Part 1 for Come As You Are including our interview with Emily Nagoski! The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay (Part 1 and Part 2) including our interview with authors Jessica O'Reilly, PhD (Sex with Dr. Jess) and Marla Renee Stewart, MA Book Review: Come As You Are Book Review: The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay .

Bondage: what was once considered a taboo, dangerous kink is now a commonplace sex act that you can find in many a suburban bedroom. But is restraint play for you? Tune in to find out. Bondage, or restraint play, is a common sexual fantasy, but how can you safely make it into a very hot reality? In this episode, the Wives discuss what bondage is (including some sexy past experiences), who restraint play is for, and how to safely play with different forms of restraints. But first, cool off with a Summer Brazilian (no waxing necessary) while Ams shares her Hot Tale: a fantasy threesome with Peloton instructor Denis Morton. Spoiler-alert - Denis wasn't actually involved, but sometimes a little fantasy goes a long way in the bedroom (and the basement). Then, the Wives define and explore some bondage basics. Bondage is a form of kinky sex play that involves tying up, pinning down, or otherwise restraining a partner. It can be combined with other forms of BDSM play, such as impact play or orgasm control, or just used as a way to spice up an otherwise vanilla sexual experience. Bondage was once considered very taboo and even a little dangerous: something that only Kinksters do in the privacy of their local sex dungeon. But if you check out the nightstand drawer of many a suburban mom, you just might find a blindfold and some cuffs. Bondage has become a much more mainstream sexual activity (who didn't read Fifty Shades of Grey?), and it's actually quite accessible to the curious couple. Four popular types of restraints are: rope, binders, bondage tape and shackles. Shackles/Cuffs- a great place to start. Shackles refer to cloth, leather or metal ankle or wrist restraints. They are easy to put on and do an excellent job of keeping your partner immobilized. Rope- is super versatile, but a little tricky to use. The material and type of rope matters. Cotton rope may be a good starting point, because it's softer on skin. It can involve suspension. It can be paired with all kinds of other erotic play. Can change the position of your body so you experience sensation differently. Binders- Not for Bondage newbies. The most common form of binders are arm binders, which completely immobilize the wearer's arms (unlike handcuffs which still give them a little bit of wiggle room). Another option are leather leg binders, which keep the wearer from bending their knee or moving on their own. Bondage Tape- If you are looking for sometime quick and pretty. Unlike regular tape, it only sticks to itself. Not skin or hair Bondage tape can be used to create makeshift hand or ankle cuffs, to secure someone's hands, legs or almost any body part. Safety note: with tape play, you need to be careful of nearby candles or heat of any kind. Some adhesives will become too sticky when heated, pulling the top layer of skin off when you go to remove the tape. To get the low-down on all things Bondage, the Wives interview Kayla Lords, cohost of the podcast Loving BDSM. Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: Ams wants to be tied to the bed, spread eagle-style, while Mr. Ams applies some delicious torture. While Kat wants to take it up a notch with three sexy gentlemen (wait, isn't that called a gang bang???) A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode! You can check out Abbey's podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/. Want to learn more about BDSM? Check out our Season 1 episode on Impact Play Our two-part episode on Dungeons (Part 1 and Part 2) And our BSDM Articles: Five Myths about Impact Play Your Sweet, Kinky, Embraceable You Essential Items for a Home Dungeon.
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