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58. Unmet Needs: The Real Reason You Feel Angry

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Have you ever felt angry and wondered why? In today’s episode of The Own It Podcast, I’m breaking down how unmet needs fuel anger and what you can do to get to the root of it. This is what we’re going after in this episode:

  • Why anger shows up so often in everyday life — with kids, spouses, or even yourself
  • The difference between primary emotions (fear, sadness, joy, etc.) and secondary emotions like anger
  • How anger usually masks deeper feelings like fear, hurt, sadness, or shame
  • The connection between anger and unmet needs
  • Why your needs have to be about you, not about changing someone else
  • A framework for understanding core human needs using the acronym SCRIPT:


    • Safety + Security
    • Connection + Belonging
    • Rest, Recovery, Autonomy, Play
    • Identity + Esteem
    • Purpose + Significance
    • To Be Seen, Known, Loved
    • What happens when needs go unmet — anxiety, resentment, disconnection, even shutdown
    • How to begin identifying and communicating your needs in a healthy way
    • Why meeting your needs is trial and error, and how to stay curious in the process

      • Anger isn’t the end of the story. It’s a signal pointing you to a deeper feeling and a real need. When you start naming those needs, you’ll find clarity, connection, and a way to thrive in every season and every relationship!

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