Today’s listener question: How do I foster more connection with my avoidant attachment partner?

Answer: Avoidant attachment is a style of insecure attachment where you don’t get the nurturing, connection or needs you are seeking. These can start at a very early age, even as an infant. This could also be caused by an overbearing parent not allowing the child to grow, learn without their input or action. 

People who have this avoidant attachment style tend to pull away when their partner is seeking attention. They tend to struggle with high levels of intimacy and closeness. 

In a relationship where you are seeking intimacy they may become anxious. They are fond of independence. It is natural for them to pull away. You may become anxious and chase them which exacerbates the problem. 

You have to recognize the issue and strategies for finding a safer environment for both. When they pull away, you  have to stay calm and make them feel safe. You also have to decide what you need from them and tell them. Set your boundaries and be very clear what you need.  

 

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