Today’s listener question: How do I rebuild trust when my boyfriend of one year has been hiding stuff from me? 

Answer: Rebuilding trust is challenging. It will take both of you, not him and not only you. Communication is key. First remember to have a thriving relationship, you will have to have trust. Regardless of the cause of the betrayal, it is painful.  

You are going to experience two different things, sense making and safety seeking. You are going to try and find safety because of the pain you feel. You also are going to attempt to make sense of what has happened. 

You will need them to atone for their betrayal. You will want to hear multiple apologies and feel true remorse for their behavior. What actions are they doing to build your trust?

Next is the attunement phase. This is where you get back in tune with one another.

Lastly, you should go into the attachment phase. This is where you are moving forward in a healthy relationship. 

 

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