2HotWives - A Girl's Guide to Unconventional Sex

Get ready for the hottest homework of this season!

In this episode, the Wives report back on their sexy homework with Bondage.

But first, if summer shenanigans are making you feel run down, check out this episode's cocktail: the Bourbon Elixir. And trust us, you will want a drink in hand when you listen to Kat's hot tale, steamy foreplay with not one, not two, BUT THREE men.

Then, the Wives share their sexy homework with bondage, including a sexy foursome, Dom/sub play and the kink that cannot be named (...pssst, between you and I, it's a GANG BANG!!!)

Finally, it's Just the Tips for anyone who wants to explore bondage and restraint play.

Four popular types of restraints are: rope, binders, bondage tape and shackles.

Shackles/Cuffs– a great place to start.

Shackles refer to cloth, leather or metal ankle or wrist restraints.

They are easy to put on and do an excellent job of keeping your partner immobilized.

Rope– is super versatile, but a little tricky to use.

The material and type of rope matters. Cotton rope may be a good starting point, because it's softer on skin.

It can involve suspension. It can be paired with all kinds of other erotic play.

Can change the position of your body so you experience sensation differently.

Binders- Not for Bondage newbies.

The most common form of binders are arm binders, which completely immobilize the wearer's arms (unlike handcuffs which still give them a little bit of wiggle room).

Another option are leather leg binders, which keep the wearer from bending their knee or moving on their own.

Bondage Tape- If you are looking for sometime quick and pretty.

Unlike regular tape, it only sticks to itself. Not skin or hair Bondage tape can be used to create makeshift hand or ankle cuffs, to secure someone's hands, legs or almost any body part.

Safety note: with tape play, you need to be careful of nearby candles or heat of any kind. Some adhesives will become too sticky when heated, pulling the top layer of skin off when you go to remove the tape.

To get the low-down on all things Bondage, listen to Part 1 where the Wives interview Kayla Lords, cohost of the podcast Loving BDSM.

A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode! You can check out Abbey's podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.

WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT BONDAGE

Check out our Season 1 episode on Impact Play

Our two-part episode on Dungeons (Part 1 and Part 2)

And our BSDM Articles:

Five Myths about Impact Play

Your Sweet, Kinky, Embraceable You

Essential Items for a Home Dungeon.

UNDER THE BED RESTRAINTS

EVERYTHING BONDAGE KIT

SHIBARI ROPE

HITACHI WAND

MASSAGE TABLE

EYE SHADES

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Bondage: what was once considered a taboo, dangerous kink is now a commonplace sex act that you can find in many a suburban bedroom. But is restraint play for you? Tune in to find out.

Bondage, or restraint play, is a common sexual fantasy, but how can you safely make it into a very hot reality?

In this episode, the Wives discuss what bondage is (including some sexy past experiences), who restraint play is for, and how to safely play with different forms of restraints.

But first, cool off with a Summer Brazilian (no waxing necessary) while Ams shares her Hot Tale: a fantasy threesome with Peloton instructor Denis Morton. Spoiler-alert - Denis wasn't actually involved, but sometimes a little fantasy goes a long way in the bedroom (and the basement).

Then, the Wives define and explore some bondage basics.

Bondage is a form of kinky sex play that involves tying up, pinning down, or otherwise restraining a partner. It can be combined with other forms of BDSM play, such as impact play or orgasm control, or just used as a way to spice up an otherwise vanilla sexual experience.

Bondage was once considered very taboo and even a little dangerous: something that only Kinksters do in the privacy of their local sex dungeon. But if you check out the nightstand drawer of many a suburban mom, you just might find a blindfold and some cuffs.

Bondage has become a much more mainstream sexual activity (who didn't read Fifty Shades of Grey?), and it's actually quite accessible to the curious couple.

Four popular types of restraints are: rope, binders, bondage tape and shackles.

Shackles/Cuffs- a great place to start.

Shackles refer to cloth, leather or metal ankle or wrist restraints.

They are easy to put on and do an excellent job of keeping your partner immobilized.

Rope- is super versatile, but a little tricky to use.

The material and type of rope matters. Cotton rope may be a good starting point, because it's softer on skin.

It can involve suspension. It can be paired with all kinds of other erotic play.

Can change the position of your body so you experience sensation differently.

Binders- Not for Bondage newbies.

The most common form of binders are arm binders, which completely immobilize the wearer's arms (unlike handcuffs which still give them a little bit of wiggle room).

Another option are leather leg binders, which keep the wearer from bending their knee or moving on their own.

Bondage Tape- If you are looking for sometime quick and pretty.

Unlike regular tape, it only sticks to itself. Not skin or hair Bondage tape can be used to create makeshift hand or ankle cuffs, to secure someone's hands, legs or almost any body part.

Safety note: with tape play, you need to be careful of nearby candles or heat of any kind. Some adhesives will become too sticky when heated, pulling the top layer of skin off when you go to remove the tape.

To get the low-down on all things Bondage, the Wives interview Kayla Lords, cohost of the podcast Loving BDSM.

Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: Ams wants to be tied to the bed, spread eagle-style, while Mr. Ams applies some delicious torture. While Kat wants to take it up a notch with three sexy gentlemen (wait, isn't that called a gang bang???)

A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode! You can check out Abbey's podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.

Want to learn more about BDSM?

Check out our Season 1 episode on Impact Play

Our two-part episode on Dungeons (Part 1 and Part 2)

And our BSDM Articles:

Five Myths about Impact Play

Your Sweet, Kinky, Embraceable You

Essential Items for a Home Dungeon.

Were the Wives able to tap into some sexy pole dancing energy? Tune into Part 2 to find out!

In the last 20 years, pole dancing has become a mainstream fitness phenomenon and an excellent way for women to get in touch with their femininity and sensuality. If you are curious about whether pole dancing might be a fun activity to explore, this episode is a must listen!

But first, the temps are up, so the drinks get nice and cold: the Strawberry Rum Slushie requires some freeze time so make it now and then tune into this episode's Hot Tale: Kat finally gets to play with the one that got away at the Dirty Disney party.

Then, the Wives ice their bruises while recapping their Intro to Pole sessions.

Finally, it's Just the Tips for anyone who wants to explore pole dancing.

Pole dancing dates back to the 12th century in India and was originally practiced by mostly men, not women. It migrated over to the U.S. when exotic dancers from Egypt would perform as part of the traveling circus.

The sexual aspect of it was introduced when dancers would try to entice viewers to come see their shows by dancing erotically. It actually wasn't until the 1980s that pole dancing became synonymous with bars and strip clubs.

Pole Dancing combines dance and acrobatics centered on a vertical pole.

This performance art form takes place not only in strip clubs as erotic dance, but also as a mainstream form of fitness.

Amateur and professional pole dancing competitions are held in countries around the world.

Pole dance requires significant muscular endurance and coordination, as well as sensuality.

Today, pole performances by exotic dancers range from basic spins and striptease in more intimate clubs to athletic moves such as climbs, flips and body inversions.

Pole Dancing is mostly about upper body and core strength and proper instruction and training is necessary to prevent injuries.

Since the mid-2000s, promoters of pole dance fitness competitions have tried to change peoples' perception of pole dance to include pole fitness as a non-sexual form of dance and acrobatics and are trying to move pole into the Olympics as pole sports.

Recognized schools and qualifications are now commonplace.

Pole dancing enthusiasts are of all ages, it's never too late to get started.

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Check out our EVENTS PAGE, for a chance to meet the 2HotWives in person, including:

Desire Riviera Maya: August 2022

Bliss Cruise: November 2022

Keep checking back for new events.

In the last 20 years, pole dancing has become a mainstream fitness phenomenon and an excellent way for women to get in touch with their femininity and sensuality. If you are curious about whether pole dancing might be a fun activity to explore, this episode is a must listen!

But first, mix up this episode's sweet and simple cocktail, the Blackberry Lemonade, while Ams recounts some hot times on the Bliss Cruise.

Next, the Wives explore the history and benefits of pole dancing.

Pole dancing dates back to the 12th century in India and was originally practiced by mostly men, not women. It migrated over to the U.S. when exotic dancers from Egypt would perform as part of the traveling circus.

The sexual aspect of it was introduced when dancers would try to entice viewers to come see their shows by dancing erotically. It actually wasn't until the 1980s that pole dancing became synonymous with bars and strip clubs.

Pole Dancing combines dance and acrobatics centered on a vertical pole.

This performance art form takes place not only in strip clubs as erotic dance, but also as a mainstream form of fitness.

Amateur and professional pole dancing competitions are held in countries around the world.

Pole dance requires significant muscular endurance and coordination, as well as sensuality.

Today, pole performances by exotic dancers range from basic spins and striptease in more intimate clubs to athletic moves such as climbs, flips and body inversions.

Pole Dancing is mostly about upper body and core strength and proper instruction and training is necessary to prevent injuries.

Since the mid-2000s, promoters of pole dance fitness competitions have tried to change peoples' perception of pole dance to include pole fitness as a non-sexual form of dance and acrobatics and are trying to move pole into the Olympics as pole sports.

Recognized schools and qualifications are now commonplace.

Pole dancing enthusiasts are of all ages, it's never too late to get started.

For a ton of inspiration, the Wives interview 11-time world champion pole artist, Greta Pontarelli on what it was like to take up the art in her sixties and how she is still going strong into her seventies.

Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: off to the studio for some pole dancing 101.

Greta Pontarelli started with pole arts at age 59 and began competing by the time she turned 61. Greta competes all over the world and is an 11X World Pole Art Masters Champion (2013-2021). She has been on the covers of many international magazines and has also competed on the TV show "American Ninja Warrior" twice. At 71, she continues to compete and offer classes and workshops and is the artistic director at Arial Zen.

"I embrace art forms that allow our visionary gifts to flourish and for me, pole art fits the bill. It is an eclectic display of contemporary stage art that celebrates our unique artistry. It honors expressiveness and originality which allows fresh ideas to emerge and challenge us to become the best that we can become."

A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode! You can check out Abbey's podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.

First, start with the episode's cocktail, the Blackberry Peach Fizz while Kat updates us on her sexy play time with a single guy. If you dig a little upscale restraint play, this hot tale is for you.

Then, the Wives go deep on their journey toward Swolly.

Swolly is a form of ethical non-monogamy, where a couple is open to both polysexual and polyamory extramarital relationships.

Both Ams and Kat started their open marriage journey as "social swingers" with their husbands: they were looking for casual sexual experiences with other couples who were (or could be) friends, but emotionally intimate connections were off the table.

As time went on, a deeper connection developed between the Wives and their husbands, which led to a lot of excitement, but also a lot of drama. In this episode, the Wives discuss that struggle openly to each other for the first time.

Next, the Wives report back on their sexy homework: exploring independent dating and opening up to "the feels".

Finally, it's Just the Tips for anyone who wants to explore swolly.

Want to learn more about Polyamory? Check out our interview with Dr. Elisabeth Sheff, author of The Polyamorists Next Door.

The Monogamish Marriage

We Gotta Thing

Check out our EVENTS PAGE, for a chance to meet the 2HotWives in person, including:

Podcast a Palooza: June 2022

Desire Riviera Maya: August 2022

Bliss Cruise: November 2022

If you and your partner enjoy recreational sex and emotional intimacy, you might be Swolly!

Swolly is a form of consensual non-monogamy where a couple is open to both polysexual and polyamorous relationships. Are you Swolly? Tune in to find out.

But first, mix up a Tennessee Peach, this episode's sweet and sophisticated cocktail while Ams fan girls over Bridgerton and shares her hot tale of a total mindfuck with a smart and sexy new partner. Next, the Wives explore the difference between swinging and polyamory, including this middle ground of Swolly.

Swolly is a person who identifies as both a swinger and a member of the polyamorous community in that they have multiple relationships simultaneously and also enjoy recreational sex. The term is a portmanteau of the words swinger and polyamorous. Ken Haslam of the Kinsey Institute originally coined the term Swolly.

Here are some key components to Swolly:

• The foundation is a marriage/committed couple. That relationship takes precedence over all other polysexual and polyamorous relationships

• The couple is open to polysexual relationship and may seek out casual sexual encounters or sex with "friends" that don't involve deep connections.

• The couple is also open to polyamorous relationships that involve both physical and emotional intimacy.

• The level of intimacy can vary between relationships (some relationships are purely polysexual, polysexual with friendship, or polyamorous).

Polysexual relationships are less complicated and involve less commitment. You have a responsibility to make sure your partner is well taken care of during a sexual encounter (consent, pleasure, aftercare, the basic "camp-fire rule"), but you don't have responsibility toward that person outside of the sexual encounter. You might be friendly, you might be friends, that aspect might ebb and flow, but you don't have a responsibility to build on anything outside of the bedroom.

In Polyamorous relationships, you agree to share emotional intimacy, which means that you are committing to be an emotional support for this partner. These relationships can be more meaningful and rewarding, but also a lot of work.

To get a sexpert's opinion, the Wives interview Dr. Elisabeth "Eli", Sheff, expert witness, researcher, educator & relationship coach with expertise in polyamorous culture.

Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: The Wives and the Misters are going to explore more emotionally intimate relationships with some of their swinger friends, including solo dates and lots of talk about "feelings".

Dr. Elisabeth "Eli" Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date. Dr. Elisabeth "Eli" Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date.

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

We Gotta Thing Podcast

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Foreplay

Types of Non-Monogamy

Check out our EVENTS PAGE, for a chance to meet the 2HotWives in person, including:

Podcast a Palooza: June 2022

Desire Riviera Maya: August 2022

Bliss Cruise: November 2022

Keep checking back for new events.

WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT POLYAMORY?

Check out these articles and references:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/24402980-designer-relationships

https://affirmativecouch.com/polyamorous-relation

Did the 2HotWives succeed with their sexy homework on squirting? Tune in to Squirting Part 2 to find out. First, start with a pitcher of the episode's cocktail, Strawberry Mango Sangria. We suggest that you make it a day ahead to let the fruits infuse their flavor. Then, Kat recalls a particularly juicy hot tale while on the Bliss Cruise: a MFM threesome.

Then, the Wives share the ups and downs of their sexy homework: Ams takes the advice of sexpert Lola Jean and starts with masturbation, while Kat and Mr. Kat focus on lots of g-spot foreplay.

Finally, it's Just the Tips for anyone who wants to explore squirting, either solo or with a partner.

Did we wet your appetite for sexual exploration? Check out www.2hotwives.com for articles, advice, drink recipes and more.

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Wanderlust Swinger Podcast

Check out our EVENTS PAGE, for a chance to meet the 2HotWives in person, including:

Podcast a Palooza: June 2022

Desire Riviera Maya: August 2022

Bliss Cruise: November 2022

Keep checking back for new events.

Check out these articles and references if you are curious about female ejaculation.

https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a19971929/make-yourself-squirt/

https://www.verywellhealth.com/skene-gland-5207878

https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/squirting?c=392364918709

https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a27008344/how-to-make-a-woman-squirt/

https://helloclue.com/articles/sex/lets-talk-about-squirting-why-is-it-important-what-does-it-feel-like

https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-squirting-orgasm

https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/female-ejaculation

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6522945/

What's the big deal about squirting? Is it the same thing as female ejaculation? Does it always happen during orgasm? Can every woman squirt? Is squirt just pee? If someone gushes or dribbles, is that still considered squirting? What's squirt made up of anyway? The Wives answer these questions and more, including an interview with Lola Jean, the Squirting Queen.

But first, it's ORGY time!, Sip this episode's juicy cocktail, the Mango Rum Spritzer, while listening to both Wives share their favorite orgy experience with two super-hot couples in Mexico.

Next, the Wives bust some myths on squirting: no, it's not just pee, it doesn't always include orgasm, it comes from the urethra, not the vagina. And, despite what you see in porn, squirt doesn't necessarily shoot across the room!

To get a sexpert's opinion, the Wives interview Lola Jean, the world record holder in squirting volume.

Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: Kat and Mr. Kat are going to work on their g-spot stimulation techniques, while Ams schedules some "me" time to explore squirting: using a Womanizer Duo toy.

About Lola Jean

Lola Jean is a Sex Educator, Wrestler, Pro Domme, and World Record Holder for Volume Squirting (solo.) providing the No Frills Sex Education we both need and deserve. Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex, sexuality, and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of.

Mentioned in this Episode

Casual Toys - Womanizer Duo

Wanderlust Swinger Podcast

Travel with the 2HotWives!

PCAP

Desire

Bliss

Want to Learn More About Squirting?

https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a19971929/make-yourself-squirt/

https://www.verywellhealth.com/skene-gland-5207878

https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/squirting?c=392364918709

https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a27008344/how-to-make-a-woman-squirt/

https://helloclue.com/articles/sex/lets-talk-about-squirting-why-is-it-important-what-does-it-feel-like

https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-squirting-orgasm

https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/female-ejaculation

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6522945/

Should I keep my fantasies in my head or should we actually play them out? 2HotWives answer all your burning questions. In this episode, Ams and Kat take a deep dive into some of the topics that have been on your mind. The wives answer questions that cover lifestyle takeovers and clothing optional vacations, what atracts us to potential play partners and the chalenges that arise from being intimate with a close friend.

Finally, Ams and Kat reveal the biggest unexpected thing to come out of their lifestlye journeys.

Check out our website, with articles, bonus content, products we love and more.

Should I keep my fantasies in my head or should we actually play them out? 

2HotWives answer all your burning questions.  In this episode, Ams and Kat take a deep dive into some of the topics that have been on your mind. The wives answer questions that cover lifestyle takeovers and clothing optional vacations, what atracts us to potential play partners and the chalenges that arise from being intimate with a close friend. 

Finally, Ams and Kat reveal the biggest unexpected thing to come out of their lifestlye journeys.

Check out our website, with articles, bonus content, products we love and more.