This week we are taking listener’s questions.

Today’s question: I need to set boundaries with my overbearing mother who is just trying to help, however she is affecting the relationship I have with my husband. 

Answer: You are relationally aware. You recognize the effect it has on the relationship with your husband. You do understand that she is simply trying to help. You also know you do not like how it is affecting you. 

What have you tried? Have you tried to mitigate her impact? Have you been direct, or were you a little more subtle? Now you feel like you don’t know what to do?

There is not an easy answer to this. You will have to try again to get her to understand how you feel. If none of these work, you will need to decide what the limit is.

Your job as your husband’s partner is to keep up your end of the bargain and keep him secure in the couple bubble. You and he are comfortable in the couple bubble, but is she taking energy out or putting negative energy in the bubble. You have to set the limit with your mother. 

This is an issue you need to try and work this out with your mother and take your husband out of the equation. This is the time for you to set your limit with her and stick to it. 

This is not an issue with you and your mother. This is an issue with your relationship. Do not throw your partner under the bus. 

 

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