In this episode, I want to talk about how doubt works in our subconscious mind and bodies and what is happening in the body and how we can work to shift it.  Self doubt is so powerful and it can stop us before we get started.  Self-doubt is one of the many faces of fear, whether the fear is being judged, rejected, or feeling like we are failing, and this only spirals the feelings of self-doubt.  It is a paralyzing feeling and experience. Over the next two solo episodes, I will dive deeper into doubt and give you tools for shifting the doubt and release the grip it has on you in your life.In this episode we discuss:

1) The increased feeling of self-doubt is often a sign that we are working to edge past our comfort zones.  It is the moment our ego steps in and says, “what are you actually thinking?”  All the old stories pop up fast and almost spiral us out of control.  If you are constantly apologizing or second guessing yourself, you are always feeding the doubt and this is likely a pattern you have repeated many times over in your life. 

 

2) Start by recognizing that our fear isn’t real. We are not our fear, it is not our identity.  It is our ego’s way of planning ahead into the future and protecting us from pain, discomfort, failure or growth. The root of self-doubt is fear and doubt actually means to hesitate or waiver. Our brain hates uncertainty, and this is actually one of the most consistent things we experience.  Change is the only constant. 3) Just because we feel fear doesn't mean we have to react to it.  We can change the fear when we change our response to it.  We are feeding it or feeding our future possibilities. Feeding the doubt and fear of what the future might look like is useless energy since it will only come to be a reality if we actually move. 4) The amygdala center in our brain releases cortisol and adrenaline throughout our body at the first initial thoughts of fear. Once the amygdala triggers the flow of stress hormones your body is experiencing in a similar fashion as if you were being chased by a tiger. One of the only ways to change this is to consciously bring attention to it (subconscious and conscious brain), when we bring our conscious attention to it, this is activating our frontal cortex, this is the higher order thinking or decision making part of our brain and when we consciously activate it, it cuts the roof of our fear.  It becomes the roadblock to break the pattern. 

5) So it all starts with awareness and understanding that we can change this process immediately by bringing awareness to it.  I am sharing the example of planting a seed into the ground, how we can prepare the environment for success, and how we can never see the germination process, but it is happening. 

 

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.