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Dating doesn’t have to feel like a guessing game. We break down five clear red flags every Christian should watch for and show how trusting God, not the crowd, changes who you choose and how you choose. From spiritual alignment to character under pressure, we pull back the curtain on the patterns that predict a healthy marriage—or a painful one.

We start with the heart of it all: if someone pulls you away from God, isolates you from church, or mocks spiritual disciplines, that’s not love. Then we zoom into teachability and accountability—because an uncorrectable person becomes unleadable when life gets hard. We tackle dishonesty and secrecy, the silent killers that cloud conversations and erode peace. You’ll hear why watching how a date treats servers, coworkers, and family reveals who they are when no one’s grading their performance. And we unpack the cost of a partner with no vision or direction, plus how mismatched goals, theology, and values create constant friction.

Along the way, we challenge the myth that romance equals readiness. Infatuation is effortless; mature love is built on aligned values, shared purpose, and honest dialogue. So we trade surface talk for deeper questions: money habits, family history, conflict style, faith convictions, and life vision. We also invite community into the process—mentors, pastors, and trusted friends who can spot the warning signs you might miss. To close, we share five practical discernment keys: pray before you play, ask trusted voices, observe not excuse, look for fruit, and follow the Holy Spirit’s peace.

If you’re single, this is a guide to date with clarity and courage. If you’re advising someone you love, it’s a toolkit for wise counsel. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and tell us: which red flag or discernment key are you adding to your non-negotiables today?

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