The Art of We

61. How To Love Your Partner Through The Holiday Season


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Welcome to Episode 61 of The Art of the Podcast! In this second-to-last episode of the year, Krista and Will delve into practical practices that can provide support to our partners during family gatherings and social events, especially during the darker time of the year. Released on the solstice, this episode aims to bring more light into your relationships during the festive season.

You’ll hear specific practices that Krista and Will have found effective in navigating stress and triggers during the holiday season. From pre-planning for events to understanding our partner’s subtle stress signals, their practical tips provide a roadmap for fostering a more secure and connected partnership, enhancing the holiday experience for you and your loved one.

Krista and Will invite you to venture into the realm of creating new, elevated experiences within your relationship. Discover the transformative power of embracing fresh perspectives during challenging circumstances, particularly in the context of family gatherings and social events during the holiday season.

Main Topics Covered:

  • The impact of family history on behavior during holiday gatherings and the ways in which certain memories and patterns can automatically surface.
  • Pre-Gaming with your partner before potentially challenging family or social events, discussing potential triggers and creating a game plan for support.
  • Understanding how different parts of your personality can contribute to less effective communication and support in moments of stress.
  • Tracking signals and non-verbal cues from your partner, allowing for proactive support and intervention in real time. 
  • A relationship agreement  (turned marriage vow) that helps to protect each other, not only in public and private, but also from themselves. 

Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. 

Resources Mentioned: 

  • The Art Of We - Our Top 10 Relationship Agreements 
  • Dick Schwartz and Internal Family Systems (Parts Work)
  • Stan Tatkin

Get in Touch: 

  • The Art Of We Website
  • The Art of We Instagram 
  • Integrative Psychiatry Institute: Integrative Mental Wellness & Psychedelic Therapy Training

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