September 19, 2025

58. Unmet Needs: The Real Reason You Feel Angry

40 minutes

Have you ever felt angry and wondered why? In today’s episode of The Own It Podcast, I’m breaking down how unmet needs fuel anger and what you can do to get to the root of it. This is what we’re going after in this episode:

Why anger shows up so often in everyday life — with kids, spouses, or even yourself

The difference between primary emotions (fear, sadness, joy, etc.) and secondary emotions like anger

How anger usually masks deeper feelings like fear, hurt, sadness, or shame

The connection between anger and unmet needs

Why your needs have to be about you, not about changing someone else

A framework for understanding core human needs using the acronym SCRIPT:

Safety + Security

Connection + Belonging

Rest, Recovery, Autonomy, Play

Identity + Esteem

Purpose + Significance

To Be Seen, Known, Loved

What happens when needs go unmet — anxiety, resentment, disconnection, even shutdown

How to begin identifying and communicating your needs in a healthy way

Why meeting your needs is trial and error, and how to stay curious in the process

Anger isn’t the end of the story. It’s a signal pointing you to a deeper feeling and a real need. When you start naming those needs, you’ll find clarity, connection, and a way to thrive in every season and every relationship!

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